Sunday, May 15, 2016

Soul Sunday


10 Ways To Life Your Spirits During Rough Times

1. Picture your life a month from today.

You will overcome your problems and your life will go back to normal, but most of the time it won’t happen overnight. It helps to have a long term perspective to get detached from the overwhelming stress of today.

Fast forward a month from now. Think about you living a happy, normal life again. It will lift up your spirit, and in no time you’ll be living there once more.

2. Create a peaceful space for yourself.

Your environment matters.

The last thing you want when you are under stress is to sit at a sad-looking desk with piles of paper and clutter. When you are surrounded by chaos, you add unnecessary stress to your life. If you create a peaceful space around you, you’ll be able to breathe deeply and relax more easily.

So even if you feel like you have no time, spend fifteen minutes to put stuff away and create a quiet surrounding. You won’t regret it.

3. Remove yourself from negative, draining conversations.

It’s impossible to isolate yourself from “negative people,” all the time. We all have hard days and get a little negative every now and then. When you’re having a rough week, it might be tempting to fall into that self-pitying place. Increase your odds of maintaining a positive mindset by avoiding negative, emotionally draining conversations.

Don’t let negativity suck up all your energy. You’ll end up in a depressive conversation, and your day will go further south.

4. Celebrate your small wins.

When you are in the middle of a storm, it may be a while till you have a big win. But you can celebrate the small things and lift up your spirit.

It may be a task accomplished, a good report, or that you took the high road when somebody criticized you. Purposely find the small things that made you proud of yourself throughout the day. Make a mental note about them.

Reflect on your small wins and let that cheer up your weary spirit.

5. Selfishly set your limits.

You are ultimately responsible for your own well-being. Nobody will care about you the way you do. You know when you are reaching exhaustion better than anybody else. You need to start saying no, way before you reach your limit.

Be selfish about your time. When you see a stormy week on the horizon, it’s time to cancel all the nice-to-do things that snuck into your calendar (unless it’s something that would refresh your soul).

6. Make someone delightfully happy.

Something interesting happens when you focus on somebody else’s happiness. When you make someone else happy, it comes back to you.

You’ve experienced that before. Maybe you wrote someone a heartfelt note, or you put a special effort in giving someone a present. And they loved it! That act of love and kindness filled your heart the way nothing else would have.

So think about calling a friend to tell them how much you appreciate them, or taking a break to invite someone you love for dinner. It will transform your week, and it might brighten their week, as well.

7. Wake up twenty minutes earlier.

It may seem counter intuitive, because of course you want to sleep as much as you can. But you’ve got to trust me on this one. The first hour of your day sets the mood for the whole day. If you start your day having to rush to wherever you are going, things will go downhill from there.

On crazy weeks you are already on edge, so don’t push yourself even more. Instead wake up a little earlier. Get ready and have breakfast slowly. Don’t rush. Your peace during the first hour of your day will go a long way.

8. Accept the imperfect.

When your life feels like a sinking boat, it’s the wrong time to insist on every detail being perfect.  Of course, some things will need to be finished perfectly, but many others won’t.

Is dinner slightly overcooked? Then nobody will get food poisoning. Your shoes don’t match your outfit? Unless you are the editor of Elle Magazine, nobody will care.

You only have twenty-four hours a day, but now your plate is much fuller than last week. You need to accept some things won’t be accomplished the way you’d like them to be.

Be kind to yourself and let some high standards slide.

9. Lean on an authentic friend.

It’s hard to be an objective observer when you are going through tough times. Having a good friend, spouse, sibling, parent, co worker, whomever it may be to help you is invaluable.

You have to be careful selecting this friend. If you find yourself getting more and more depressed when you are talking to your friend, you should stop talking to him or her for now.

You need a friend that can listen and sympathize with you, and at the same time help you get out of the hole.

10. Focus on your awesomeness.

It’s hard to see ourselves through a positive lens in the middle of a storm. But you haven’t changed. If anything, you are growing stronger and more resilient during tough times.  You need to remind yourself about your amazing qualities.

List them. Ask your best friend to help you. Keep them in front of you at all times. Because that’s the true you, not the overwhelmed, stressed out version you see in the mirror.

You Can Stay Happy Even During Crushing Times

It’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you are going through the valleys of life.  You wish life were always good. But tough times are inevitable.  They will happen every so often, even if you put your best foot forward to try to avoid them.

So, sooner or later, you’ll need to learn how to stay happy in the middle of a storm. The pay off is astronomical. Your heart and mind will thank you.

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