Sunday, March 13, 2016

Soul Sunday

Sometimes the soul can get overwhelmed by stress. Here are some enlightening ways to let go of any stress that may be weighing your soul down.

1. Consider getting a pet.

Sharing negative feelings with close friends can significantly reduce stress. Studies show that spending time with pets relieves stress in the same way. Also, when you’re accompanied by a pet in stressful situations, it prevents your stress level from rising.

If you don’t have a pet, consider getting one. It may change your life in surprising ways.
2. Stop dwelling on your problems.

Kant State University had an eye opening discovery. Apparently, the more you talk about your problems, the more you’re likely to suffer from depression.

Of course, it’s healthy to share what you’re going through. But when you’re mindlessly dwelling on your problems, it doesn’t solve anything. Try to actively seek solutions instead of blindly mulling over things that could stress me out.

If you’re fortunate to have supportive friends, do seek their support. What’s important is that you don’t just whine about your difficulties, but actually act.

 3. Shower yourself with gifts.

You’re being brutally hard on yourself. You take success for granted. Worse, you exaggerate failure. When you’ve reached a goal, you move on nonchalantly. If you don’t, you torment yourself mentally. You scold, devalue, and deprive yourself.

Reward yourself for reaching goals. Research shows that when you’re rewarded for an action, you’re likely to repeat it. This is called a positive feedback loop. It’s much more effective than punishment.

If you gain stress from failure, without happiness from success, the only outcome is stress. If you earn happiness from success, without stress from failure, the only outcome is happiness.

 4. Exploit bad habits to your advantage.

Don't run away from problems. Escapism may entail over eating, indulging in unhealthy foods, TV, Internet, porn, smoking, and drinking. Over time, they form destructive habits. Exploit escapism by using it as an anchor.

Pick healthy alternatives, such as meditation, stretching, listening to motivational talks, napping, or light exercises. Before you escape, do thirty seconds of an alternative first.

Say you’re angry with your partner. You think you need to eat some junk food to calm down. Before that, meditate for thirty seconds. Then you’re free to indulge. Do this for two months. Then increase good habit time weekly, until the good habit completely drowns out the bad.

This way, you build new automatic responses to stress and break the escapist habits completely.

 5. Unleash your anger (and cry yourself to sleep).

Don’t always try to appear perfectly calm. You need to express difficult emotions—anger, for example. Discuss your frustration with friends. Journal your rage and analyze it objectively on paper. You can even confront the object of frustration assertively.

Remember to release your anger under control. Don’t throw tantrums or yell impulsively. Express it as a means of problem solving. This applies to other difficult emotions, as well, like sadness. It’s healthy to express these “negative” emotions.

 6. Reach great heights by letting yourself suck big time.

Learn to accept the negatives. Some people cannot accept mistakes. Everything has to be perfect from the start. They think others will look down on them if they appear to be flawed. These people are frequently stressed.

The happiest and most successful people focus on improvement. They love mistakes and flaws, because they see them as opportunities to grow. Learn from these people.

Have lofty goals, but have realistic standards. Don’t judge yourself based on the results of your action. See them as feedback, and seek improvement from there.

 7. Be shameless about not doing things.

You don’t have the time and energy to do everything you want to do. Inevitably, things are left undone, and you beat yourself up. This creates stress.

Consider what’s truly important to you. This way, you gain more time and control over your life while making more progress. Focus on a few things that are really important to you.

8. Declare war on useless crap.

Clear up your spaces where you live and work. It will help make you feel more relaxed, concentrated, and in control. Psychologists found that clutter competes for your attention and overloads your brain. This makes you stressed and even damages your ability to think.

Trash this useless crap ruthlessly. Begin with discarding one item per day, for two months. It’s easy, and it trains you to detach emotionally from your possessions. Later, you can expand to junk more items daily.

 9. Learn how to use your body wisely.

Try to keep your back straight and try to appear confident. Why? Because posture has a direct relationship with your mood and behavior. When you position your body in a natural and comfortable way, you feel less stressed.

Also, when you appear confident, you feel more powerful and in control. Confidence balances out stress. Read books on correct posture and body language. These skills not only reduce stress reliably, they also keep your body healthy.

 10. Extract everything from your overloaded head.

When your mind is overloaded, you feel agitated, you malfunction, and then you collapse.

Extract all your mind clutter in one place, out of your head. Observe your thoughts for five to fifteen minutes, and let information resurface from your mind. You’ll be surprised how much stuff pops up. Things you have to do, things you’re waiting to do, open loops, creative ideas, long-term plans, and many more.

Write down everything as soon as they come up, no matter how trivial they may seem. This helps organize your life and clears even the smallest mind clutter. When you can see everything on paper, you’ll find them more actionable. Life becomes less overwhelming.

11. Learn from the Chinese: the spectator’s eyes.

Stressed people are masters at exaggeration. They magnify every little problem.  You can’t see the big picture when you are caught up inside a problem. Then you begin to exaggerate and freak out.

A Chinese saying goes, “The spectator’s eyes are always clear.” Ask a friend for his honest opinion on your problems. This will likely help you recognize when something truly isn’t a big deal. Learn from spectators, and analyze your problems objectively. Then you can see problems as they are, and act wisely.

 12. Laugh: meet apocalypse with humor.

Watch comedies they give a brief escape from my stressors. Visualize these scenarios: bombing a job interview, getting fired, being unemployed, getting robbed, getting sued, getting rejected by the opposite sex. Disasters. But they’re all funny in comedies. There’s something funny in every problem.

Maybe you burned your food. Maybe you dropped your phone into the toilet. Have a laugh!

Once you can do this, you’ll completely turn your perspective around. You’ll see the positive in every situation, and face problems happily.

 This Second, You Can Transform Stress Into Happiness

It’s not impossible. Many people have done it. Pick one lesson that looks appealing to you, do some research on it, then act. You’ve let stress dominate you long enough. Now is the time to live differently.

Do you want to stay crippled by stress? Or do you want to turn life into happiness? The choice is yours.

A beautiful moment.:

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