Sunday, May 31, 2015

Soul Sunday

When life is “falling apart,” it could actually be falling together… for the very first time.  Which is why it feels so darn uncomfortable.  Consider that what’s in front of you may be serving you in valuable ways you don’t even understand right now.
 
People and circumstances will occasionally break you down.  But if you keep your mind focused, your heart open to love, and continue to put one foot in front of the other, you can recover the pieces, rebuild, and come back much stronger and happier than you ever would have been otherwise.
 
Seven ways to stay strong when everything goes wrong.
 

1.  Fully accept the reality of what is.

You cannot find peace by avoiding life.  Life spins with unexpected changes every hour; so instead of avoiding it, take every change and experience as a challenge for growth.  Either it will give you what you want or it will teach you what the next step is.
 
Finding peace and happiness in life does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, no challenges, and no hard work.  It means to be in the midst of those things while remaining calm in your heart.  It’s about letting go of the pictures in your head about how things were “supposed to be.”
Of course, this isn’t easy – it will be an ongoing struggle.  But it’s infinitely easier than continuing to fight to conform your life to some antiquated delusion.  It’s an infinitely more satisfying journey as well.  When it’s working, when you can detach from those old images, there is peace, there is beauty, and there is happiness.
 
Honestly, life is too short to spend at war with yourself.  The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations.  Letting go of needless expectations is your first step to happiness.  Come from a mindset of peace and acceptance, and you can deal with almost anything and grow beyond it.
 

2.  Remind yourself that everything in life is temporary.

Every time it rains, it stops raining.  Every time you get hurt, you heal.  After darkness there is always light – you are reminded of this every morning, but still you often forget, and instead choose to believe that the night will go on forever.  It won’t.  Nothing lasts.
 
So if things are good right now, enjoy it.  It won’t last forever.  If things are bad, don’t worry because it won’t last forever either.  Just because life isn’t easy at the moment, doesn’t mean you can’t laugh.  Just because something is bothering you, doesn’t mean you can’t smile.  Every moment gives you a new beginning and a new ending.  You get a second chance, every second.  You just have to take it and make the best of it.  (Read The Last Lecture.)

3.  Push yourself to take another step, and another, no matter what.

After studying the lives of many successful people, I’m convinced that about half of what separates successful people from everyone else is pure perseverance.  In a culture that seeks quick results, we must learn the beauty of effort, patience and perseverance.  Be strong, present and steadfast.
 
The most beautiful smiles are usually the ones that struggled through the tears. Because breakdowns often lead to breakthroughs in the end.  Every mistake, heartbreak and loss contains its own solution, its own subtle lesson on how to improve your performance and outcome next time.  Thus, the most reliable way to predict the future is to create it yourself.  Participate in life today instead of just watching it pass you by.  Don’t let the few things that are out of your control interfere with the infinite assortment of things you can control.
 
The truth is we all lose sometimes.  The greater truth is that no single loss ever defines us.  Learn from your trials.  Grow wiser.  Press on.
 
In the end, good things don’t come to those who wait; good things come to those who are patient… while working hard, through good times and bad, for what they want most in life.  It’s about courage.  It’s about being scared to death and then taking the next step anyway.
 

4.  Use positivity, rather than letting negativity use you.

There may not be an obvious reason to be positive today, but you don’t need a reason.  Being positive is a strategy, not a response.  The most powerful time to be positive is precisely when everything around you is not so positive.
 
Happiness in the long run is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them.  Raise your awareness to your own inner strength and positivity.  You are in charge of how you react to the people and events in your life.  You can either give negativity power over your life, or you can choose to be positive instead by focusing on the great things that are truly important.  So talk about your blessings more than you talk about your problems today.
 
In other words, don’t wait for a reason to be positive.  Choose to be positive about your situation, about your possibilities, and about what you can do to move forward from here.  Instead of looking for reasons to be positive, look for ways to express your positive vision.  Work to make your life resonate with that vision, and enjoy all the rewarding outcomes you create.  (Read The Happiness Advantage.)
 

5.  Focus on making tiny fixes.

Don’t build mountains in your mind.  Don’t try to conquer the world all at once.  When you seek instant gratification (big, quick fixes) you make life unnecessarily painful and frustrating.  When you choose instead to treat each moment as an opportunity to make a tiny, positive investment in yourself, the rewards come naturally.
 
When everything is broken, it’s easy to find plenty of little things you can fix.  When nothing seems to be going right, even the most fundamental positive effort can make a significant difference.  Times of great adversity are also times of great opportunity.  When there are problems in every direction, there is also great value waiting to be created.  When everything is going well, it’s easy to get lulled into a routine of complacency.  It’s easy to forget how incredibly capable and resourceful you can be.  Resolve to persevere by making tiny fixes every day.  It’s these minor tweaks that take you from where you are to where you want to be in the long run.
 
Small steps, little leaps, and tiny fixes (very small repetitive changes) every day will get you there, through thick and thin.
 

6.  Look for something small to appreciate.

You may not have what you want, and you may be very hurt, but you still have more than enough to appreciate right now.  Epicurus once said, “Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”  Meditate on this quote when life seems unfair.
 
Remember that being positive in a negative situation is not naive; it’s a sign of leadership and strength.  You’re doing it right when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead.  So don’t pray for the big miracles and forget to give thanks for the ordinary, simple, and yet not-so-small gifts in your life.  It may seem strange to feel thankful for those events in your life that appear to be ordinary, yet it’s precisely by being thankful that you can transform the ordinary into the extraordinary.
 
Think about it: What if you woke up tomorrow with only the things you were thankful for today?
Think of all the beauty that still remains around you, notice it and smile.
 
At the end of the day, it’s not happiness that makes us thankful, but thankfulness that makes us happy.  Showing appreciation for the good things you have is the most powerful happiness boosting activity there is.
 

7.  Give yourself the extra attention you need and deserve.

Resisting and ignoring your own feelings and emotions does not serve you.  It leads to stress, illness, confusion, broken relationships, fits of anger and bouts of deep, dark depression.  Anyone who’s experienced any of the above knows that these states of mind are horrifically unhealthy… and when you’re in the habit of self-neglect, it’s near impossible to escape.
 
You have to admit, to a certain extent, you have spent too much of your life trying to shrink yourself.  Trying to become smaller.  Quieter.  Less sensitive.  Less opinionated.  Less needy.  Less YOU.  Because you didn’t want to be too much or push people away.  You wanted to fit in.  You wanted people to like you.  You wanted to make a good impression.  You wanted to be wanted.
So for years, you sacrificed yourself for the sake of making other people happy.  And for years, you suffered.
 
But you’re tired of suffering, and you’re done shrinking.  Right?  Good!
 
It’s not your job to change who you are in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being.  You are worthwhile.  Not because other people think you are, but because you are breathing your own air, and therefore you matter.  Your thoughts matter.  Your feelings matter.  Your voice matters.  And with or without anyone’s approval or permission, you must be who you are and live your truth.  Even if it makes people turn their heads.  Even if it makes them uncomfortable.  Even if they choose to leave.
 
Refuse to shrink.  Choose to take up lot of space in your own life.  Choose to give yourself permission to meet your own needs.  Choose to honor your feelings and emotions.  Choose to make self-care a top priority…
 
Remember that everyone suffers in life at some point.  Everyone feels lost sometimes.  The key is using your experiences to grow, inch by inch.  When you apply what you’re learning to your future choices and actions, you move forward not backward.  You become stronger and wiser.  It’s not easy, but it’s worth it in the end.
 
"The best kind of people are the ones that come into your life, and make you see the sun where you once saw clouds. The people that believe in you so much, you start to believe in you too. The people that love you, simply for being you. The once in a lifetime kind of people." - Unknown
 Soul Sunday inspiration from Marc Chernoff.

Friday, May 29, 2015

Thoughts on Living With Chronic Conditions

Living with a chronic condition or illness is tough.  Admitting you even have one is equally as tough. No one wants to be seen inferior or weak because of it, yet often our society has a way of judging people like that.  Creating labels where they aren't necessary.  Fact is there isn't a person on this earth without some kind of issue, problem or imperfection.

I've always hated labels as I feel they trap people into believing that's all they are.  When in reality each of us has so many various components that make up who we are.  Yes one might suffer from a chronic condition or illness but that's not all of who they are or what defines them.  Truth is none of us can or should be defined as one thing it's too limiting considering all the possibilities within each of us.  Not to mention life changes daily, and I believe we all have that same capacity to change as well. 

And maybe that's why I don't like to talk about the dizziness, or even the heart stuff, as I don't want it to define me.  Don't want to give it any more attention than it already gets. Don't want it to be used against me which I've learned not so nice and spiteful people are certainly capable of.  I don't want to be seen as the girl who suffers from dizziness but instead for all the other amazing things I have to offer the world.  Feel like focusing on the negatives some how gives it more power, so try desperately to focus on the positive.

But maybe I need to find a balance too.  Because maybe my story might help someone else, maybe it might make someone else feel less alone with what they are experiencing or even suffering?  Because trust me when you suffer from any kind of physical ailment it's really hard for others to understand unless they themselves have experienced it.  Which can leave one feeling very alone and isolated at times.  Finding others who experience the same thing can be comforting in some kind of odd way.

The other night I had a horrific dizzy spell. It felt horrible, it scared me and I felt so helpless. So many times I have wanted to write about them, to share what I'm feeling in those moments.  The fear, pain, suffering that such spells bring. But I hold it in for reasons I'm not sure why.  Maybe I don't want to be seen as a complainer, or weak, don't want people to feel sorry for me or maybe it's just I don't want to talk about something that feels so personal?  It's hard for people to understand what another experiences or goes through without experiencing it first hand.

In those scary moments the thought that so often comes to mind is why me?  And the why's can really destroy you because the answers aren't there.  Questioning the why's of life can only lead down a path of more frustration with no more understanding than you started with. For me in such moments I always find myself questioning life.  If there is a God why does he allow people, or even animals to suffer?  That's the million dollar question I suppose.  Honestly hate that I even question it, yet it's hard not to when in the midst of any kind of difficult or painful moment in life.

The dizziness has kept me from doing much of what I wanted to do this week, including blog.  In those moments I despise what it has done to me and my life. Yet I feel guilty complaining or talking about it because I'm sure there is someone out there experiencing even worse things.

It's in those same moments that wish I had a few people in my life that just understood how hard it can be.  To just step in without even being asked and help me accomplish what I might need to but can't at that exact moment.  I'm not comfortable with having to ask for help because there is also a deeply independent side that doesn't want to have to depend on anyone.  What has been most disappointing is letting my guard down to ask for help and then having it refused or given a hard time because I'm asking. 

When the dizzy spells first started I never imagined the affect they would have on my life.  Nor the ways they would limit some of my dreams and goals.  To say it's been tough would be an understatement. What started out as some dizzy spells especially while using the computer morphed into something big, scary and powerful.  Leaving profound affects on everything.  It's not only the dizziness but I also have an heart issue as well.  The two combined are really hard to deal with some days.

The negatives seem easy to point out....holding me back from my dreams, causing me to settle for things I would have never settled for had I not the dizziness, creating a rather helpless feeling, make me feel as if I'm missing out on life, preventing me from doing things I love, the worst is the spells leave me feeling horrible; and that's just a few sure I'm leaving out plenty of others.

Yet also have to admit there have been positive....making me appreciate life more especially the small things,  learning what's truly important and what's not, it has taught me to be more accepting, compassionate, loving and understanding; made me less judgmental and superficial, it brought a clarity of sorts about life and people, led me to a deeper spiritual life, given me a completely different perspective on life. Even brought new interests and hobbies into my world.

So I suppose everything has a balance of some sort.  Maybe it has prevented me from doing a lot and living the life I desired or dreamed, yet maybe it has allowed me to become or grow into a better soul in some ways?  Maybe it's true that some of life's best lessons are learned at the worst times. Of course we have to be and stay open to the lessons, willing to change as well.

I don't have all the answers that's for sure.  What I do know though is sharing our stories and thoughts is good. Talking about anything openly, with no judgmental opens the door to solutions and even resolutions.  It's only in learning the truth about people that we can truly connect with them.  Life is short there is no time to leave important words unsaid.

As for the dizziness looks like it's sticking around so guess it's something I'm going to have to learn to live with.  But it's just a part of me along with the other million things that make me who I am.  Maybe we can all keep that in mind about others as well.

Don't know where I even know wanted to go with this post other than to just say that every condition has it's positives and negatives. That people don't want to be labeled by just one thing. And that never judge another until you have walked in their shoes. 

There are many times I have to remind myself to stay patient, to some how trust the journey.  To just live every moment as best I can and appreciate the beauty of life.  Think the beauty is there if we just learn to feel and see it.

 Romans 12:12

Sunday, May 24, 2015

Soul Sunday

Here are some motivational quotes and tips for the hard times in life when you need a quick dose of inspiration.
 

1.  Accepting Life’s Challenges

“The brick walls are there for a reason.  The brick walls are not there to keep us out.  The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something.  Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough.  They’re there to stop the other people.”
–Randy Pausch
In every life there are great challenges, and in every challenge there are great doses of life to be lived.
Whether you judge a challenge to be a problem or an opportunity says more about you than about the challenge itself.  The way you choose to see the world is the way your world will be.  This is what gives life its magic; it’s a continuous, dynamic phenomenon that becomes exactly what you choose to make it.
 
Do something extraordinary.  Accept life’s opportunities.  Realize that if you never step up to a challenge that’s a bit over your head, you’ll never know how tall you truly are.  Rise to each challenge and continue adding value to the ever-growing possibilities that await your brilliance.
 

2.  Working Hard

“There are no shortcuts to any place worth going.”  –Beverly Sills
When you’re young you have this fantasy that super successful adults – writers, musicians, doctors, businessmen, etc. – have some kind of magical chest of tools allowing them to build masterpieces that are larger than life.  You fanaticize about a hammer of creativity, a pliers of efficiency, a saw of wisdom, and so on and so forth.
 
But then you grow up and you realize, for the most part, everyone is working with the same set of imperfect, rusty, old tools – desire, commitment, honesty, kindness, love, persistence, etc.  And as flawed and bent as they may be, they work wonders against the odds when you truly put them to the test.  Read The Success Principles.
 

3.  Choosing Wisely

“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”  –J.K. Rowling
The universe – people, books, life experience, etc. – can only give you good advice, but you ultimately decide what to do with it.
 
Life is ticking away every second.  The worst thing is spending your entire life drowning slowly and not being able to convince yourself that you are in full control, and that you can easily save yourself by simply standing up.
 
This is your life, made up entirely of your choices, your actions, your thoughts, your relationships, etc.  Someday you will either decide to save yourself or remain unsaved forever.
 

4.  Growing from Problems

“That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”  –Friedrich Nietzsche
Times of great difficulty are times of great opportunity.  These times may not seem ideal at first, but they usually provide keen insight into ideas of great value.  When you are surrounded by problems, you are simultaneously given an opportunity to provide valuable solutions.
 
When times are good and everything is comfortably in order, it’s easy to become complacent and forget how skillful and resourceful you are capable of being.  Troubled times are necessary evils that push you forward, because they eventually end, and the lessons and strengths you gain from them last a lifetime.
 

5.  Laughing it Off

“Sometimes crying or laughing are the only options left, and laughing feels better right now.”  –Veronica Roth
If you wish to measure your success in life, don’t bother analyzing your bank account, or your job description, or your relationship status, or your weight, or any other superficial badge society loves to pin on your resume.  Just count the moments you spend peacefully in laughter.  That’s what success is – living happily in your own way, and laughing at the highs, the lows, and all the ridiculous moments in between.
 
Do what you need to do, but don’t take yourself too seriously.  Laugh whenever you can because you can.  There’s honestly nothing like deep breaths after a good chuckle – nothing in the whole wide world like a sore tummy and cheeks for all the right reasons.  Read Learned Optimism.
 

6.  Staying True to Yourself

“I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.”  –Rita Mae Brown
To make a positive difference in your life you must sometimes be different and take the road less traveled.  It requires courage to go against the grain like this, especially when the people around you are confused and irritated by your choices; but such courage can bring great rewards when you stick to your guns.
 
Where others see only shadows of uncertainty, look for glimmers of opportunity.  When you encounter rudeness and irritation, generously offer polite doses of confident patience.  When you bump up against arrogance, dilute the negativity with your own sincere, self-assured humility.
Just because everyone is heading in a one direction doesn’t mean you must go that way too.  On the contrary, it’s a valuable opportunity for you to step aside and figure out where you truly want to go.
 

7.  Fighting for Your Dreams

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”  –Eleanor Roosevelt
When things don’t go right, it doesn’t mean you have to go wrong along with them.  Goals and dreams are kind of like breathing – once you give up, there’s no hope left.  Don’t do that to yourself.
It’s always too early to quit.  You must continue breathing, even if it’s just a series of short, shallow breaths.  Continue putting forth even the smallest efforts to sustain your dreams.  Accept the fact that if you fight through the challenges, there is always a chance you might lose, but if you do not fight at all, you have already lost.  Read 1,000 Little Things.
 

8.  Deciding to Change

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.  So throw off the bowlines.  Sail away from the safe harbor.  Catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore.  Dream.  Discover.”  –Mark Twain
If you’re not where you want to be right now, take the time to visualize yourself in the place you want to be and take the first step in that direction.  You may not be able to change your destination in a day, but you can change your direction right now.
Keep moving along this new path and it will eventually lead you to your destination.
 

9.  Being Present

“It’s being here now that’s important.  There’s no past and there’s no future.  Time is a very misleading thing.  All there is ever, is the now.  We can gain experience from the past, but we can’t relive it; and we can hope for the future, but we don’t know if there is one.”  –George Harrison
Do not wish your moments away.  Do not ruin today by focusing on another time and place.  There is only now; realize how rich you are in it.  It stands to reason that if you learn to live well you will eventually pass on well too, in complete peace.  The skills are the same: being present in the moment, and brave, and thankful for all the opportunities you have.
Make your time count.  Right now you are creating history – your legacy.  Don’t let it slip by without being aware of it.  Life works in a strange way:  You want something and you work and wait and work and wait, and feel like it’s taking forever to come.  Then it happens and it’s over and all you want to do is relive all the great memories you made along the way.
 
Happiness is the journey.  Open your eyes.  Don’t miss it.  Read The Power of Now.
 

10.  Being Thankful

“Keep your face always toward the sunshine, and shadows will fall behind you.”  –Walt Whitman
You are right here, right now, breathing.  Enjoy it.  You’ve got nothing to do today except to smile.
 
Happiness is valuing what you have, and enjoying the people, places, objects and events in your life for what they are.  It’s not about changing and achieving all the time, it’s about being and appreciating.  And you can nearly always enjoy the things happening around you if you make up your mind firmly that you will.
 
Sunburst at Mt. Rainier over alpine meadow | Washington - USA
The inspiration this week comes from Marc Chernoff

Friday, May 22, 2015

Yoga

Let me first start off explaining how overall I'm a type A personality.  In fact I don't think anyone would describe me as calm or probably laid back. Also not the type of person that can just sit back especially when something needs to be done, I want to do it and get it out of the way rather than dwell on it. And dwell on it I will do, a worrier of sorts.

When it comes to issues or problems I will stress over them until a resolution is reached. Lets just say I like finding solutions to things not letting them fester. The Nike slogan "just do it" sums up my philosophy well. ha  I tend to be rather high energy, filled with a natural sort of adrenaline that at times can also be detrimental. 

For years I worked out to try to stay fit and release the adrenaline but it never seemed to work.  I'm a very thin and fast workouts just didn't seem to agree with my body.  That's when my doctor suggested yoga.  She felt I needed something to calm my body, focus my mind and yet still allow me the healthy benefits of exercise.

So I tried yoga but it was more here and there as quite honestly it was hard to slow down to that level.  Focusing on breathing and poses was hard for someone hyper like me.  While in the midst of yoga I'd be thinking about all I could be doing or things that needed to get accomplished. Now looking back also think it was because I had not found the right yoga program for me.

Some how while flipping through tv came across a beginner yoga that I really enjoyed.  Unfortunately started having dizziness issues around the same time which became more aggravated by that particular yoga program.  Truth is not all programs or poses are ideal for everyone.  I felt bummed because at that point I was really starting to enjoy yoga.

It took me awhile and a lot of research but found a program that I was able to work around the dizziness with.  And it even incorporates a little bit of meditation, which is something else I needed to learn and incorporate as well.

I've been doing Hatha and Flow Yoga for beginners by Tamal Dodge  for over a year now, and can honestly say I don't know what I would do without it.  While I committed to do it three times a week, also find myself wanting to do it more. Of course there are days where I don't always feel like doing it, but I do it anyway.  It really has made a difference both mentally and physically.  In many aspects I do find it centers me. 

The Hatha and Flow Yoga for beginners contains two programs.  Hatha for increase flexibility and dissolving of stress.  Flow for building strength and stamina.  Both are 30 minutes in duration making it easier to fit into a daily schedule.  Tamal Dodge is an excellent instructor, he even has his own site www.tamalyoga.com .   I purchased the dvd from Amazon for $14 and it has been well worth it.

While I love this yoga program it may not be ideal for everyone.  Highly suggest researching the various types of yoga, than finding a program based on one's body type, health and what you would like to get out of it.  Yoga has so many styles, levels and programs that there is usually something perfectly suited for everyone some times it just takes a little patience and research until one finds it.

Thursday, May 21, 2015

Social Media and Life

Lately I'm wishing social media was never created and have this desire to go back to the good old
days where the people one was with were the ones that actually got their full attention. 

On the news  they said the average person looks at their phone 1,000 times a day?!  That sounds insane yet believable.  Try it, every time you look at your phone mark it down on paper and see how many times you actually check your phone in one day bet most would be surprised at the number.

It bothers me when I see people so glued to their phones they have no idea what is going on around them nor giving the people who are choosing to spend their time with them their attention.  I encounter this pretty much anytime I'm out whether it be shopping, at a restaurant, sporting event, driving, etc.  It's scary how obsessed people are with their phones. 

Not only that but phone obsessed people who cannot even drive without looking at their phones put us all at risk.  Driving while looking at a phone is dangerous no matter who one is. There is nothing on a phone that can't wait until one is safely home.  And if it can't wait then one should pull over and do it safely while stopped. 

 Even encounter it at home too, the man is obsessed with his phone and social media these days he literally cannot go 5 minutes without checking his facebook or twitter.  It's beyond annoying.  He's so distracted reading comments of people he doesn't even know that he barely hears me some nights.  It's no wonder he remembers little of what I tell him or even what he does.

The other night while watching his hockey team in the playoffs he literally spent more time tweeting or texting about the game than watching it. Didn't even hear me say that I was going upstairs.  Worries me if he checks it that much at work as he got warned in a previous job about texting during meetings, like who needs to do that anyway?  Get a grip, put down the phone.  But hey wouldn't want to miss someone updating they are drinking coffee. hahaha

Seriously is reading about other people's lives really all that exciting that social media sites have to be checked so frequently?  Honestly I only browse social media sites when I'm bored or looking to catch up on headline news.  Or maybe to share some photos with friends.  Try to limit it to a few times a day.  I'd rather give who ever I'm with my full attention than strangers who mean little to me.  Literally when I'm having fun or with someone I love could go all day and night without having to look at my phone. 

More and more it just seems like a waste of time, does anyone really care what we have to say on twitter or what we are posting about our lives on facebook?  Could that time not be better spent actually living life and creating real memories with the people who make the time to spend life with us.....

Quite frankly as time goes on I find myself becoming more disillusioned by the online world.  Just think it wastes so much.  How many of us watch people live life instead of living it ourselves.  Or spend endless wasted hours reading about others lives instead of focusing on making our own better. 

How many spouses, partners, friends, kids, family members get overlooked the attention and love they deserve because loved ones are to wrapped up on their phones with meaningless things. No wonder why people cheat, divorces are so prevalent and kids have problems because no one gives undivided, loving attention any more.  Everyone is to preoccupied with bogus, meaningless, mindless things.

One day people are going to wake up and realize just how many moments in life they missed out on because they were too busy staring at their phones.  Some day when this life is over some how I don't think people are going to wish they spent more time on their phones and social media.  They will probably look back and wonder why they wasted so much time.

What will it take for us all to wake up and realize that in the grand scheme of life phones and social media sites mean little, they seem more like silly distractions that keep us from living life to the fullest.  We basically read about moments instead of creating our own special moments with those who mean the most to us.

My advice to the phone addicted and obsessed, get off the phone and actually live life!  Lock it up, put it in your car, throw it out all together....do whatever you have to do to become unglued and then start living in the moment with those who truly care about you!

Check out my man so busy tweeting he has no idea I'm even taking his photo, this is during his favorite teams playoff game.  He's so engrossed in that phone I could run around topless without him realizing it.  And he's only one of the millions, if not billions obsessed with their phones. 





Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Woof Wednesday

Welcome to Woof Wednesday. Please meet some great dogs from CA, NY, PA and TX all in need of good, loving homes!
 
This sweet Cocker Spaniel mix has no name and place to call home.  She is sitting at the shelter hoping someone sees how much love she still has to give.  Please lets find her a loving home!
 
A4828610 - Gardena, CA
 
 A4828610
Los Angeles County Animal Control - Carson
216 West Victoria Street
Gardena, CA 90248
(310) 523-9566
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Simba is a very cute dog who appears to be a Chihuahua mix. This sweetheart is 4 years old.  She is full grown and weighs 15 pounds. She might get along with other dogs and she could probably live with cats as well. She is partly housebroken but she may need help adapting to her new environment. Due to her petite size, we recommend a gentle family. Although Simba will share her toys she does not like to share her food so we recommend an experienced family with older children. This sweet amusing little girl is active, cheerful and has an attractive personality.  Please lets find her a great home!
 
Simba - New York, NY
 
Simba (Manhattan)
Bideawee Inc. Manhattan
410 E. 38th St. between 1st Ave. & FDR Dr.
New York, NY 10016
(866) 262-8133
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Ebony is a Border Collier who is six years old and 38 lbs. She is super sweet girl and loves people and affection. She spent 3 of her six years in a shelter and have no idea why, because she is just so sweet. Ebony is trustworthy in the house, crate trained, good on a leash, a great passenger in a vehicle, playful with other dogs, and just a very sweet girl. She has dry eyes which just require drops. Ebony deserves a loving home of her own and she is patiently waiting for that special family to give that to her. Please lets find her a good home!
 
Ebony - Philadelphia,PA
 
Ebony
 Blind Dog Rescue Alliance
PO Box 63401
Philadelphia, PA 19114
(877) 254-6301
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 This guy is a Border Terrier mix who doesn't have a name let alone a home.  Please lets find him a loving home!
 
A111551 - Pasadena, TX
 
A111551 
The City of Pasadena, Texas
5150 Burke
Pasadena, TX 77504
(281) 991-0602
 
 
No paw left behind our mission!

{Please keep in mind a dog is lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care, training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}


If you want to be a part of Woof Wednesdays email Ann Michele, Lauren or leave a comment. Or simply start posting about dogs in need of a home on your blog or facebook page.

Sunday, May 17, 2015

Soul Sunday


Life is an echo.            
 
What you send out...comes back.
 
What you sow....you reap.
 
What you give....you get.
 
What you see in others....exists in you.
 
Do not judge....so you will not be judged.
 
Radiate and give love....and love comes back to you.
 
flowers

Monday Musings

The weather here has been muggy and warm.  Though more storms are supposedly going to cool things back to Spring like weather.  Though the warmth has felt good!

It was one of those weeks where the dizziness sidelined me.  In fact, didn't even get to write my Woof Wednesday post which is so important to me.  Basically had to avoid the computer, guess too much computer work was finally catching up.

Friday we did take out, tried to catch up on shows but we both ended up falling asleep.

Saturday involved doing stuff around the house, then we headed to the Phillies baseball game downtown. We had great seats 3 rows behind the opposing teams dugout.  What a night it turned into....three innings in a heavy storm hit, delaying the game for over a hour.  We moved under the concourse but it was so strong we still felt the storms effects.  And once the game resumed it was still going strong at 11:30pm.  Even though it was pretty late, afterwards we actually made a run to the popular cheesesteak place Gino's in South Philly to get a bite to eat. :)

Upon arriving home we found a couple parked in front of our house.  They didn't move when we arrived home.  They sat in their car into the wee hours of the morning.  Was going to call the police but eventually fell asleep and they were gone by the time we woke up.  But it was very strange.

Sunday we had a brunch at our house to celebrate Mother's day because we didn't get to do it last weekend.  Of course it's always fun to spend time with family, though it seemed to go way too fast before I knew it everyone was heading home.  Never feels like enough time with my niece.  Love her so much, at times feel like I'm missing so much but not getting to see her more often.

The man was exhausted after our Saturday night out as I knew he would be. He basically slept all day Sunday. He likes to think he can handle it but usually an adventure like that knocks him out.  He thinks he is a heavy weight but his body likes to tell him otherwise.

And that's about all I want to write as with the dizziness just can't be spending too much time on the computer.  Here are my favorite moments from the weekend....














Monday, May 11, 2015

Monday Musings

The summer like weather continues, with humidity rising and partly sunny skies.  Though the weather experts say more Spring like temperatures will be returning.  After the long, cold winter the heat feels good.

Overall the week was low key.  Spent a lot of time running errands, trying to find gifts my niece would love and also summer flowers.  Try as much as possible to avoid the crowds by shopping at off hours.  Think I was in and out of at least ten stores in two hours.

Friday was a bit disappointing as we were going continue our date streak by going to an arena football game, but the man got home later than expected and given Friday traffic didn't think we would make it downtown by the start.  So we sat home and watched the Rangers hockey playoff game. 

Of course another one of the man's team is in the playoffs.  The whole playoff beard drives me crazy.  It's one thing for the players to not shave but the fans....sorry but like my men clean shaven. I would not even like Beckham in a beard. ha  Playoffs basically mean every other night it takes over the tv for weeks. When it's not your team it's harder to get into.

Saturday we went to my niece's birthday party. Spending time with her is always great and refreshing.  Just love to listen to her talk and hear her thoughts.  The weather was perfect so that everyone could be outside. The fun part is watching her open her gifts which of course she waited all day for, imagine that kind of excited anticipation.  She genuinely seems to appreciate everything she is given, carefully appreciating each item after it's open.  Really wish the man and I could find a house a little closer to them.

Sunday we chilled, well the man did while I worked on packing up winter clothes.  Figure since we will be moving soon might as well pack some of the bulky winter items into a space bags.  Later in the afternoon we took Cooper for a nice walk.  Cooper bought me lovely flowers for mother's day.  He even wanted to carry them himself.  The little guy is very self sufficient. 

The man planned on cooking dinner but golf went into overtime which interfered with that.  Never met anyone as obsessed with sports than the man.  As I've said in the past it comes before everything, for him life revolves around sports schedules.  So I cooked dinner and he did the dishes.  Though he did get us water ices afterwards.

Last night was season finale of Revenge, it is last season of the show as well.  Though the storylines had become so fast moving the past few seasons they kind of ran out of places to go with it.  Wish they would have moved a little slower to really develop each storyline more.  The finale was great, it allowed fans a happy ending of sorts which is always nice.  It seems many of my favorite shows are starting to dwindle down.  Always hard to let a favorite show go, as sometimes they become a refreshing escape to the stresses of life.  :)

Today involves more cleaning out of the basement. Have to slowly get rid of things so there is enough room in the trash container.  Still have not found any new places to look at.  The housing market isn't good here right now as there is hardly anything available.  Usually this time of year the housing market is saturated with houses and rentals but not this year. 

Of course it has me stressed out.  The unknown will do that some times, especially when it comes to not knowing where we will be living in less than two months.  Literally we have about a month to find something. With no prospects on the horizon it really has me worried, not to mention analyzing finances. 

For a financial analyst sometimes I feel like the man doesn't take home finances seriously enough. Or face the reality of what needs to be paid off.  It's great that he doesn't stress but at same time he needs to take it a bit more serious. Really try to create a budget and stick to it until goals are reached. 

I continue to pray though. Let God guide us on the next step of the journey, trust that he knows best.  Hoping he can help us figure it all out.

Well back to work I go.  Of course not without sharing some photos from our lovely weekend.

























Sunday, May 10, 2015

Soul Sunday

Intense love does not measure, it just gives.
 
Only when we give joyfully, without hesitation or thought of gain, can we truly know what love means.   Love, true love, is that which can give the most without asking or demanding anything in return.
 
The love of a family is life's greatest blessing. 
 
Let us all be inspired by the amazing mother's of our world, and the unconditional love that overflows from them. Show unconditional love, give the people you love your undivided attention and bask in the joy of love! 
 
Fields and gardens on the bright side of life thanks to a sprinkle of daisies!
 
 

Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Woof Wednesday

Welcome to Woof Wednesday. Please meet some great dogs from CA, NY, PA and TX all in need of good, loving homes!
 
Xander is an adorable, and delightful 2 year old, 42 lb Miniature Goldendoodle who lost his home in the wake of the arrival of children. Purchased at 8 weeks from a breeder hi family decided it was best for Xander to find a new home and a family that can provide him with all the time and attention he needs and deserves. It was a tough decision to make and now that we know this little mush, we can't imagine how anyone could give him up. Xander has plenty of puppy energy but settles very nicely. He like to play fetch. He listens and minds and seems to thrive with direction and praise. He is very patient.. He’s adorably vocal when he plays and once comfortable, has a lot to say! His little grunts and vocalizations are hysterical!  He also entertains himself really well with a Kong & ball. He absolutely loves and needs toys and must have a bunch. He initiates play with my crew too. He is really a super sweet, gentle boy. A typical 2 year old doodle puppy that just needs some additional leash training, human attention, exercise & a yard. Xander is a little gem.  Xander is completely house trained and knows many basic commands. He needs some additional practice with his leash manners. He is not crate trained and does not like being in the crate. There is no reason to contain him as he does just fine with free run of the house. He will need an active, dog savvy, adult home and another well mannered dog for company. A fenced in yard is a must. Fence must be a minimum of 5' in height as this guy clears a 4' fence like a gazelle. He is great with age appropriate children but can become nervous around the little ones depending on the amount of noise and activity. He is a wonderful, sweet, well mannered little love who deserves only the best forever home and family.  Please lets find him a loving home!
 
Xander - San Diego, CA
Doodle Rescue Collective Inc
San Diego, CA
info@doodlerescuecollectiveinc.org  
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Cookie is a Dachshund mix who is around 7 years old.  She is just sitting in the local shelter hoping to find a family. Please lets find her a great home!
 
Cookie - New York, NY
 
Cookie
Best Friends Animal Society New York
New York City, NY 10011
(435) 644-2001
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Andy is a Terrier Mix who is around 1-2 yrs old, 11 lbs.  He is friendly and outgoing dog who has medium energy. This little guy was found as a stray. He's a little unsure of other dogs, but tolerant of them. Andy could get along with cats and children. He'll need some refresher housetraining and obedience in order to lock in his manners. Please lets find him a good home!
 
Andy - Philadelphia, PA
 
Andy
Philadelphia Animal Welfare Society
100 N. 2nd Street
Philadelphia, PA 19106
215-298-9680, ext. 16
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Trent is a Border Terrier mix. He really needs to find a family soon.  Please lets find him a loving home!
Trent - Pasadena, TX
 
The City of Pasadena, Texas
5150 Burke
Pasadena, TX 77504
(281) 991-0602
 
 
 
No paw left behind our mission!

{Please keep in mind a dog is lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care, training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}


If you want to be a part of Woof Wednesdays email Ann Michele, Lauren or leave a comment. Or simply start posting about dogs in need of a home on your blog or facebook page.

Tuesday, May 5, 2015

My Dearest Angel

Where does time go?  Hard to believe it's been a year since you left us, though honestly it feels like an eternity. I miss you so much.

Think about you every day.  Thoughts of you make me smile as I remember all the good times we shared. At times tears still flow, they probably always will as missing you is a heartache that never goes away.

You might never fully understand how you touched my life, or every ones for that matter.  Or the ways in which you rescued me.  I needed you as much as you needed me.

How much I miss our snuggles, especially you sleeping on my pillow.  Miss sitting on the porch with you.  Miss our little trips together as well, especially the beach ones.  Miss watching you play wiffle ball and all the happiness it brought you.  Miss you sitting in the kitchen while I cooked dinner. 

Oh how I remember those last few days....sitting there with the sun shining on us, wanting you to enjoy the beauty of life for as long as you could. Wish it could have been so much longer.

You taught me so much about life and especially love. 

Hope you know how the love I have for you still overflows.  It's bigger than infinity if that's possible. A piece of my heart belongs to you, it always will.

Missing you today and always.   Love you.

This photo continues to be one of our favorites, it always makes us smile. 






Monday, May 4, 2015

Monday Musings

The weather has officially warmed up in fact temperatures are soaring into the eighties.  Bring on the warmth.

We took full advantage of the beautiful weather this weekend.  Windows were open, flowers and vegetables planted, walks with Cooper, anything to enjoy the beauty of nature. Though may have been a little itchy from all the pollen.  It's amazing the power of pollen.  Yet the warm air feels good it's hard not to open the windows. 

Saturday we laid low....did stuff around the house, watched sports and played with Cooper.  Saturday night we introduced Cooper to wiffle balls.  That was his sister's favorite toy, she could play for hours.  He loved it, of course a few tears flowed as well as it brought back all the memories of our little girl.  Even the way he was holding it in his mouth reminded me of her.

Sunday we went to a home and garden festival in Chestnut Hill.  It turned out to be a bigger event than we expected. Think the gorgeous weather brought even more people out.  There was a lot of unique items.  We bought a flameless candle that you fill with water to keep the scent strong, some birthday gifts for the niece and the man even bought me a beautiful turquoise ring!

Thanks to the man too because he is making an effort to do things. That means a lot to me.  He even  is enjoying himself too.  The little things in life really do mean so much.

Meanwhile the house search has reached a standstill.  We haven't seen any recent listings.  And I'm feeling rather worried.  I know it's important to remain positive but it's hard to do. Just not sure what we are going to do. Though I'm praying a lot these days, hoping a higher power can help and even guide us to the right place. 

Have a mid day doctor appointment, which kind of got in way of the errands planned. So think just going to enjoy this beautiful weather and be thankful for the abundant sunshine!









Sunday, May 3, 2015

Soul Sunday

Even after all this time,
The sun never says to the earth,
'You owe me.'
Look what happens with
A love like that.
It lights the whole sky.
 
 

Friday, May 1, 2015

Adventures of Sleep

Who knew sleep could be such an adventure, but that's exactly what it's been turning into. 

It's bad enough I can barely sleep on my side without feeling dizzy these days.  My go to stomach position has all but become impossible. Lets just say the quality of my sleep has gone rather down.

Which has turned sleep into a rather nightmare of sorts.  But of course than there are the real nightmares. Those things that appear in our dreams, leaving us sometimes crying, screaming and trembling in our sleep.  And that's exactly what happened last night.

At 4 am awoke to find myself gasping for air, even swallowing felt hard.  At that moment the dream I just woke from distinctly came to mind.  Recalling the hysterical crying that had been taking place in the dream. 

Of course shout to the man I just had a nightmare and can't breath.  The man's response pretty on par for him, seeming annoyed he had been woke up musters "calm down it will be okay" and falls back to sleep. Thanks sweetheart. Though not sure if he was actually fully aware of what was going on. ha

Of course in the still of the night, as I sat there trying to tell myself it was just a dream a revelation of sorts pops into my thoughts. How there are inherent moments of life that no one will understand but the person experiencing it.  In those moments it can feel rather lonely to think that no one else understands how we feel or what exactly we experienced.  Even the deepest connection with another soul may not be able to penetrate such moments.

It's crazy how dreams can affect the body though, the hysterical crying and upset feeling of the dream had a real impact on my body.  As I sat there trying to catch my breath my whole body felt as if it had been more than just a dream, it's unreal how realistic dreams can feel.  The emotions and physical reactions they are capable of producing in the body is fascinating.

Eventually I dozed off, unbelievably enough into the same dream!  Which is even more fascinating because I had been awake for at least half a hour.  It's amazing how dreams take us into a whole other realm.  It's always interesting the people that show up as well past, present and complete strangers too.  Places we may or may not have visited before.  And things as well.

Would love to know why we dream what we do. Do dreams have any significance?  Are there lessons or messages to be taken from dreams or are they just a random compilation of things we think about and encounter? 









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