Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Everyone Has A Story


Few weeks ago I mentioned about being attacked by a dog while walking mine.  How I decided to write a letter to the owners because felt the dog was more rambunctious than say vicious. Well upon receiving receiving the letter, the owner of the dog called me and we actually had a good conversation.  That's when you quickly realize that every one has a story, and sometimes before judging a situation it's best to learn more first.

The owner of the dog used to live next door to the family she is staying with now.  Turns out she is going through a bitter divorce, and after moving out of the house her husband basically had her evicted as well.  When she had no where else to go her neighbors graciously took her in.  Her dog Dakota has only recently come to live with them after being kept in a garage by her cruel, vindictive husband.  The dog was constantly kept in the garage and well overall not treated humanely. On top of it the dog was not spayed, and at the time of the attack was in heat. She was actually due to be spayed the next day.

So it explains it a lot, especially why the dog acted as it did. She went on to explain that they are trying to basically rehab the dog after it's traumatic treatment by her former husband.  That she has warned the kids and family she lives with repeatedly to not let the dog in the backyard with close supervision.  But as kids would have it they did not do that the night we encountered poor Dakota.  Hopefully they learned their lesson.  If not than guessing a letter probably won't solve any future crisis.

Thing is had I not taken the time to write a honest, sincere letter voicing my concerns I would have never learned the why behind the whole situation.  Sometimes knowing the why can not only open our minds but change our opinions as well.  While it may not always make situations right, it can expand our minds, souls and help teach us valuable lessons in the process. 


And while stories may change, truth is everyone has a story. 

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Monday, September 29, 2014

Monday Musings

Hard to believe it's Monday already.  Weekends seem to go by so fast.  The weather warmed up has been beautiful.  All weekend sunny, warm and in the 80's.  Makes you wish it could stay like this year round.

Friday we went out to dinner.  It was that or a Phillies game.  But the man's allergies have been out of hand lately, even with allergy meds thought it might not be the smartest thing to sit outside for a few hours. Applebees has some new 2 for 20 deal so the man suggested we try it.  The food choices were okay though they could still add more to the menu. With the 2 for 20 deals the menu choices are limited.

Though Applebees added a little computer to each table that allows customers to pay .99 to play various unlimited games.  Everything from trivia to dating games.  It made waiting for our food fun. In fact we were still playing them as we ate dinner and even into dessert.  For dessert we had cinnamon coated pretzel bites with a maple cream cheese dipping sauce that was delicious.  And a waiter who sounded exactly like Jonah Hill, he said he's been told that before.

Saturday involved girls day with my mother, niece and sister.  Lunch at Kitchen Bar which is a great restaurant that offers a lot of healthy choices, and even breakfast dishes until mid afternoon. Then off to the mall. But my niece wasn't successful in finding new Fall clothes as most of the stores still have short sleeve summer clothes, and the ones that did have warmer type clothing were too expensive for a child's budget.

Overall the day involved many laughs and pure silliness. Of course plenty of goofy photos too. There is nothing better than being around people who you can just be yourself with.  It all capped off with a pizza dinner at our house, which even my dad enjoyed.  And played some Heads Up on the phone which is a really fun game for a group.  The man was watching football at a friends so he wasn't around for all the fun.

Sunday was all about giving Cooper a bath, cleaning house, watching football and home cooking.

Meanwhile today is about catching up on all those things I occasionally put off.  Like balancing check books, going through the hundreds of photos I take, organizing the office, following up on calls, writing letters.  The little odds and end stuff that can get overlooked. 

Some of my favorite photos from the weekend.












Sunday, September 28, 2014

Soul Sunday

Seek healing, a refilling of energy and spirit, as soon as you see that you need it. You don't have to push yourself to give, do or perform when what your body, mind, soul and emotions need is to heal.

Seek and support your natural balance.  Listen to your body, listen to your soul and both will tell you what they need, ask.  Ask your body what you need.  Ask your heart what to do next.  Ask God and the universe to help.

Find the balance that's right for you.  Become sensitive to your needs.  When you become stressed, depleted, out of sync, in need of healing, seek help immediately.  Nurture and care for yourself until you're in balance once again.

Inhale, receive.  Exhale, give back. Your natural balance is as necessary as breathing. The inhaling is the breathing in of life's energy.  The exhaling is the sharing of your resources.  You wouldn't expect to exhale if you hadn't inhaled.  So it goes with healing, with our life force, with our energy.  You cannot give it out if you don't take it in. 

Find the balance of receiving and giving, of the taking in of energy and the giving out of energy, that works for you.

Let the balance become natural.
See how much more you do and are.
See how much better you feel when you keep your life fore vital.


Thursday, September 25, 2014

Favorite Tv Shows

So as I've probably mentioned a bunch already the tv is on a lot in our house, at least when the man's home.  He loves to watch tv, where as I can take or leave it.  It's not often I find shows that hold my attention.

While he remains engrossed in tv I'm usually daydreaming of things I wish we were doing instead.  Though over the past few years I have found five shows I really like.  So much so they are even set to tape on the dvr.  In no particular order the five shows are....

Person of Interest -  Absolutely awesome writing and a great cast. A drama, thriller and mystery all wrapped in one. It's about a billionaire software genius Finch who creates a machine for the government that is designed to detect acts of terror before they can happen, by monitoring the entire world through every cell phone, email and surveillance camera. Finch discovered that the machine sees everything, potential terrorist acts and violent crimes that involve ordinary people. When the government considered violent crimes between normal people irrelevant, Finch built a back door into the system that gives him the social security number of a person involved in a future violent crime so he could act. Partnered with two ex CIA agents, a detective and mystery woman of sorts they work in secret to prevent violent crimes before they can happen.  As the show progresses the topic of artificial intelligence also becomes a big part of the storyline. CBS Tuesdays 10pm

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Revenge -  This show is a drama yet also mystery of sorts.  The story lines keep you guessing and tend to leave one on the edge of their seat.  Basically the daughter of a framed executive makes it her mission to infiltrate upper Hamptons society and exact revenge on the people who set her father up.  The main character Emily is basically a highly trained operative of sorts even though she has nothing to do with that line of work.  And the characters that surround her are anything but boring. ABC Sundays 10pm

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NCIS Los Angeles - Another version of the CSI series that seems to saturate tv but this one has got not only great writing but incredible cast chemistry.  While it would be considered a drama the show also incorporates a nice touch of humor into it as well.  The Naval Criminal Investigation Service's Office of Special Projects takes on the undercover work and the hard to crack cases in LA. And an underlying romantic story between two of the main characters doesn't hurt either.  Plus did I mention Chris O'Donnell and Eric Christian, love a show with good looking men who can act. CBS Mondays 10pm

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Under The Dome - With Stephen King behind this show expect the unexpected and some sci fi twists. Another great cast that is filled with all kinds of character types though don't get to fond of anyone of the show has a way of changing characters quickly. An invisible and mysterious force field descends upon a small fictional town in the United States, trapping residents inside, cut off from the rest of civilization. The trapped townsfolk must discover the secrets and purpose of the "dome" and its origins, while coming to learn more than they ever knew about each other.  The show only airs during the summer.  CBS Mondays 10pm 

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Nurse Jackie -  This is a comedy and drama all rolled into one.  A drug addicted nurse struggles to find a balance between the demands of her frenetic job at a New York City hospital and an array of personal dramas. If you ever wondered what life for an addict or living with one is like this is a show that gives a gritty, raw view of that world.  Great writing and a quirky cast makes this show addicting to watch.  Showtime Sundays 9pm


NCIS LA and Nurse Jackie started in 2009, Person of Interest and Revenge 2011, Under the Dome 2013.  It's worth going back and watching these series from the beginning.  Although not sure its necessary for NCIS LA but for the others it is.  

And what I think tv also needs is Seinfeld back. Since the show retired haven't found a comedy that comes even close to generating the laughs of that show.

Of course would always love to hear what everyone else is watching, and what others favorite shows are as well!





Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Woof Wednesday

Welcome to Woof Wednesday. Please meet some great dogs from CA, NY, PA and TX all in need of good, loving homes!

 Cinna is a Jack Russell Terrier mix who is 2 years old and 22 lbs. She is a very loving, sweet and medium energy dog. She lives with children, adults, other dogs but no with cats. She is housebroken and sleeps indoors, perfect to live in an apartment. She walks on a leash and she behaves very well during car rides.  She likes to be by her owner watching television and being petted. Please lets find her a loving home!

Cinna - Bell Garden, CA

 
 Miracle Dog Rescue
Bell Gardens, CA 90201
(323) 383-8883
Miracle Dog Rescue
Bell Gardens, CA 90201
(323) 383-8883
reyna1950@yahoo.com
www.miracledogrescue.org
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Blake is a friendly and playful young Corgi Mix. His is a cutie who is basically full grown, weighing about 22 pounds. Blake is already housebroken and he seems to get along with other dogs. He will do best with an experienced family without young children, because he does not like to share his food. An active family is best for Blake, as he will love taking long walks daily and running around at the dog park. Please lets find him a great home!

Blake - New York City, NY

Bideawee Inc. Manhattan
410 E. 38th St. between 1st Ave. & FDR Dr.
New York, NY 10016
(866) 262-8133
audrey.fisher@bideawee.org
http://www.bideawee.org
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Sully is a double merle Australian Shepherd puppy, and because of his breeding he was born blind and deaf.  While know that sounds terrible, he really don't let it slow him down.  He loves to play with toys, and is even learning some commands.  The shelter can tell you more about how he learns and how to work with him. Please lets find him a good home!

Sully - Philadelphia, PA

 
 Cares4pets
PO Box 31942
Philadelphia, PA 19104
cares4pets@hotmail.com
http://www.cares4pets.org
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Kason is a young, 50 pound lab mix, and is looking for a human to call his own. He is an active guy who is looking for an active human that needs a running or walking partner. He is also open to fetching toys for you if you are interested in throwing them. He is learning good manners and behavior skills, so he will be the perfect companion. His hobbies include frolicking, tail wagging, and giving kisses. He love long walks in the neighborhood and trips to the dog park. Please lets find him a loving home!

Kason - Houston, TX

 Red Collar Rescue
Houston, TX 77002
info@redcollar.org
http://www.redcollar.org

 
No paw left behind our mission!

{Please keep in mind a dog is lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care, training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

If you want to be a part of Woof Wednesdays email Ann Michele, Lauren or leave a comment. Or simply start posting about dogs in need of a home on your blog or facebook page!  

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Why Stay and More

In light of the recent events in the NFL in regards to the Ray and Janay Rice situation, the hashtag #WhyIStayed has been trending on twitter.  Across the world victims and/or survivors of emotionally and physically abusive relationships were using the hashtag to share their stories.

It's easy for an onlooker not in such a situation to question why any woman or man would stay in such a relationship. Why not just leave?  If only it was that simple, yet situations involving abuse rarely are.

Some speculating she must have stayed because of money, or not wanting to give up the lifestyle of being married to a professional athlete.  Others speculated she may be too scared to leave.  And some just feel she loves the guy and doesn't want to be apart from him.  Honestly people can assume things, they can speculate on why she or any woman would stay with a man who knocked her out and then dragged her body from the elevator not even trying to help or get help for her. 

Truth is there are many reasons why victims of abuse don't leave.....fear, children, lack of money or resources, no where to go, little education or work experience, don't have a good paying job, they don't think they are being abused, they love their partners/their partners love them, don't want to give up lifestyle they are accustomed to, mental brainwashing, threats to those they love including pets, many externalize or rationalize the reasons for their abuser's behavior, lack of money or resources, too few shelters to go to, lack of social support, isolated, afraid of being alone, avoid provoking more violence, not enough help of protection from justice system. And there are many other reasons as well.
 
According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence an abused woman is 75 percent more likely to be murdered when she tries to flee or has fled than when she stays. Let that sink in.

It's sad to think that any one could be subjected to abuse in their life.  Especially from very people they love and are suppose to love them?  There should be no abuse period....no child abuse, no animal abuse and no abuse of woman or man period in this world.  We have to start treating abuse as the crime it is. 

The worst part is often there are no easy or quick solutions.  When a victim is isolated with no social support, financial means, job, safe place to go; living with threats to their children, pets or life, etc., it becomes very hard for them to imagine escaping the situation.  Where to turn for help becomes both the problem and question. In general the victims can feel they have a lot to lose by seeking help. Not to mention many shelters are full or have long waiting lists.

So then what is the answer?  How do the people who need help get it?  How can others assist them in getting the help?  And what should the punishment for abusers be?  How do we get people to stop making excuses, stop justifying abusers, stop blaming victims and instead see abuse for what it really is?  How do we get defense lawyers to stop attacking the victims of abuse and tearing apart their character? (this might be the most horrible aspect of the justice system when it comes to abuse or assaults....insinuating the victims some how ask for it is absurd and vile)

We as a society have to stand up for the victims, even if they feel too scared to stand up for themselves.  We cannot let the Ray Rice's of the world get away with this kind of behavior, we have to see to it that they do receive a substantial punishment along with much needed mental health help.  Justice needs to include some type of mandatory long term counseling issued as well.  The legal system has to take abuse more serious, and strictly reenforce restraining orders.  More money has to be raised to help the organizations, shelters and programs who help victims of abuse, so that hopefully more victims of abuse will have the opportunity to leave their abusive situations.  That's the key finding the money to put into not only helping the victims but rehabilitating the abusers.

Here is information and signs of both physical and emotional abuse.  Don't be afraid to open up to a trust friend, family member, clergy, counselor,etc..  And to anyone in a current abusive situation, know this....you are perfect the way you are, you did nothing wrong, no matter how bad your situation may feel at the moment there is a better life awaiting you and help is out there.  Here is a link on how to seek help.

Please if you or someone you know whether woman, man, child or even animal is experiencing any form of abuse seek help.  Don't be afraid to speak up. We all need to stand up and stop abuse, enough is enough!


Monday, September 22, 2014

Monday Musings

This Monday involved errands, cleaning and playing.  Basically tore apart the bedroom as it needed a deep clean. Of course in process of cleaning slammed lower leg into dryer and then had the vacuum fall down the steps right onto my wrist bone. Lets just say I sustained some nice bruises. We do not have enough ice packs for all the injuries I've been accruing.

Saturday involved a visit to the pet store to pick up food and let the little guy socialize.  He loves to interact with both dogs and people.  It's really cute to watch.  The man and I were suppose to shop for sheets, as the polo steal of a deal sheets we bought a few years ago developed a huge hole.  But as is the norm lately he didn't want to go. So shared some words of wisdom "you can sit on the couch at 80 you need to get out and live now." Pretty sure he ignored the advice. ha

Sunday my mother and I went to watch my niece play soccer and softball.  The games happened to be back to back. And the weather was perfect 80 degrees, partly sunny with some humidity.  It's always great getting to spend time with family. We brought Cooper too.  The pet stroller comes in very handy for such events.  When he gets tired or too hot he can seek shade by napping in the stroller.  Plus it allows me to push him farther distances than he can walk and store stuff in bottom and top compartments.  Even has two cup holders.

Of course the girls loved him.  They all came over to meet him, he was very happy to receive all the attention.  By the time we got home he was exhausted. He got a bath, ate dinner and slept the rest of the night.

What's amazing is how crazy some parents get at games for six year olds.  There was a father sitting next to me that spent most his time criticizing his little girl.  And when she started crying because she was tired, she had played soccer game prior to the softball, he had the nerve to say she was an embarrassment.  And then after some unkind words to his wife they got in a fight. Honestly this guy was a douche bag and you could tell his wife was embarrassed.  What should have been a fun day for his kids and wife turned into anything but for that family.

At any age, but especially six, no boy or girl should feel the pressure of having to play perfectly.  They should simply be allowed to play at their own pace and have fun.  Too many parents try to live through their kids these days, instead of just letting kids be who they are and do what they want to do and truly love.  If only parents could see how detrimental they can be to their kids. How something kids love or enjoy can turn into something they dislike with too much pressure, criticism or pushing from parents or other loved ones. Anyway....

Overall a great weekend.  But just wish the man would take an interest in more than sitting on couch.  His lack of enthusiasm for anything but watching tv and sports is taking a toll.  But decided just because he's turned into a couch potato doesn't mean I have to.  Although as a friend pointed out  what's the point of being with someone if they never want to do anything, true.  Just a thought. So I'm thinking of making a list of sorts of the things I really want to do, then doing them with or without him.  






Sunday, September 21, 2014

Soul Sunday

Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. And to dream is to have the courage to follow your own star.

Look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Try to make sense of what you see, and wonder about what makes the universe exist. Be curious.

 Savor the beauty of life's moonlit voyage and believe that every moment brings the promise of a new beginning.  Hope is that one single star, we can always find in a dark and cloudy sky. 

Sometimes it even takes a storm to bring the sky back into view and to clear our pathway to the stars.

Time is a stairway the soul climbs on a pathway to the stars.




Saturday, September 20, 2014

Apple Crisp

Apple Crisp

6 oz butter, diced
3/4 cup flour
1/4 cup brown sugar
1 cup granulated sugar
6-8 apples, peeled and diced
1/4 cup water
1 pint vanilla ice cream

1. Preheat oven to 375.
2.  In a food processor or a bowl using a fork, combine butter, flour and brown sugar just until crumbs the size of small peas form, this should take two to three minutes. Set aside.
3.  In a medium saucepan, heat sugar without stirring for 3 minutes or until golden, being careful not to burn it. Add apples to the sugar. Then add water and simmer for 5 minutes.
4. Remove from heat. Drain and reserve the cooked apples.
5. Divide apples evenly among the eight custard cups or ramekins.
6. Sprinkle the apples with the crumb topping and bake for 30 minutes or until topping is golden brown.
7. When ready to serve, top each apple crisp with a scoop of vanilla ice cream.




Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Woof Wednesday

Welcome to Woof Wednesday. Please meet some great dogs from CA, NY, PA and TX all in need of good, loving homes!

 Farley is a 5 1/2 month old Jack Russell /Spaniel mix.  He is happy go lucky and also cuddly. He is a sweet ball of energy and will be a great family pet. Good with other dogs. He is sensitive to people and dogs, in a kind, darling sort of way. Very good at learning things and doing well on pee pads inside the home. Please lets find him a loving home!

Farley - Marina Del Ray, CA

 
 Starpaws Rescue
333 W. Washington Blvd #309
Marina Del Rey, CA 90292
(424) 229-1614
starpawsrescue@gmail.com
http://Starpawsrescue.com


Milo is a Jack Russell Terrier mix.  He is just sitting at the local animal control hoping to find a family to love him.  Please lets find him a great home!

 Milo A4752839 - Baldwin Park, CA

 Los Angeles County Animal Control - Baldwin Park
4275 North Elton Street
Baldwin Park, CA 91706
(626) 962-3577
animalinfo@animalcare.lacounty.gov
http://animalcare.lacounty.gov
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Ryder is a darling 1.5 yr male Black Lab/Greyhound mix.  His is 33 lbs of sweetness.  He was rescued in the nick of time from a kill shelter in NYC. He is a bit shy at first but warm up quickly and as soon as he knows you is your BFF.  He is active and loves to play with other dogs. He is gentle and quiet so he should be good with kids ages 7yrs+ and he's not met any cats but would probably just want to play with them. He loves to run so a nice big backyard would be ideal. Please lets find him a good home!

Ryder - New York City, NY

 
Tails of Love Animal Rescue, Inc.
Staten Island, NY 10302
cece@tailsofloverescue.org
http://www.tailsofloverescue.org
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 Cuddles is a Cocker Spaniel /Poodle mix who lives up to his name.  He is around 4 years old and 20lbs. This bundle of fluff is simply adorable and loves to curl up at your side. While he likes to take his time adjusting to a new space, once he is comfortable he is social with everyone he meets other dogs, cats and kids.  He was surrendered to the shelter because his owner was ill.  This little guy will make a great addition to your home. Please lets find him a loving home!  

Cuddles A23809608- Philadelphia, PA
 
Philadelphia Animal Welfare Society
100 N. 2nd Street
Philadelphia, PA 19106
215-298-9680, ext. 16
dogs@phillypaws.org
http://www.phillypaws.org
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  Chandler is a Golden Retriever / Chow Chow mix around 2 years old and around 45 lbs. He is an active, happy pup that loves to run, jump and play. He is great with other dogs, and loves people of all ages. He loves to cuddle too. He is strong yet gentle and healthy. Please lets find him a great home!

Chandler -Houston, TX

Red Collar Rescue
Houston, TX 77002
info@redcollar.org
http://www.redcollar.org


No paw left behind our mission!

{Please keep in mind a dog is lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care, training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

If you want to be a part of Woof Wednesdays email Ann Michele, Lauren or leave a comment. Or simply start posting about dogs in need of a home on your blog or facebook page! 

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

A Ladder, Freak and Ice

What do you do when you hit your head on a heavy ladder that should have been moved weeks ago?  Of course you freak out on the person who procrastinated moving it. But then you come to find out that freaking out actually gets the ladder moved.  Go figure. And then you grab an ice pack for the egg size welt on your head.

Living with a procrastinator is often challenging.  As adults we should only have to be asked something once before it gets done, but with the man that is not always how it works. Some say don't bother to nag let him suffer the consequences of procrastinating.  But when certain things affect me too it's impossible to do, seems only way to light a fire under his butt. That's what happens when opposites live together. ha

So as I sit with ice on my head from the dang ladder I'm beginning to think opposites may attract but it can lead to one welt of a headache and a freak out or two. Oh and a not so great image captured of me pouting with the ice pack, which I will probably regret posting tomorrow. ha





Monday, September 15, 2014

Monday Musings


This weekend consisted of hanging with family on Saturday, cleaning and watching football on Sunday.  Overall nothing too crazy yet during my morning yoga I had a lot of trouble staying focused.  My mind seemed to wander to a million different thoughts.  Some times I wonder if there will ever be a time in my life where I don't feel stress, or is stress just a normal part of life?  Seems like it's always there.

It felt frustrating to let stress interfere like that, especially in what normally is a relaxing state. Learning how to deal with, handle and process stress is almost a necessity of sorts in our world today.  But the how can be a difficult process to master.  Letting thoughts go, not letting them control or overwhelm us can be tricky.

Eckhart Tolle author of The Power of Now believes that all stress comes from resisting the present moment. Stress is about wanting the moment to be different than what it is. He says to accept the moment, not resist it. That when you accept what is, you are grateful for whatever situation arises. It makes complete sense now if only I could put it into practice.  Think he has some great points as much of my stress lies in wanting the present to be different, or even at times worrying about the future.

Truth is, there just feels like a lot to figure out. Especially when it comes to income and generating more. Working for someone else is much easier than working on your own for many reasons such as....stable income, guaranteed weekly pay, good benefits, less taxes taken out, paid vacation, etc.. The dizzy spells really put a wrench into my aspirations, caused me to have to seek a different path.  One in which I have yet to fully figure out how to master.  There are still quite a few obstacles that stand in the way.  And at times not exactly something that's easy for me to understand let alone others.

And truth is even though the man is in the recovery phase of everything now, there have been things over the previous few months that have made me question his resolve.  In fact, more than just his resolve but his character, and even values.  There's a sense of conflicted emotions some days. Wonder am I truly listening to my heart, or trying to conform to an image or idea of what I desire but may not truly have yet.  And does that even make sense.

The most important questions I find myself asking lately is....Am I truly happy?  Is daily life fun?  Am I loved in the ways I need and want to be?  In what ways can I make a difference and/or help others? 

Questions that we should probably all be asking ourselves on a frequent basis.  Life changes and so do we, the answers of today may not be the same tomorrow. Suppose all we can keep doing is asking the questions, and making sure we like the answers if not than having the courage to make some changes. 

Maybe a little too deep for a Monday but nonetheless that's where my thoughts are.  And all those thoughts have exhausted us....










 




























Sunday, September 14, 2014

Soul Sunday





As you look back on your life, you will often realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected from something good, you were in fact being redirected to something better. You can’t control everything. Sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out. Let go a little and just let life happen. Because sometimes the truths you can’t change, end up changing you and helping you grow.

Here are twelve such truths…


1. Everything is as it should be. It’s crazy how you always end up where you’re meant to be – how even the most tragic and stressful situations eventually teach you important lessons that you never dreamed you were going to learn. Remember, oftentimes when things are falling apart, they are actually falling into place.

2.  Not until you are lost in this world can you begin to find your true self. Realizing you are lost is the first step to living the life you want. The second step is leaving the life you don’t want. Making a big life change is pretty scary. But you know what’s even scarier? Regret. Vision without action is a daydream, and action without vision is a nightmare. Your heart is free, have the courage to follow it. Read Awaken the Giant Within.


3.  It’s usually the deepest pain which empowers you to grow to your full potential. It’s the scary, stressful choices that end up being the most worthwhile. Without pain, there would be no change. But remember, pain, just like everything in life, is meant to be learned from and then released.

4.  One of the hardest decisions you will ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or take another step forward. If you catch yourself in a cycle of trying to change someone, or defending yourself against someone who is trying to change you, walk away. But if you are pursuing a dream, take another step. And don’t forget that sometimes this step will involve modifying your dream, or planning a new one – it’s OK to change your mind or have more than one dream.


5.  You have to take care of yourself first. Before befriending others, you have to be your own friend. Before correcting others, you have to correct yourself. Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy. It’s not called selfishness, it’s called personal development. Once you balance yourself, only then can you balance the world around you. Read Psycho-Cybernetics.


6.  One of the greatest freedoms is truly not caring what everyone else thinks of you. As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself, can you own yourself. 


7.  You may need to be single for awhile before you realize that, although the co-owned belongings from your failed relationships might not have been divided equally, the issues that destroyed the relationships likely were. For how can you stand confidently alone, or see the same issues arising in your newest relationship, and not realize which broken pieces belong to you? Owning your issues, and dealing with them, will make you far happier in the long run, than owning anything else in this world.

8.  The only thing you can absolutely control is how you react to things out of your control. The more you can adapt to the situations in life, the more powerful your highs will be, and the more quickly you’ll be able to bounce back from the lows in your life. Put most simply: being at peace means being in a state of complete acceptance of all that is, right here, right now.

9.  Some people will lie to you. Remember, an honest enemy is better than a friend who lies. Pay less attention to what people say, and more attention to what they do. Their actions will show you the truth, which will help you measure the true quality of your relationship in the long-term.


10.  If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. If you are thankful for what you do have, you will end up having even more. Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold; happiness dwells in the soul. Abundance is not about how much you have, it’s how you feel about what you have. When you take things for granted, your happiness gets taken away. Read The Happiness Project.


11.  Yes, you have failed in the past. But don’t judge yourself by your past, you don’t live there anymore. Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday. You can turn it all around in the blink of an eye by making a simple choice to stand back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again.


12.  Everything is going to be alright; maybe not today, but eventually. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. Sure the sun stops shining sometimes, and you may get a huge thunderstorm or two, but eventually the sun will come out to shine. Sometimes it’s just a matter of us staying as positive as possible in order to make it to see the sunshine break through the clouds again. 

      Today's Soul Sunday Inspiration is from Marc Chernoff author of 1,000 Little Things.


Saturday, September 13, 2014

Positive Thinking Day

Positive thinking has been shown to have numerous benefits.  In fact cnn has a great piece about it today.  Google positive thinking and you will find all kinds of interesting research and studies.  But how can we remain positive when we feel negative. Or feel happy when we feel unhappy.  Here are some great ideas from a Readers Digest article on happiness.

20 Simple Ways To Get Happy

Happiness is ephemeral, subject to the vagaries of everything from the weather to the size of your bank account.

We’re not suggesting that you can reach a permanent state called happiness and remain there. But there are many ways to swerve off the path of anxiety, anger, frustration, and sadness into a state of happiness once or even several times throughout the day. Here are 20 ideas to get you started. Choose the ones that work for you. If tuning out the news or making lists will serve only to stress you further, try another approach.

1. Practice mindfulness. Be in the moment. Instead of worrying about your checkup tomorrow while you have dinner with your family, focus on the here and now the food, the company, the conversation.

2. Laugh out loud. Just anticipating a happy, funny event can raise levels of endorphins and other pleasure-inducing hormones and lower production of stress hormones. Researchers at the University of California, Irvine, tested 16 men who all agreed they thought a certain videotape was funny. Half were told three days in advance they would watch it. They started experiencing biological changes right away. When they actually watched the video, their levels of stress hormones dropped significantly, while their endorphin levels rose 27 percent and their growth hormone levels (indicating benefit to the immune system) rose 87 percent.

3. Go to sleep. We have become a nation of sleep deprived citizens. Taking a daily nap or getting into bed at 8 p.m. one night with a good book and turning the light out an hour later can do more for your mood and outlook on life than any number of bubble baths or massages.

4. Hum along. Music soothes more than the savage beast. Studies find music activates parts of the brain that produce happiness the same parts activated by food or sex. It’s also relaxing. In one study older adults who listened to their choice of music during outpatient eye surgery had significantly lower heart rates, blood pressure, and cardiac workload (that is, their heart didn’t have to work as hard) as those who had silent surgery.

5. Declutter. It’s nearly impossible to meditate, breathe deeply, or simply relax when every surface is covered with papers and bills and magazines, your cabinets bulge, and you haven’t balanced your checkbook in six months. Plus, the repetitive nature of certain cleaning tasks such as sweeping, wiping, and scrubbing can be meditative in and of itself if you focus on what you’re doing.

6. Just say no. Eliminate activities that aren’t necessary and that you don’t enjoy. If there are enough people already to handle the church bazaar and you’re feeling stressed by the thought of running the committee for yet another year, step down and let someone else handle things.

7. Make a list. There’s nothing like writing down your tasks to help you organize your thoughts and calm your anxiety. Checking off each item provides a great sense of fulfillment.

8. Do one thing at a time. Edward Suarez, Ph.D., associate professor of medical psychology at Duke, found that people who multitask are more likely to have high blood pressure. Take that finding to heart. Instead of talking on the phone while you fold laundry or clean the kitchen, sit down in a comfortable chair and turn your entire attention over to the conversation. Instead of checking e-mail as you work on other projects, turn off your e mail function until you finish the report you’re writing. This is similar to the concept of mindfulness.

9. Garden. Not only will the fresh air and exercise provide their own stress reduction and feeling of well-being, but the sense of accomplishment that comes from clearing a weedy patch, watching seeds turn into flowers, or pruning out dead wood will last for hours, if not days.

10. Tune out the news. For one week go without reading the newspaper, watching the news, or scanning the headlines online. Instead, take a vacation from the misery we’re exposed to every day via the media and use that time for a walk, a meditation session, or to write in your journal.

11. Take a dog for a walk. There are numerous studies that attest to the stress relieving benefits of pets. In one analysis researchers evaluated the heart health of 240 couples, half of whom owned a pet. Those couples with pets had significantly lower heart rates and blood pressure levels when exposed to stressors than the couples who did not have pets. In fact, the pets worked even better at buffering stress than the spouses did.

12. Scent the air. Research finds that the benefits of aromatherapy in relieving stress are real. In one study people exposed to rosemary had lower anxiety levels, increased alertness, and performed math computations faster. Adults exposed to lavender showed an increase in the type of brain waves that suggest increased relaxation. Today you have a variety of room scenting methods, from plug in air fresheners to essential oil diffusers, potpourri, and scented candles.

13. Ignore the stock market. Simply getting your quarterly 401(k) statement can be enough to send your blood pressure skyrocketing. In fact, Chinese researchers found a direct link between the daily performance of the stock market and the mental health of those who closely followed it. Astute investors know that time heals most financial wounds, so give your investments time and give yourself a break.

14. Visit a quiet place. Libraries, museums, gardens, and places of worship provide islands of peace and calm in today’s frantic world. Find a quiet place near your house and make it your secret getaway.

15. Volunteer. Helping others enables you to put your own problems into perspective and also provides social interaction. While happy people are more likely to help others, helping others increases your happiness. One study found that volunteer work enhanced all six aspects of well being: happiness, life satisfaction, self esteem, sense of control over life, physical health, and depression.

16. Spend time alone. Although relationships are one of the best antidotes to stress, sometimes you need time alone to recharge and reflect. Take yourself out to lunch or to a movie, or simply spend an afternoon reading, browsing in a bookstore, or antiquing.

17. Walk mindfully. You probably already know that exercise is better than tranquilizers for relieving anxiety and stress. But what you do with your mind while you’re walking can make your walk even more beneficial. In a study called the Ruth Stricker Mind/Body Study, researchers divided 135 people into five groups of walkers for 16 weeks. Group one walked briskly, group two at a slow pace, and group three at a slow pace while practicing “mindfulness,” a mental technique to bring about the relaxation response, a physiological response in which the heart rate slows and blood pressure drops.

This group was asked to pay attention to their footsteps, counting one, two, one, two, and to visualize the numbers in their mind. Group four practiced a form of tai chi, and group five served as the control, changing nothing about their lives. The group practicing mindfulness showed significant declines in anxiety and had fewer negative and more positive feelings about themselves. Overall they experienced the same stress-reducing effects of the brisk walkers. Better yet, the effects were evident immediately.

18. Give priority to close relationships. One study of more than 1,300 men and women of various ages found that those who had a lot of supportive friends were much more likely to have healthier blood pressure, cholesterol levels, blood sugar metabolism, and stress hormone levels than those with two or fewer close friends. Women, and to a lesser extent men, also seemed to benefit from good relationships with their parents and spouses. Studies also find that people who feel lonely, depressed, and isolated are three to five times more likely to get sick and die prematurely than those who have feelings of love, connection, and community.

19. Take care of the soul. In study after study, actively religious people are happier and cope better with crises, according to David Myers, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at Hope College in Holland, Michigan. For many people faith provides a support community, a sense of life’s meaning, feelings of ultimate acceptance, a reason to focus beyond yourself, and a timeless perspective on life’s woes. Even if you’re not religious, a strong spirituality may offer similar benefits.

20. Count your blessings. People who pause each day to reflect on some positive aspect of their lives (their health, friends, family, freedom, education, etc.) experience a heightened sense of well-being.

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Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Woof Wednesday



Welcome to Woof Wednesday. Please meet some great dogs from CA, GA, NJ, NY, PA, TX and WI all in need of good, loving homes!

Marley is a Terrier mix who hasn't exactly had an easy life. She would like nothing more than someone to simply give her a little attention, care and love.  Please lets find her a loving home!

 Marley A4478356 - Gardena, CA



Los Angeles County Animal Control - Carson
216 West Victoria Street
Gardena, CA 90248
(310) 523-9566
animalinfo@animalcare.lacounty.gov
http://animalcare.lacounty.gov


 Jerry is another Terrier mix who would like nothing better than to find a home where he can receive lots of care and love.  Please lets find him a great home!

Jerry - Gardena, CA

 
 Los Angeles County Animal Control - Carson
216 West Victoria Street
Gardena, CA 90248
(310) 523-9566
animalinfo@animalcare.lacounty.gov
http://animalcare.lacounty.gov

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Senior pups Daisy and her best friend Lilly are real heart breakers.  Daisy is Chocolate Labrador Retriever Shepard mix  and Lily is a Belgian Shepard Sheep dog. They remind us all of our family dogs growing up those mythical perfect mutts that love those who care for them, are gentle to each other, and want nothing more than a little attention and a good dinner. Did we mention they are house trained? And good with children. Quite simply, they are a perfect pair looking to live out their golden years in peace, and we bet they both have more than a few happy years to enjoy. Daisy is super gentle Lab mix that simply radiates that special sort of canine compassion that we only see in the movies.Lilly is a gorgeous Belgian Shepherd with a puppy's love of toys and a grown up sense of decorum. I If you are looking for a couple of gals who will make you feel pretty special Daisy and Lilly might just be the ones for you. Please lets find them a good home!

Daily and Lily - Atlanta, GA

Lilly


LifeLine Animal Project
PO Box 15466
Atlanta, GA 30333
adoptions@LifeLineAnimal.org
http://www.LifeLineAnimal.org

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Snowball is Bichon Frise mix. He is a little boy filled with fun and love. Extremely cuddly, but also ready to go with lots of energy and a love for playing. Snowball gets along well with other dogs and is good with cats. He seems like he would be good with children as well. Snowball is a great dog, who loves to eat, run and lay next to you on the couch for a nap. He is excellent in his crate and rusn right in when you open the door. He's the perfect dog for just about any home and hopes you'll think so too!. Please lets find him a loving home!

Snowball - Gibbstown, NJ

South Jersey Rescue
128 Adalisa Ave
Gibbstown, NJ 08027
admin@southjerseyrescue.com
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Colton is an adorably sweet & silly 4 mo Dachshund/Lab mix. I'm currently 15 lbs of happy joy energy. he is very energetic and  loves to zoom around the yard. He's good with all the dogs hes met but  may be a little to energetic for toddlers but fine with young energetic kids ages 7yrs+. He has not met any cats yet but sure  loves to chase them. Since he's a pup he will need structured daily exercise and basic leash and obedience training. He's just starting to get house trained. He would love to be with another playful dog and have a big yard to run around in. If you're an active person or family and can keep up with an energetic pup he would be perfect for you. Please lets find him a great home!
 
Colton - Staten Island, NY



Tails of Love Animal Rescue, Inc.
Staten Island, NY 10302
cece@tailsofloveresure.org
http://www.tailsofloverescue.org
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 Big Boy, aka BB, is an adult Beagle available for adoption. He is approximately 5 years old, neutered and tested positive for heartworm and Lyme. He is being treated for both at this time. BB is fostered with a small, 20 lb. dog and several cats. He has not met children. BB was turned in to animal control due to his previous owner having too many animals. He most likely came from a backyard breeding situation. He is very shy and timid, but is coming around and learning to trust his foster mom. He has come leaps and bounds since his first day in foster. He now sits for treats, eats all of his meals and, most importantly, wags his tail.  He is very sweet and will need a home where he can flourish. He will need a loving and understanding human to help him continue to come out of his shell. He can be a goof at times hopping around like a bunny, rolling in the grass and even trotting around the back yard. BB's foster mom is working with him in regards to house and crate training. He is doing well with both. He now goes in his crate on his own and only has a few accidents in the house. He would do best with someone who will continue to use the crate (not as punishment) and who can keep a watchful eye on him to prevent accidents. If you're looking for unconditional love and a dog that knows he's now in a better place consider him.  Please lets find him a good home!

Big Boy - Philadelphia, PA


Northeast Animal Rescue
Po Box 52395
Philadelphia, PA 19115
narcats@gmail.com
http://nar.rescuegroups.org

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 Orchid is a Shetland Sheepdog / Cavalier King Charles Spaniel mix.  She is 2 years old and 20 lbs.
She is just like the flower, precious and delicate and a beautiful sight to behold. She doesn't really understand why she ended up at the pound.  She had a problem with her eye, but the nice people from Red Collar Rescue assured her that was no reason to be cast away. They took her to see a vet who said it was glaucoma, and so now she is being treated for it. She is blind in one eye but no worries, she gets around just fine. She is sweet and likes to be in a house, with a nice, soft place to rest. If you take her out for a walk she will be beaming with pride to walk with you. She likes her toys, and won't eat your shoe. She will always try her best to make you smile. Hope you will come  meet her to see how much fun she is.  Please lets find her a loving home!

Orchid - Houston, TX


Red Collar Rescue
Houston, TX 77002
info@redcollar.org
http://www.redcollar.org

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Lucky is a 11 year old Cocker Spaniel. He is a private surrender as his owners were working long hours. Lucky is on the chunky side and came in at 49 lbs. He is losing weight but still has a ways to go. This sweet boy is house trained and sleeps on his foster moms bed. Lucky gets along with the other foster dogs, likes to ride in the van, doesn't play with toys and likes people. Please lets find him a great home!

Lucky -  Twin Lakes, WI

 
Shorewood Cocker Rescue, Inc.
Box 584
Twin Lakes, WI 53181
ebaumann2@charter.net
http://www.cockerrescue.com


No paw left behind our mission!

{Please keep in mind a dog is lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care, training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

If you want to be a part of Woof Wednesdays email Ann Michele, Lauren or leave a comment. Or simply start posting about dogs in need of a home on your blog or facebook page!

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Guidance


Lately I find myself asking for guidance.  Guidance not just in one area but all areas.  In some way think I'm hoping for such a moment of clarity, maybe even signs that would be impossible to misread.  You know those type of defining moments where you just know....know exactly what you should do.

When I was younger many of my decisions seemed impulsive, not that it was all bad but it also didn't always lead me to make the greatest decisions either.  And there seemed to have been plenty of moments that left me questioning what I should do.  Those type moments, where I literally don't know what to do and don't exactly feel guided by intuition either, drive me crazy. 

And that's how I have been feeling for awhile.  That sense of just not being sure which direction to move, or for that matter what to even do.  Sounds vague I know but that's how certain aspects of life feel too.

Which sometimes leads to thinking too much, yet still not knowing any of the answers or right direction to move.

As I get older find myself trying to place my trust in God more.  Trying to ask for more guidance from him.  But then sometimes I feel like my faith waivers when the answers don't come as hoped, or shall I say in the way or time frame I hoped. Think a part of me expects the seas to part and heavens to shine upon with all the guidance and wisdom I seek. Honestly at times that's probably what it takes to get through to me. :)

Yet something also tells me I must just trust that the guidance I am seeking will come in it's own time and maybe even when it's meant to.


 And sometimes we just have to follow the path that feels the most right.








Monday, September 8, 2014

Monday Musings


Well the weekend was rather mellow, as was most of the week.  After the dog attack my body needed time to heal as everything was pretty much bruised and sore.  Everyone gave me a lot of advice about how to handle it, but instead of filing police report I chose to write a heartfelt letter to the owners of the dog.  Not sure how they will feel nor respond but guess we wait and see.

Football has started, which means the man is engrossed even further in front of the tv. He doesn't just watch his teams play he has to watch every college and nfl game on.  Plus all the other sports that are on as well.  I mainly like to watch my teams. And if there is a really good match up than that game too.  Speaking of my teams....all my favorites won this weekend.  Penn State, Eagles and Falcons....can I get a holla?! ha (yes that Big Brother show on cbs, and it's holla moments appear to be rubbing off)

Meanwhile, twitter seems filled with headlines.  The Baltimore Ravens let Rice go and NFL has suspended him indefinitely.  If you haven't see the video google it or just go over to TMZ site, either way I warn you it's hard to watch.  It's disgusting to see a man knock out his fiance like that, worst yet he doesn't  try to help her up or even get help.

She went on to marry Rice which has stirred up controversy in itself. Many question did she marry him out of love, fear or for the money and lifestyle he could give her.  People can't fathom marrying an individual who treated them that way but no one but them knows the complete truth.  It brings up some much needed discussion on the topic of domestic abuse and violence though.  Enough is enough we cannot let this happen in our society....to women, to men, to children.  How can we support victims of domestic violence?  How can we get the abusers the help they need as well,  is it possible for them to change their violent ways?

Meanwhile continuing what seems like a sports theme today, Penn State has officially been allowed to participate in bowl games again.  And will be given back it's scholarships.  For Penn State fans it's great news but not sure the public will feel okay with it.  I'm okay with it as I don't think the players should have been punished for the mistakes of a few bad men.

And one other note.  New Jersey governor Christie issued a statement saying casinos and racetracks in New Jersey could participate in sports gambling. That's huge for a crumbling Atlantic City, and it may just be enough to help turn the city around.  For the over 3000 people who have lost their jobs due to casinos closing it's much needed good news.

Though I don't gamble and think its a waste of money, the fact remains that people gamble whether it's legal or not.  In a few states sports gambling is already legal.  If it creates more jobs and revitalizes Atlantic City it might be a good thing.  Honestly though I'd kick the man's butt to the curb if I caught him gambling!  Should I rephrase that as I don't want anyone to think kicking another is okay.  Ugh in this day and age you have to watch what you say because everyone loves to misconstrue words. Nothing is a joke. ha

Anyone reading this who isn't a sports fan is probably a sleep by now.  Wake up.  My advice this Monday is get out there and stand up for what you believe.  Let your voice be heard. We don't have to agree with others, even disagreeing can be enlightening as sometimes just sharing different thoughts and ways can open not only others minds but ours as well.

By the way, did I mention Cooper worn his sister's jersey for the Eagle's game.  Brings tears to my eyes just thinking about my little girl but have to believe she is here in spirit.  And hopefully he made her proud!

















Sunday, September 7, 2014

Soul Sunday

Allow your creativity to blossom.  For too long you have held back. For too long you have limited your natural creative leanings and talents.  Maybe someone told you you couldn't create or being creative wasn't worthwhile. maybe you started telling yourself that. 

You are creative. You have a creative self within that wants to play, wants to be let loose, wants to create.  Set that part of you free. Let yourself play....with life, with work, with projects. 

Make a list of all the negative things you believe about your creative abilities....what you think, what you've been told and what you tell yourself.  Then burn it.  Now make a new list of all the things that are true, or that you believe could be true, or that you want to be true.  Let go of all the blocks.  Write down that you are creative, that you can create and that you're connected to the creative force of the universe.

When you find your connection to creativity, the entire universe will come alive for you.  It will help you, guide you, inspire you. You will find yourself imagining something, then being lead right down a path that will help you create it.  When you don't know what to do next, you can listen to your heart and let God and the universe guide you.

Creativity is the inherent nature of the world, the universe.  The universe creates. And the universe needs your help in creating. Creating brings you into harmony with the universe, God, yourself and the rhythm of life.

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Thursday, September 4, 2014

Dog Attacks and What To Do

For some reason I'm no stranger to dog attacks., though wish I was.

The first time it happened was over a decade ago.  It occurred at the beach during winter with Angel.  Two  extra large poodle mixes off leash attacked us. (the dogs were big)  Luckily I had a puffy winter coat on which protected me as I tried to to huddle my body around Angel to protect her.  The dogs attacked my back, as I screamed for help.  No one walking on the boardwalk above wanted to get involved. They just all stared, guess they were scared too.  Finally a brave woman jogger ventured down to help.  She took Angel from my arms and ran her to safety while I fended off the large dogs.  Finally their owner arrived to help.

It was scary. In that moment I wasn't sure any of us were going to get out of the situation without serious injuries, or worse.  But thanks to winter those puffy winter coats protected us.  That attack left a fear in me though.  Fear to be out in public places alone with my dog in case another stray dog attacked.  Even simple walks brought on a feeling of apprehension. Truth is not all dogs have good lives, nor are they kindly treated or cared for .  Not all are in safe or secure yards.  There are plenty of aggressive dogs out there.  One never knows when they may encounter one.  And we have throughout the years.

Fast forward to the present.  Cooper loves to go for walks.  And our neighborhood is filled with dogs both big and small.  Most friendly, but a few not so friendly.  Yesterday we encountered the not so friendly.  Once again I was attacked by a dog.  This huge Labrador type mix got out of his fenced in yard, came charging at us and knocked me down right in the middle of the street.  He then tried to get at Cooper.  I screamed for help. But the surrounding houses were all closed up with air condition running.

It took some work but got the big dog off Cooper, enough to be able to grab Cooper and get him into my chest while I fended off the dog with my back.  Threw the bag of poo I had been carrying to try to distract the other dog.  The dogs kid owner just stood by watching. Finally the adult owner came out. She even had trouble securing the dog.  By this point I had already started off down the street toward our house. As I screamed for her to secure her dog and fence so this doesn't happen again.  She looked at me clueless as she had basically missed the whole attack.

I arrived home bruised, scratched, with plenty of cuts and completely shaken.  Just felt lucky to be home. This morning I am extremely sore. My back and hip seemed to take the brunt of the fall, they hurt.

Now questions fill my thoughts, do I call the police and file a report?  Some neighbors feel I should, others thought talking with the neighbors would be a good first step. (no one knows these neighbors well, they live on the cross street so they aren't actually on our street)   While out walking a few weeks ago their young son rode next to me asking what would happen if he rode his bike over our puppy. (he went into horrible detail about what could happen)  So it's not like I want to go near the house again nor even stir the pot by contacting police which could happen. But thought maybe a simple letter would suffice?

Bigger question is how can our neighborhood, or any for that matter, prevent such attacks from happening in the first place?  There is a bus stop near this house, what if it had been a child?

I love animals, especially dogs.  But not all are friendly, that pertains to every type of breed small or large. And even the friendly ones can easily turn aggressive in certain situations. Some dogs need serious training classes, others need secured fenced in yards and most importantly, no matter what....all dogs when outside should be on a leash.  There is a leash law in most states for a reason. As I say on my Woof Wednesday posts dogs are a huge responsibility.  Owners need to not only properly care for them, but also properly train them.  And see to it that they aren't a danger to the public as well.  Just as with children there are a lot of factors such as attention, education, diet, training, time,etc., that go into raising a healthy, well behaved dog.

Yesterday scared me.  And worry that I won't be able to protect Cooper enough while out on our walks.

It was a good reminder of just how vulnerable any of us can be when outside walking in our own neighbors, parks, etc..While we can't live in fear or stop doing the things we love, we can take precautions.  People have suggested items such as whistles, pepper spray, small fog horns, sticks or even items that can be used for distraction to help fend oneself should the situation ever arise. There are a lot of self defense items on the market these days. No matter how safe we think our neighborhoods or towns are it can't hurt to have items that could help protect us as well. Something to think about it.

Meanwhile here are tips from top dog trainer Cesar Milan on what to do if a dog attacks:

1. Don't panic. There's some truth to the old adage that dogs and other animals can "sense fear". If you become agitated and run or scream, you may make the dog feel more confident in his attack, or, worse, you may appear threatening to the dog. Neither of these is a good situation to be in.

2. Make yourself rigid and motionless like a tree. When a dog approaches, stand completely still with your hands at your sides, like a tree. Do not wave your arms around or kick with your legs; the dog may perceive these actions as threatening. Don't make eye contact, since that could also cause the dog to lunge. In many cases the dog will lose interest and walk away if you ignore him.
  • Never run. Running away can awaken the dog's prey instinct to chase and catch animals. He may pursue you vigorously even if his initial intent was just playful. In addition, you won't be able to outrun most dogs if you're on foot. Even if you are on a bicycle, many dogs will be able to catch up to you.
  • Stand sideways to the dog and keep him in your peripheral vision instead of facing him and making eye contact. This will signal to the dog that you are not a threat.
  • Don't open your hands and arms up to a bite by extending them. Keep your fingers curled into fists to avoid getting them bitten. The dog may come quite close, even sniffing you, without actually biting.
3. Give the dog something else to bite. If the dog continues to threaten you, offer him something to chew on, such as your backpack or water bottle - anything but your arm or leg. This may distract him enough to give you time to escape.
  • Another good idea is to carry treats or toys when traveling in areas known to be home to dangerous dogs. If approached by an angry dog, throw your treats or toy away from you. The dog may go after these, rather than you.
4. Face the dog and command, "back away." If the dog continues to behave aggressively, and ignoring or pacifying him is no longer working, face him and sternly command him to leave. Use a strong, deep, commanding voice. You should still avoid making eye contact. The dog may become discouraged or intimidated and leave.

5. If the dog lunges, fight. Dog attacks can be fatal. If the dog starts biting you, you've got to defend yourself. Hit or kick the dog in the throat, nose, and the back of the head. This will stun the dog and give you time to get away.
  • It's okay to raise your voice at this point. Yell for help as you're fighting back. Hopefully others will hear and come to your aid.
  • If you have a stick or another weapon, you can (and should) use it to hit the dog. Don't hit him over the head, though; most dogs have very thick skulls, so this will only serve to make the dog angrier.

6. Use your weight to your advantage. Bring your entire body weight to bear on the animal, specifically pushing down with the hard points of your knees or elbows. Dogs are vicious biters but cannot wrestle, so try to get an advantageous position and break their bones fairly quickly. Get on top of the animal and concentrate force on areas such as the throat or ribs while minding to keep your face out of clawing/biting range.

7. If you fall to the ground, protect your face, chest, and throat. If you're on the ground, not only is it more difficult to fight off a an angry dog, but vital areas on your torso, head, and neck are also now vulnerable to attack. These are the most important spots on your body to protect because bites in these places will inflict the most damage and will have the greatest chance of killing you. Protect your vitals by rolling onto your stomach, tucking your knees in, and bringing your hands (balled in fists) up to your ears.
  • Resist the urge to scream or roll away, as these actions may further encourage the dog.
  • If you are looking for a more humane solution and can manage it, straddle the back of the dog with your partial body weight and apply forward pressure to the back of the neck to immobilize the dog until help comes.
8. Back away slowly and leave the area once the dog loses interest in you. Staying calm and stationary can be a real test of your nerves in such a stressful situation, but it's the best thing to do as long as the dog isn't actually biting you.


Note: Call the authorities. If the dog that attacked you was a stray, he may attack others, too. It's also important to determine whether the dog may have rabies, which can only be determined after capturing the dog. Call the authorities immediately after a dog attack so that the dog can be prevented from harming anyone else and be tested for disease.
  • For dogs with owners nearby, how you handle the situation after the attack has been diffused is up to you. If you've been hurt, you may want to take legal action. Many states have laws holding owners responsible for the actions of their dogs.

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Woof Wednesday


Welcome to Woof Wednesday. Please meet some great dogs from CA, NY, PA and TX all in need of good, loving homes!

Bandit is a Wire Fox Terrier/ Dachshund Mix, 2.5 years old and he weighs 18 lbs. He is up to date on all of his shots and he is fixed. Please lets find him a loving home!

Bandit - San Diego, CA

 Bandit
Baja Dog Rescue
P.O. Box 437920
San Ysidro, CA 92173
619-407-9372
info@bajadogrescue.org
http://www.bajadogrescue.org

 
Teddy is a West Highland/Maltese Mix. He is 2 year old, 21 pound sweet boy who was given up by his owners who had to move. Teddy loves all people and is great with dogs. Smart and affectionate. He is neutered, chipped and has his shots. Please lets find him a great home!

Teddy - Santa Monica, CA

 
The Forgotten Dog
1112 Montana Ave #166
Santa Monica, CA 90404
310-285-3221
immanuel222@att.net
http://www.theforgottendog.org
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 Vanilla is an adorable Jack Russell Terrier mix puppy.  He has four other siblings in his family liter. These friendly, playful, and affectionate puppies are just a few months old. They are looking for active families without young kids who will continue their housebreaking and obedience training; we recommend group puppy classes for the whole family. These babies were born in a home, but their person was unable to care for the entire family, and kept only the mother dog, a Maltese. Vanilla is a male who weighs 8 pounds currently. He will probably be a small to medium sized adult. Please lets find him a good home!
 
Vanilla - New York, NY
 
 
 Bideawee Inc. Manhattan
410 E. 38th St. between 1st Ave. & FDR Dr.
New York, NY 10016
(866) 262-8133
audrey.fisher@bideawee.org
http://www.bideawee.org
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Rex is a Chihuahua Terrier Mix. Please lets find him a loving home!

Rex - Philadelphia, PA

 
Operation Ava
858 North 3rd Street
Philadelphia, PA 19123
215-240-1240
ray@operationava.org
http://operationava.org
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 Aussie is a beautiful tri color Australian Sheperd who is very loving and playful. She prefers the larger dogs to play with. She loves to fetch and climb rocks that are around the pool. She weighs 45 lbs and we believe she is barely a year old. She is a very sweet girl and a beauty. She has had a rough start in life but is ready for a great new future. Please lets find her a great home!

Aussie - Sanae Fe, TX
 
 
 Southern Comforts Animal Rescue
Santa Fe, TX 77517
tlandry002@comcast.net
http://southerncomfortsanimalrescue.org
 
 
No paw left behind our mission!

{Please keep in mind a dog is lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care, training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

If you want to be a part of Woof Wednesdays email Ann Michele, Lauren or leave a comment. Or simply start posting about dogs in need of a home on your blog or facebook page!
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