Monday, June 30, 2014

Monday Musings


This Monday is the start of a heat wave here, which basically means temperatures above 90 with high humidity that makes one feel as if they are in a sauna.  Was hoping the hot stuff would hold off for a while so that we would not need to put the ac units in.  As there is something refreshing about fresh air compared to recirculated closed house air.  And it takes up window space.  This is another reason I miss San Diego because living by the coast we didn't need ac. 

Sometimes think I should have been a meteorologist as not only do I talk about weather a lot but I'm obsessed with checking all kinds of weather maps, especially radar.  Just fascinated by the unpredictability of weather and it's patterns.  And for some reason I seem to love to talk about it on Mondays. ha

This week was mellow compared to the previous one.  Literally the man and I didn't leave the house all weekend.  He zoned in front of tv while I did stuff around house.  I know sounds real exciting right? ha  At least I'm getting caught up on things but still a lot to accomplish though.

Feeling very distracted by a million thoughts this Monday.  So on that note I'm off to get some fresh air!
















Sunday, June 29, 2014

Soul Sunday


Every moment and every event of every one's life on Earth plants something in their soul.

Your heart has answers that you cannot get from anywhere else. Only your heart knows what is right for you, what is good for you, and what is best for you. Ask in your own heart about those things for which there seem to be no answer.


Let the language of your soul, be known by the actions of your heart.

Put your heart, mind and soul into even the smallest acts. This is the secret of success.


Thursday, June 26, 2014

When to Let Go and Move On


I've had moments, especially over the past year where I found myself wondering such thoughts. Think at one point or another we have all asked ourselves should we stay or go?  Whether it be in regards to relationships, friendships, jobs, living situations, education, etc.  Though change of any kind is not always easy.  I remember reading the words "find the courage to let go of what you can't change", if only it was that simple.

Iyanla Vanzant recently wrote a piece on this very topic which thought was rather insightful and worth sharing. Iyanla is the host of OWN's Iyanla: Fix My Life and the author of numerous self help style books.  She basically tells it like it is, trying to put things in perspective for people to help them become the best they can be and lead the best life possible. Here are her thoughts on the matter.

How do I know when it's time to let go?

We have all had moments when we felt uncertain about our next move, or wondered if we should make one at all.

"Do I stay in this relationship or leave it behind? Do I stick with this job or look for another?"

"Am I really happy living in this city, or would I be happier somewhere else?"

While these decisions can feel daunting, the red flags that tell you it may be time to walk away are actually easy to recognize:

1. You feel like you're fighting an uphill battle.

None of us should expect to tiptoe through tulips all day long, but if you spend most of your time trying to fix, alter, or cope with a situation, there is a good chance it's not the right one for you. Joy is a natural outcome of being where you should be. So if you're constantly struggling to feel good, it's probably time for a change.

2. You feel obligated, not excited, to stay.


Relationships based on obligation rarely last long, because they always, always lead to resentment and bitterness. Having a must hanging over your head limits your ability to choose, and because choice is power, lack of choice will make you feel powerless. Staying because you think you have to isn't doing anyone any favors: If you don't want to be there, you won't be able to give of yourself in any way that's meaningful.

3. You're not valued.


Nothing is more damaging than knowing you are disposable. When you give your all to someone or something but can see plain as day how little it matters to whoever is on the receiving end, it's time to go. Don't allow yourself to be compared with others, don't allow yourself to be put down more often than you're lifted up, and do not, under any circumstances, accept less than you deserve. Those are clear exit signs.

4. Fear is holding you back.

When you stay only because of the scary things that might or might not happen if you go, you make a conscious decision not to grow. And living in a way that stunts your growth always has a price. Staying merely out of habit or comfort costs you more opportunities than you know.

5. You're compromising yourself. 

Integrity is the internal mechanism that encourages us to do what's right for us even when others disagree. When you ignore that mechanism, whether to make someone else feel better or to save yourself the difficulty of doing right, you wind up causing yourself a lot of heartache. The misery of feeling bad about who you are or how you're accommodating everyone except yourself will eventually pollute the very situation you're trying to preserve. Don't let that happen. Steel your courage, face the truth, and get moving.


We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.
 

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Woof Wednesday


Welcome to Woof Wednesday. Please meet some great dogs from CA, NY, PA, SC and TX all in need of good, loving homes!

 Sassy is a Labrador Retriever mix, who is 2 years old and 50 lbs. She is the best you can get for children and is a very loyal, loving and playful dog. She loves to play and has a lot of energy; therefore, her ideal home would be with people who enjoy camping or going to the beach or with someone who can commit taking her at least for a daily walk in the park. Sassy has a cheerful, tail wagging nature and is steady-tempered and dependable. Sassy loves children and plays well with other dogs. Sassy has a short, easy, care coat and responds well to positive training. She is an excellent companion for an active family. Come see her! She is hoping you will. In the canine heart there is always hope. Please lets find her a loving home!


 Sassy -  Bells Garden, CA

Miracle Dog Rescue
Bell Gardens, CA 90201
(323) 383-8883
reyna1950@yahoo.com
www.miracledogrescue.org___________________________________________

Lucy and Molly are two wonderful 3 year old pitbulls. They were rescued from a North Carolina swamp and are from the same litter, grown up together, they truly are sisters and complete love bugs. The couple that adopted them gave them a loving home nearly 3 years ago, then a year ago they split and their mom has been doing all possible to give them a good life, sadly she can no longer care for them as her personal situation has become daunting and must leave them alone too much. Good with Children, Crate Trained/Basic Obedient, Never around Cats, Love people. Molly is good with other dogs, Lucy would need to be reintroduced she was bit as a puppy so she's fearful of other dogs, but a great dog. Both girls are housebroken.  Please lets find them a good home!

Molly and Lucy - New York City, NY


Zani's Furry Friends
NYC, NY 10028
info@zanisfurryfriends.org
http://zanisfurryfriends.org
_____________________________________________

Baxter is a Poodle/ Terrier mix, 1-3 years old and 17 lbs.  He is full of energy. Loves to play fetch, loves to snuggle. Is friendly to everyone he meets. He has a lovely hair type coat that sheds very little but does mat easily, so requires regular brushing. He is not good with cats but is currently living with other dogs in foster care.  He was found as a stray. He needs work on ignoring other dogs on leash. He is very jumpy and needs manners training, so he'd do best in a home with older children, teenagers and adults rather than young children. Please lets find him a good home!

Baxter - Philadelphia, PA

 Philadelphia Animal Welfare Society
100 N. 2nd Street
Philadelphia, PA 19106
215-298-9680, ext. 16.
dogs@phillypaws.org
http://www.phillypaws.org
________________________________________________ 

Angelina is a Dachshund/Chihuahua mix, more affectionately referred to as a "Chiweenie." She is estimated to be 3-4 years old, weighs 11 pounds and is about 9 inches tall. She loves to explore and go on walks. She is house-broken and currently in a foster home. She has an interest in cats, but we think could live with one safely. She is a spunky little dog with lots of personality that her pictures just don't fully illustrate. Please lets find her a loving home!
 
Angelina -West Columbia, SC

 
 The Heartworm Project
P.O. Box 7308
West Columbia, SC 29171-7308
(803) 394-7470
heartwormproject@hotmail.com
http://www.heartwormproject.org/
___________________________________________________ 

Tessa is a Basset Hound.  She is a very sweet and laid back. She craves human attention. She just wants someone to show her love, and she has lots of love to give back. She loves her crate and sleeps there very well at night. She's working really hard on always going potty outside, but she's smart. She learned to go out and through my doggy door the first day. She seems like she would much rather be inside than out, so maybe in her past life she was kept outside. Tessa gets along well with dogs and cat.  Please lets find her a great home!

Tessa - Houston, TX


 Basset Buddies Rescue of Texas
PO Box 130244
Houston, TX 77219
(281) 657-7347
info@bbrtx.org

 
No paw left behind our mission! 

{Please keep in mind a dog is lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care, training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

If you want to be a part of Woof Wednesdays email Ann Michele, Lauren or leave a comment. Or simply start posting about dogs in need of a home on your blog or facebook page! 

Monday, June 23, 2014

Monday Musings


This Monday I'm about ready for a nap. Started the day with some yoga. Then Cooper had a vet appointment which means bath for him and clean the house day too.  When the dog has to get a bath the clean freak in me goes to town cleaning everything in house.  It started long ago with Angel, some how just kept the habit. So I bath dog, vacuum and mop all floors, wash dog bedding, couch cover and our sheets.  Clean bathrooms and even washed car today!

Call me crazy but nothing drives me more nuts than when everything is dirty and dusty, not to mentioned unorganized.  I'm one of those types that simply cannot relax in such environments. 

Things have been busy which is good.  Friday I got to spend an entire day with my niece which was awesome. Picking her up at school and being greeted with a monster hug pretty much made my day. We spent the whole day outside, even had to take cover under an umbrella as it was hot and every one was getting red.  She is the most amazing soul to listen to and watch.  Some times have to remind myself that she's only six as her soul seems older.  I feel so protective of her, and constantly worry about the craziness of the world around her as she grows up.  Wish I could some how show and teach her all the lessons I've learned so she won't make the same mistakes or will know the right thing to do.

What made Friday even better was my parents came over for dinner.  It was so nice getting to hang out with every one and my dad brought some great food as well. Only wish we got to spend more time together.

Saturday spent the day doing various things around the house.  Had a heart felt talk with the man, explained how I've been feeling lately.  Hoping he heard and understood what I was trying to express. As there are certain things that need to change. That's how life is, sometimes it requires us to make changes. Hopefully positive changes. And if we listen closely enough it will guide or show us how.

Oddly enough the next day we find our neighbor outside crying on the curb, only to find out her husband informed her he is filing for divorce.  It was surprising as they are only in their early thirties and have two small children.  She came to our house for a while explaining the whole situation. It's not good, his attitude is take everything leave nothing. Our heart broke for her as you could feel her pain.  Yet it opened our eyes to the frailness of any relationship.  How a lack of good, open communication, nurturing, sharing responsibilities and making each other a priority can ruin love.

Sunday we went to Manayunk, which is a neighborhood in Philadelphia, for an arts fest.  It's a rather large art festival that attracts artists from all over the country.  Figuring it would be crowded we decided to get there early when it opened. Great idea because we not only found parking two blocks from it but got to walk around for at least a hour before it got crowded.  We even came home with some pieces of art.  Overall beautiful weather and art!






Sunday, June 22, 2014

Soul Sunday


Life isn't meant to be easy, it's meant to be lived.
Sometimes good, other times rough.
But with every up and down,
You learn lessons that make you strong and wiser. 
 
God, a higher power, the universe all know what and who belongs in your life. And what and who doesn't.  Trust and let go. Whatever and whoever is meant to be there, will still be there.

What's meant to be will always find a way.




Thursday, June 19, 2014

Reflections and Reminiscing


Do you ever reflect back to what your dreams were, and what they are now?  Or where you thought you would be, compared to where you are at?  Lately I have been in such a reflecting state.

Can't say I was one of those people who had some big plan.  You know the type that makes the 5, 10 or even 15 year goals.  Though looking back there are moments I think maybe that would have provided more structure, a path of sorts to follow.  Then again is there ever such a thing as a path that doesn't have detours in life?

Suppose instead of having plans, I had an idea of sorts of where I might like to be.  When I was very young were talking high school, college years I envisioned a big house, lots of luxury stuff, athletic/hot husband...as much as I hate to admit it my focus seemed more on superficial things.

As I got older or maybe just grew up that changed more to owning a charming modest home, being married to my soul mate, finding a career I love and traveling the world.  Started to imagine a cottage  home by the sea, filled with treasures from all the travels I would be going on.  Dreamed of exploring the world with my soul mate.  My soul mate, oh don't get me started... I imagined him as very athletic, kind, loving, deep, thoughtful, passionate, romantic, intelligent, hard working, sharing the same beliefs/morals as me,  honest, someone who didn't smoke or do drugs, soulful, some one who shared similar dreams and with whom I could engage in all kinds of interesting conversations.  Of course would spend my days doing something I love or was passionate about and would make a difference in the world.
 
And maybe that's why I feel some what disappointed as to have not achieved those ideas in the ways I imagined. Maybe that's why I feel restless now, feeling the desire to make more of those dreams a reality.  My heart knows it needs more to be happy, to thrive and feel like I'm truly engaging in life.

Though as I work on achieving those dreams there is a reflection process that seems to take hold as well.  So thought maybe Thursdays on my blog would be a good opportunity to reflect back on the journey.  Share the adventures, craziness, the many experiences and stories that got me to the present moment. People used to tell me to write about everything, if only blogging had been around back then I probably would have. But since it wasn't, why not take this opportunity to look back on the adventures, choices and journey that led to the here and now.  And suppose some photos will have to be searched for as well, what are stories without images to go with them. :)

Let the reminiscing begin.  Thursdays will be a throw back to the past and a lesson of sorts for the present.

When I look back at some of my earliest photos my favorites are the ones of me at the beach as a mere toddler or later lounging in the little pool in the back yard.  So maybe that's where my love or obsession with the beach, ocean and sun all began. 




























Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Woof Wednesday


Welcome to Woof Wednesday. Please meet some great dogs from CA, NY, PA and TX all in need of good, loving homes!

Cesar is a Maltese/Cockapoo mix who is 7 months old and 19 lbs. He is one of the brightest and gentlest of the toy breed. He is peaceful with the world and gets along great with other pets and relates wonderfully with guests and children. Despite his small size, Cesar is full of courage, loyalty and affection. He has an upbeat attitude and loves to play and learning to walk on a leash. Cesar loves car rides! He is not a demanding breed and would be a great pet for a senior citizen. He requires little exercise and this can be met by indoor games or short walks with you. But he does like to play and is a very friendly pup. He also has little shedding of his coat. This fabulous pup will be responsive to positive, gentle, non-forceful training so he can have the same manners as a larger dog. He is a gentle lap dog and will make an elegant home companion. Cesar is hoping you will come see him. In the canine heart there is always hope.  Please lets find him a good home!

Cesar - Bells Garden, CA

Miracle Dog Rescue
Bell Gardens, CA 90201
(323) 383-8883
reyna1950@yahoo.com
www.miracledogrescue.org
_____________________________________________

Salt & Pepper are Chihuahua/Terrier mixes who are two peas on a pod. This bonded pair is completely in love and must stay together. Salt is a girl, Pepper a boy. They're three years old and about 15 pounds each. They have never been separated. They have perfect manners, walk great on a leash, are very quiet and low energy, and are completely housebroken. They get along very well with other dogs, cats, and everyone they meet. Please lets find them a great home!

Salt and Pepper - New York, NY



Social Tees Animal Rescue
325 East 5th Street
New York, NY 10003
(212) 614-9653
robert@socialtees.com
http://www.socialteesnyc.org
__________________________________________

Desi is a Toy Poodle. He is 5 years old and about 10 lbs. He is a super cute little guy.  He can be nervous so he needs a patient home who can give him space when he needs it and love him when he  asks.  He knows lots of commands, is well trained and house trained too.  He needs a new home because he is really scared of the new baby his parents had, so a home without kids would be his preference.  Please lets find this guy a good home!

Desi - Philadelphia, PA
 

 Cares4pets
PO Box 31942
Philadelphia, PA 19104
cares4pets@hotmail.com
http://www.cares4pets.org
__________________________________________

Bonnie and Clyde are two purebred lemon beagles who were rescued as strays,we think they are father and daughter. Clyde being about 5 and Bonnie about 3. These pups had been neglected a long  time when they were rescued, had skin issues, infected ears and worm the pads off some of their paws. Their fosters have nursed them back to health. Clyde still has a few scars on his face from the skin infection but they are looking so good and now are healthy and are the happiest pups. They are social with people and other dogs. They are just darling dogs. They dearly love each other so we will not separate them to adopt, they must stay with each other. They are fine with other dogs but really love each other. They weigh about 30 pounds and are up to date on all vetting.  Please lets find these two sweethearts a loving home!

 Bonnie and Clyde- Santa Fe, TX
 

Southern Comforts Animal Rescue
Santa Fe, TX 77517
tlandry002@comcast.net
 

No paw left behind our mission!

{Please keep in mind a dog is lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care, training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

If you want to be a part of Woof Wednesdays email Ann Michele, Lauren or leave a comment. Or simply start posting about dogs in need of a home on your blog or facebook page! 

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

7 Smart Ways to Deal with Toxic People


There is a lot written these days about toxic environments, food, products, etc., but what about toxic people?  Toxic people are just as harmful to ones well being.  How does one recognize when some one is toxic?

They are usually the ones who complain all the time. They are the ones who always blame you or others. They may always turn things around so things you felt they had done wrong are suddenly your fault. They drain your energy. You find yourself spending a lot of time and emotional strength trying to cheer them up. They may bombard you with their negativity so that you have to spend energy trying to fend it off.

Perhaps their constant pessimism or even cynicism infects you, or they can make you feel angry, depressed or even tired. They may be leeches who feed themselves by making you give them your positivity or strength.  Overall they are not that happy or fun to be around. 

So when I saw this latest piece written by one of my favorite inspirational author Marc Chernoff felt it was worth sharing, as who hasn't encountered at least one toxic person.  Here are some great ideas on how to deal with such people.

7 Smart Ways to Deal with Toxic People

Don’t let toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and get them out of there.

Surviving the ups, downs, and lightning storms of other people’s moodiness can be quite a challenge.  It’s important, though, to remember that some moody, negative people may be going through a difficult stage in their lives.  They may be ill, chronically worried, or lacking what they need in terms of love and emotional support.  Such people need to be listened to, supported, and cared for (although whatever the cause of their moodiness and negativity, you may still need to protect yourself from their behavior at times).

But there’s another type of moody, negative behavior: that of the toxic bully, who will use his or her mood swings to intimidate and manipulate.  It’s this aspect of moodiness that inflicts enduring abuse and misery.  If you observe these people closely, you will notice that their attitude is overly self-referential.  Their relationships are prioritized according to how each one can be used to meet their selfish needs.  This is the kind of toxic behavior I want to look at in this post.

I’m a firm believer that toxic mood swings should not be inflicted on one person by another, under any circumstances.  So how can you best manage the fallout from other people’s relentless toxicity?

1. Move on without them.

If you know someone who insists on destructively dictating the emotional atmosphere, then be clear: they are toxic. If you are suffering because of their attitude, and your compassion, patience, advice, and general attentiveness doesn’t seem to help them, and they don’t seem to care one bit, then ask yourself, “Do I need this person in my life?”

When you delete toxic people from your environment it becomes a lot easier to breathe. If the circumstances warrant it, leave these people behind and move on when you must. Seriously, be strong and know when enough is enough! Letting go of toxic people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it simply means you care about your own well-being.

A healthy relationship is reciprocal; it should be give and take, but not in the sense that you’re always giving and they’re always taking. If you must keep a truly toxic person in your life for whatever reason, then consider the remaining points…

2. Stop pretending their toxic behavior is OK.

If you’re not careful, toxic people can use their moody behavior to get preferential treatment, because… well… it just seems easier to quiet them down than to listen to their grouchy rhetoric. Don’t be fooled. Short-term ease equals long-term pain for you in a situation like this. Toxic people don’t change if they are being rewarded for not changing. Decide this minute not to be influenced by their behavior. Stop tiptoeing around them or making special pardons for their continued belligerence.

Constant drama and negativity is never worth putting up with. If someone over the age 21 can’t be a reasonable, reliable adult on a regular basis, it’s time to…

3. Speak up.

Stand up for yourself. Some people will do anything for their own personal gain at the expense of others – cut in line, take money and property, bully and belittle, pass guilt, etc. Do not accept this behavior. Most of these people know they’re doing the wrong thing and will back down surprisingly quickly when confronted. In most social settings people tend to keep quiet until one person speaks up, so speak up.

Some toxic people may use anger as a way of influencing you, or they may not respond to you when you’re trying to communicate, or interrupt you and suddenly start speaking negatively about something dear to you. If ever you dare to speak up and respond adversely to their moody behavior, they may be surprised, or even outraged, that you’ve trespassed onto their behavioral territory. But you must speak up anyway.

Not mentioning someone’s toxic behavior can become the principal reason for being sucked into their mind games. Challenging this kind of behavior upfront, on the other hand, will sometimes get them to realize the negative impact of their behavior. For instance, you might say:

“I’ve noticed you seem angry. Is something upsetting you?”
“I think you look bored. Do you think what I’m saying is unimportant?”
“Your attitude is upsetting me right now. Is this what you want?”

Direct statements like these can be disarming if someone truly does use their moody attitude as a means of social manipulation, and these statements can also open a door of opportunity for you to try to help them if they are genuinely facing a serious problem.

Even if they say: “What do you mean?” and deny it, at least you’ve made them aware that their attitude has become a known issue to someone else, rather than just a personal tool they can use to manipulate others whenever they want. And if they persist in denial, it might be time to....

4. Put your foot down.

Your dignity may be attacked, ravaged and disgracefully mocked, but it can never be taken away unless you willingly surrender it. It’s all about finding the strength to defend your boundaries.

Demonstrate that you won’t be insulted or belittled. To be honest, I’ve never had much luck trying to call truly toxic people (the worst of the worst) out when they’ve continuously insulted me. The best response I’ve received is a snarky, “I’m sorry you took what I said so personally.” Much more effective has been ending conversations with sickening sweetness or just plain abruptness. The message is clear: There is no reward for subtle digs and no games will be played at your end.

Truly toxic people will pollute everyone around them, including you if you allow them. If you’ve tried reasoning with them and they aren’t budging, don’t hesitate to vacate their space and ignore them until they do.

5. Don’t take their toxic behavior personally.

It’s them, not you. Know this. Toxic people will likely try to imply that somehow you’ve done something wrong. And because the feeling guilty button is quite large on many of us, even the implication that we might have done something wrong can hurt our confidence and unsettle our resolve. Don’t let this happen to you.

Remember, there is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally. Most toxic people behave negatively not just to you, but to everyone they interact with. Even when the situation seems personal – even if you feel directly insulted – it usually has nothing to do with you. What they say and do, and the opinions they have, are based entirely on their own self-reflection.

6. Practice practical compassion.

Sometimes it makes sense to be sympathetic with toxic people whom you know are going through a difficult time, or those who are suffering from an illness. There’s no question about it, some toxic people are genuinely distressed, depressed, or even mentally and physically ill, but you still need to separate their legitimate issues from how they behave toward you. If you let people get away with anything because they are distressed, facing a medical condition, or depressed, even, then you are making it too tempting for them to start unconsciously using their unfortunate circumstance as a means to an end.

Several years ago, I volunteered at a psychiatric hospital for children. I mentored a boy there named Dennis, a diagnosed Bipolar disorder patient. Dennis was a handful sometimes, and would often shout obscenities at others when he experienced one of his episodes. But no one ever challenged his outbursts, and neither had I up to this point. After all, he’s clinically “crazy” and can’t help it, right?

One day I took Dennis to a local park to play catch. An hour into our little field trip, Dennis entered one of his episodes and began calling me profane names. But instead of ignoring his remarks, I said, “Stop bullying me and calling me names. I know you’re a nice person, and much better than that.” His jaw literally dropped. Dennis looked stunned, and then, in a matter of seconds, he collected himself and replied, “I’m sorry I was mean Mr. Marc.”

The lesson here is that you can’t “help” someone by making unwarranted pardons for everything they do simply because they have problems. There are plenty of people who are going through extreme hardships who are not toxic to everyone around them. We can only act with genuine compassion when we set boundaries. Making too many pardons and allowances is not healthy or practical for anyone in the long term.

7. Take time for yourself.

If you are forced to live or work with a toxic person, then make sure you get enough alone time to relax, rest, and recuperate. Having to play the role of a “focused, rational adult” in the face of toxic moodiness can be exhausting, and if you’re not careful, the toxicity can infect you. Again, understand that even people with legitimate problems and clinical illnesses can still comprehend that you have needs as well, which means you can politely excuse yourself when you need to.

You deserve this time away. You deserve to think peacefully, free from external pressure and toxic behavior. No problems to solve, boundaries to uphold, or personalities to please. Sometimes you need to make time for yourself, away from the busy world you live in that doesn’t make time for you.

Monday, June 16, 2014

Monday Musings

 
Time feels like it's moving too fast recently.   

Went to my nieces kindergarten graduation, and just kept thinking there was no way she could possibly be going into first grade next year.  She seems like her own little person now.  Those are the moments in which you just want to freeze time.

Found myself having to hold back tears when they sang songs about the future.  Kept thinking about how the world is such a crazy and unpredictable place. Hope and pray that every one of them will go on to have amazing lives....that they don't get caught up in drugs, bullying, crimes or mixed up with the wrong people.  That they be leaders not followers, always listening to their hearts first.  And that each one of them will grow up to be caring, compassionate, kind, intelligent, loving adults.

Overall it was a busy week.  There was some outdoor stuff that needed to get done. The man actually stepped it up and cleaned out the gutters, which were over ridden with smelly, leafy matter.  Actually helped a little with puppy duties, and even did a few dishes without being asked. It was so unlike him thought for sure it had to be a dream. Those moments he leaves the tv and computer behind are by far the best.

One of the hardest aspects of all we have been through is his inability to communicate and engage in life, he spends so much of his life zoning to tv or on his website. It's why when everything with his addiction went down last year we desperately needed couples counseling.Things needed to be aired, discussed, worked out and solutions needed to be found but instead nothing was addressed. When he didn't follow through with it, well it felt like a large wall was created that brought more distance than closeness. Anyway....

Saturday was spent at my mothers, it was so nice to get out of the house. Cooper was happy as he got to run around outside, they have a large backyard with privacy fence. With his energy he really needs a fenced in yard. 

Sunday I had a vertigo episode so it pretty much left me couch bound, which is never good.  Think the stress of everything is starting to catch up as I feel really tired lately. I don't know how the man does it because I get ancy and bored laying around. Especially when the weather is nice, just want to be outdoors doing fun stuff.


After a rather cool and rainy Spring the weather is starting to heat up.  Summer has officially arrived and things are steaming up.  So have to figure out a way to get to the beach.  It's a little harder now with a new puppy as there is still got a lot of training ahead of us.  Though the first trip back to the beach will be tough because I always took Angel there.  Of course the more I even think about the beach, the more tempted I am to just pack the car and go.  Besides who could not use some spontaneity in their life!













Sunday, June 15, 2014

Soul Sunday


This Soul Sunday inspiration comes from a song that was performed at my nieces kindergarten graduation, what a great reminder for all of us.  Due to the various religious beliefs held by each family, her class chose to replace God in certain parts with my or you. Though I'm posting the original lyrics.

No matter what age, never forget the promise you hold. Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing themselves. The world is full of possibility but it must start with each of us first.  Make the right choices, remember the potential you hold, be the possibility and promise the world needs.

I am a promise
I am a possibility
I am a promise with a capital P
I am a great big bundle of potentiality
And I am learning to hear God's voice
And I am trying to make the right choice
I am a promise to be anything God wants me to be.

I can go anywhere that he wants me to go
I can be anything he wants me to be
I can climb the high mountains
I can cross the wide sea
I'm a great big promise you see.

I am a promise
I am a possibility
I am a promise with a capital P
I am a great big bundle of potentiality
And I am learnin' to hear God's voice
And I am tryin' to make the right choice
I'm a promise to be anything God wants me to be
Anything God wants me to be.

http://churchillcorp.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/crepuscular1606_650x488.jpg

Saturday, June 14, 2014

Honey Roasted Potatoes


Honey Roasted Red Potatoes

Ingredients

1 pound red potatoes, quartered
2 tablespoons diced onion
2 tablespoons butter, melted
1 tablespoon honey
1 teaspoon dry mustard
1 pinch salt
1 pinch ground black pepper

    Instructions
      1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Lightly coat an 11x7 inch baking dish with nonstick cooking spray.
      2. Place potatoes in a single layer in prepared dish, and top with onion. In a small bowl, combine melted butter, honey, mustard, salt and pepper; drizzle over potatoes and onion.
      3.  Bake in the preheated 375 degrees F (190 degrees C) oven for 35 minutes or until tender, stirring halfway through the cooking time.
         

        Wednesday, June 11, 2014

        Woof Wednesday



        Welcome to Woof Wednesday. Please meet some great dogs from CA, NY, PA, TX and WI all in need of good, loving homes!
         
        Lola is a West Highland Terrier mix. She is sweet, young girl who just wants to be your best friend. She's timid and shy at the beginning, but as soon as she discovers you have a lap, she won't leave your side. Once out of her shell, she's playful and has tons of personality.  Please lets find her a loving home!

        Lola - Beverly Hills, CA

        Ace of Hearts Dog Rescue
        P.O. Box 2357
        Beverly Hills, CA 90213
        (310) 358-3344
        dogsfromheaven@aol.com
        http://www.aceofheartsdogs.com
        ____________________________________________


         Slater is a Catahoula Leopard Dog / Hound mix.  He is a sweet, but shy and nervous pooch, who needs time to learn that people are gentle before warming up.  However, once he sees that you mean no harm, he’ll be snuggled up to you in no time.  Slater needs a home that will continue to teach him that it’s okay to be left alone, and who will work on reinforcing calm behavior.  He would also benefit from a family that can teach him how to become more comfortable around people when he has a bone.  For these reasons, he is best in a home with children over 12.  However, he would do well in a home with a doggie or a kitty friend.  All this sweet boy needs is a second chance with the right family for him.  

        Slater - New York, NY
         
         Bideawee Inc. Manhattan
        410 E. 38th St. between 1st Ave. & FDR Dr.
        New York, NY 10016
        (866) 262-8133
        audrey.fisher@bideawee.org
        http://www.bideawee.org
        ___________________________________________
         
        Bruno is a Bichon Frise mix, he is between 2-4 years old, 12 lbs. When Bruno first came to us, he was matted and uncomfortable from being a stray on the streets. He now looks great. He's high energy and comfortable with other dogs. He also has separation anxiety, so would do better in a house with another dog to keep him company and exercised.  He's also got some mild food aggression that an experienced owner would be able to deal with.  Bruno would benefit from basic obedience training to make sure he will be the best pet he can be. Please lets find home a good home!
         
        Bruno - Philadelphia, PA

         Philadelphia Animal Welfare Society
        100 N. 2nd Street
        Philadelphia, PA 19106
        (215) 238-9901
        info@phillypaws.org
        http://www.phillypaws.org
        __________________________________________ 

        This young Labrador Retriever mix male doesn't even have a name let alone a family.  Please lets find him a loving home!

        A407952 - Houston, TX

         
         HCPHES Veterinary Public Health
        612 Canino Road
        Houston, TX 77076
        (281) 999-3191
        webmaster@countypets.com
        http://www.countypets.com
        ____________________________________________

        Rome is a Cocker Spaniel about 4 years old.  His is loaded with laughter and personality.  You will enjoy hanging out with him because he is so sweet.  He has a limp from a broken leg that was healed before ever being taken care of.  He doesn't seem to have any pain and it doesn't slow him down.  His foster says he is either partially deaf or going through his teenager stage of selective listening.  She is working on that and my potty training.  Please lets find him a great home!

        Rome - Brookefield, WI

         JRs Pups N Stuff
        Brookfield, WI 53005
        (414) 640-8473
        jrspupsnstuff@yahoo.com
        http://jrspupsnstuff.org


         No paw left behind our mission!

        {Please keep in mind a dog is lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care, training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

        If you want to be a part of Woof Wednesdays email Ann Michele, Lauren or leave a comment. Or simply start posting about dogs in need of a home on your blog or facebook page! 

        Monday, June 9, 2014

        Monday Musings


        This Monday I can't say all that much has changed since last week.

        Maybe feeling more stressed, a breaking point of sorts feels like it's on the horizon.  Lack of sleep, time to myself, not enough help or fun seem to be taking their toll.

        Still not much help on the home front with the new puppy.  Someone asked me "did I really think the man was going to step up?" Honestly thought it meant that much to him that he would give it his everything.  No one can compete with his sleep, sports, website or tv, including puppy. 

        What bothers me the most is it doesn't matter how I feel, nor what I say.  He seems to tune me and pretty much every one else out.  Hence why I feel disillusioned. Honestly there are too many days where I'm starting to feel like I live alone. That's all I'm going to say for now.

        Puppy is a handful, he has his sweet moments and neurotic ones.  Teaching him not to bite ankles, toes, wrists and fingers is going to be tough as so far he doesn't respond to most of the usual tricks.

        Mean while, thinking maybe I need to change Monday Musings to include a more positive focus.  Basically the good things of the week, no matter how small.  But sometimes I just need an outlet, so writing turns into my way of screaming all the stresses into a pillow. Besides Sunday are filled with inspiration so figure I'm allowed one day a week to let it all out. :)

        In other news, heard back from John Hopkins who decided to take my dizziness case!  That's huge because I was told they don't take any case, especially if they feel they have nothing to offer.  Now just have to figure out a way to get down there for the appointment. And find some one trust worthy to watch the pup which isn't exactly easy during the week.


        Have I mentioned how much I miss Angel?  Seriously not a day goes by that I don't wish she was here with me or miss her terribly.   Oh how I miss her laying on some part of me while I sleep, especially the way she use to nestle herself into my shoulder.  By now thought for sure she would have sent me some kind of sign, oh how I wanted a sign to let me know that she is okay and that life goes on.  And I keep praying to God asking for some kind of sign.

        Such is life, sometimes we have the answers and sometimes we don't.  There are plenty of nights I lay awake pondering the mysteries of life.  Hard to explain but life without her just doesn't feel the same.  When I gaze up at the stars at night can't help but wonder where she is and does she know how much I love and miss her.....















        Sunday, June 8, 2014

        Soul Sunday


        This weeks Soul Sunday is dedicated to Maya Angelou. Author, performer, poet, activist and inspirational soul.  Her wisdom will continue to be a guiding light in our world. 

        When you learn, teach. When you get, give.

         What you're supposed to do when you don't like a thing is change it. If you can't change it, change the way you think about it. Don't complain.

        The desire to reach for the stars is ambitious. The desire to reach hearts is wise.

         When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.

        “I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life. I've learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life." I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one. I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I've learned that I still have a lot to learn. I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

         You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you.  Nothing will work unless you do.

         You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.
         We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.

        Love life, engage in it, give it all you've got. love it with a passion, because life truly does give back, many times over, what you put into it.
         



        Saturday, June 7, 2014

        Happiness Clarity


        Any time spent unhappy is time wasted.  As I read those words this morning they resonated with me.

        And if it's true, well than honestly there have been moments over the past couple of years that could be considered time wasted.  Looking back I wonder why I put up with anything less than  happiness?

        For various reasons, many of my dreams, desires and happiness were over looked. Sometimes that can happen because of the choices we make. Yet choosing anything but happiness only sets us up for regret later.

        As I mentioned the other day Angel's passing brought a clarity of sorts that has really begun to open my soul to the truth.  Often hear people talk about regret, while I have some there is one that stands out and hurts. So far that regret is that Angel never got to be in my wedding.  Every day since her passing it tears at my heart.

        From the moment she came into my life, always dreamed of her and I walking down the aisle together.  Some one loving her as much as I did and wanting her to be a part of their life forever too.  Her in a light pink dressing trotting alongside me in the sand during a beautiful beach wedding.  Standing beside me as we made those vows of commitment and love.  Even though it will never be now, I will forever hold that dream in my heart.

        It brings up all kinds of emotions. Anger and sadness probably most at the fore front.  How did the man not know how important it was to me?  For years he kept saying don't worry she will be around to see it happen, but it felt more like another broken promise. Why when it became evident my dream would never become a reality did I just accept it?  How did I let so much wasted time go by? Why did I put up with some of the things I did?  How did I not see the fundamentally different beliefs, values and even habits.

        It just seems like there has always been some issue that had to be resolved before we could even think about something as serious as marriage. Truth is with his addictions and debt there was never any money for a ring, wedding, house, etc.  Hurtful actions and words with little remorse throughout the years caused walls to go up, distrust to form and a once happy place in my heart to hurt. Only now do I realize the toll its taken, the cost it came with.  Honestly not sure if it all can be healed. But feel as if a breaking point of sorts has arrived things must change. They need to change to allow for happiness, and even love.

        While I'm not perfect, some of the health stuff especially dizziness have sidelined me from at times leading the life I truly desire. Think those things kept me from seeing how I deserved better at times.  No one should ever settle for being treated with less then the utmost kindness, love and respect. But I have tried hard to remain open, to work on myself and to become a better person.

        Throughout all of the challenges there have been many life lessons learned, it helped my soul grow in ways I never imagined.  Shaped me into an overall better person. I've grown deeper, wiser as have my beliefs and values. It took losing Angel to really put things in perspective.  If only my little one was here to share any future happiness with.

        Because I don't want to spend a moment unhappy now.  Life is just too short. Our time here is precious and we all need to make the most of it.   Dreams are important. And having people in our lives that believe and support those dreams is equally as important. If our loved ones cannot get on board with our dreams, if their idea of happiness is different than ours than maybe they aren't meant to be a part of our lives. We cannot let the toxic negative action/behavior/habit of others rob us of our happiness. I've learned that others should lift us up not break us down.

        Everyone learns their lessons at their own pace, truth is some may never learn but we must continue to focus on happiness. Truth is happiness should outweigh unhappiness, when it doesn't it's time to change things until it does.  We need to surround ourselves with those who make us happy.

        All I know is I let an important dream slip by, it's something I will always regret. A piece of happiness was stolen from me.  Yet it has taught me a valuable lesson, life waits for no one. We must go after our dreams, we must listen to our heart, live in authenticity, fill our lives with real unconditional love, face our fears, let the negative people and situations go, do whatever it takes to create that happiness our soul deserves.

        Life is full of choices, choices that can lead to happiness or unhappiness. 
         

        Wednesday, June 4, 2014

        Woof Wednesday


        Welcome to Woof Wednesday. Please meet some great dogs from CA, NY, PA and TX all in need of good, loving homes!

        Daisy is a very loyal, loving and playful dog. She was found sleeping in the hollow of a tree. Now she lives with children, adults and more dogs, but with no cats. She walks on a leash and behaves very well in car rides. She sleeps indoors, and is housebroken, but spends all of her day playing outside in the yard. She is a high energy dog; therefore, her ideal home would be with people who enjoy camping or going to the beach or with someone who can commit taking her at least for a daily walk in the park. She is an excellent companion for an active family. Come see her. She is hoping you will. In the canine heart there is always hope.  Please lets find her a loving home!

        Daisy - Bells Garden, CA 
         
         Miracle Dog Rescue
        Bell Gardens, CA 90201
        (323) 383-8883
        reyna1950@yahoo.com
        http://www.miracledogrescue.org
        ___________________________________________

        Macho is a charismatic little man. He's got a funny bowl cut that makes him look a lot like Ross from Friends... so his foster dad has nicknamed him Ross! This boy is 3 years old and about 28 pounds. He has a super soft, curly coat and he gets along well with all people he meets as well as other dogs. His front feet turn out in an adorable penguin-like way, and he loves to go for long walks in the park and chill out by your side at home.  Please lets find him a great home!

        Macho - New York, NY
         
         Social Tees Animal Rescue
        325 East 5th Street
        New York, NY 10003
        (212) 614-9653
        robert@socialtees.com
        http://www.socialteesnyc.org
        _________________________________________
         
        Mister is a very nice little poodle mix who was found as a stray. He is about 1-2 years old and 12 lbs.  Friendly and a charming companion for adults. He gets along with other dogs and cats, although we don't know whether he would be a good companion for children. Please lets find him a good home!

        Mister - Philadelphia, PA



        Philadelphia Animal Welfare Society
        100 N. 2nd Street
        Philadelphia, PA 19106
        215-298-9680, ext. 16.
        dogs@phillypaws.org
        http://www.phillypaws.org
        _________________________________________________
         
         Sparkle is an older gal with a sparkly personality and the name to match. Freed from an area shelter, she's now basking in the comfort of her foster home and looking forward to a forever family to call her own. She's about 8 years old, pretty, and sweet. She'll make a wonderful companion for years to come. Please lets find her a great home!
         
        Sparkle - Houston, TX

        Basset Buddies Rescue of Texas
        PO Box 130244
        Houston, TX 77219
        (281) 657-7347
        info@bbrtx.org


        No paw left behind our mission!

        {Please keep in mind a dog is lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care, training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

        If you want to be a part of Woof Wednesdays email Ann Michele, Lauren or leave a comment. Or simply start posting about dogs in need of a home on your blog or facebook page! 




        Monday, June 2, 2014

        Monday Musings


        Life has felt out of sorts lately.  So much has happened, good and not so good.  But haven't felt much like blogging.  Which is rare for me as usually I'm sharing too much with the world.

        Can't believe already a month has gone by since I lost my sweet Angel.  She will always hold a very special piece of my heart. Miss her so much. But we decided the house was too quiet, lonely and sad without her. So we recently welcomed Cooper into our lives, and look forward to our adventures with him. 

        While it wasn't easy to do as there was such a strong sense of guilt. Never want Angel to think we replaced her as she could never be replaced. He is simply a new puppy with his own personality who can help bring life and love back into ours. Maybe even help heal the pain we all feel with his joy.  One thing is for sure our world has been turned upside down. He will get his own introduction post as well.

        While I was leaning toward an older rescue dog the man wanted a puppy.  My first thought was did he realize how much work a puppy is. The sleepless nights and all that goes into training a puppy. This is the guy who likes to spend all day on couch watching tv not being disturbed. So I felt like most of it would fall onto my shoulders.  He promised he was ready for the responsibility but so far he's not showing it. While he sleeps, watches tv, tweets and works on his computer I'm doing most the puppy chores. He hasn't fed our little guy once yet. And even when he is watching him he is either preoccupied with computer or napping on couch. While cooking dinner I told him Cooper had to go out, so he tells me after Judge Judy. Puppies cannot wait, so of course puppy pees in house while waiting. It's disappointing and frustrating. Really hoping it gets better!

        Speaking of the man, oddly enough Angel passed on his one year anniversary of sobriety.  What a year it's been. While he has remained clean of pain pills not much has changed....still prefers to zone to tv over doing things, no luck finding a job and still doesn't help much around the house. (except maybe watering outside)  Still a lot of debt to be paid off, mean while more accrues. His license got suspended because of the seizure yet he continues to drive. So I have mixed feelings over this year. Thought sobriety would bring an enlightenment of sorts but not so sure it has.  

        Losing Angel while incredibly painful has in a sense opened my eyes.  It's amazing how short life is and we only get once chance to get it right. I realize there has been a sort of unhappiness or frustration in particular areas of my life the past few years. Angel was such a happy spot it was easy to overlook the not so great ones.  Through out the years, especially during those dark times with the man and even the health stuff, Angel was the light. Now that shes gone there feels like a gaping hole. Yet a clarity of sorts as well.

        It's odd how that happens.  Sometimes clarity comes when we least expect it.  And those moments of clarity make you wonder why you didn't see them sooner.  How I wish I had known a long time ago what has become so clear now.  Some of the stress, the unhappiness could have been avoided along the way.

        That's the amazing part of life....if we keep our hearts, minds and souls open to learning we can grow into the people we were meant to be.  We can open ourselves to enlightenment and growth or we close ourselves off.  Another thing I learned is not everyone grows with us. I have to remind myself that it's not my responsibility to show someone what they need to learn or understand they must find it on their own, in their own way. And when people in our life don't want to change, it doesn't mean we can't.

        Oh clarity where were you years ago, if only I knew the wisdom I know now years ago. So many ideas and thoughts.  As if a bright light bulb finally went on.  Though maybe life tried to show me these things years ago but I wasn't ready, or maybe too close off to understand. Thinking about the past, wondering about the future and trying to concentrate on the present.

        But most importantly I realize the focus in my life has changed.  I feel more centered on living a life focused on faith, goodness, honesty, unconditional love, kindness, meaningful friendships/relationship, spirituality, positive things and most importantly happiness.  Want to surround myself with fun, honest, kind, hard working, positive, spiritual, loving people.

        There is a quote by John Wooden that I think says it all "If you don't have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?" Something to think about this Monday.....

        If only the me back then understood that and knew what I know now.

         
















        Sunday, June 1, 2014

        Soul Sunday

         

        20 Questions that Will Free Your Mind from Negativity

        Negativity often breeds not from the answers we receive from this world, but from the questions we ask ourselves every day. You can spend your life wallowing in fear by avoiding the obvious, or asking negative questions like, “Why me?”  Or you can be grateful that you’ve made it this far – that you are strong enough to breathe, walk and think for yourself – and then ask, “Where do I want to go next?"

        Life is filled with unanswered questions, but it is the courage to ask enough of the right ones that ultimately leads you to an understanding of yourself and your purpose.So stop and swap them for questions that push you in a positive direction. 
        1. What could you be grateful for and positive about right now, if you really wanted to?  Your greatest weapon against stress and negativity is your ability to choose one thought over another.  Happiness escapes from those who refuse to see the good in what they have.  When life gives you every reason to be negative, think positive.
        2. What’s one problem you’re thankful you don’t have?   Smile right now; not because life has been easy, perfect, or exactly as you had anticipated, but because you choose to be happy and grateful for all the good things you do have, and all the problems you know you don’t have.
        3. What are you holding on to that you need to let go of?  Oftentimes holding on actually makes us weaker, and letting go builds our strength.  Does that thing you were extremely upset about six months ago, or last year, really matter now?  I bet it doesn’t.  And if you’re still thinking about it, it’s not serving your best interests.
        4. Who, or what, needs your forgiveness?  Forgiveness doesn’t always lead to healed relationships and situations.  Some relationships and situations aren’t meant to be.  Forgive anyway, and let what’s meant to be, BE.  Go ahead and set yourself free.  When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel.  Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and break free.
        5. What’s the right thing to do?  Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.  Just because it’s easy, doesn’t mean it’s worth your while.  Do what’s right, not what’s easy.  It’s a far less stressful way to live.
        6. What’s something nice you can do for someone else right now?  Do all the good you can, to as many people as you can, as often as you can.  No act of love and kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.  Good vibes always come back around.
        7. What compliments have you received lately?  Remember, butterflies don’t know the color of their wings, but the human eyes know how beautiful they are.  Likewise, in the haste of your busy days, you likely don’t notice just how great you are, but others nearby still see that you are incredible.  When someone says something nice about you, it’s worth remembering.
        8. What do you know you’re great at?  Although it’s nice to hear people compliment you, it’s not essential to your self-worth.  And if no one offers to give you a compliment, give yourself one.  You are good enough, smart enough and strong enough.  You don’t need other people to validate you every minute; you are valuable!  Notice your strengths, focus on them, and celebrate them.
        9. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?  Truth be told, you can’t please everyone and you shouldn’t try.  Care less about what the haters say about you and smile more about what you know is true.  Live your life and be happy with yourself, without their negative judgments.  Practice listening to compliments and constructive criticism, and ignoring insults and negativity.  It’s far from easy, but it’s worth working on.
        10. What activities help you feel most like yourself?  In other words, figure out what motivates you to grow into your most authentic self.  And remember that you can’t grow unless you’re willing to change.  But as you grow you’ll notice you don’t change much… you just become more of who you are.
        11. What gets you excited about life?  Think… If you truly wanted to be excited right now, what could you get excited about?  Find it and focus on it more often.  When you truly believe in what you’re doing, it shows and it pays.  Success in life is for those who are excited about where they’re going.  
        12. What excuses do you need to stop making?  As George Washington once said, “It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  If you are good at making excuses, you will never be good at anything else.  No matter what the obstacles are that you see in front of you, the only thing truly standing between you and what you want is the excuse you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.
        13. If you learn from your mistakes, why are you always so afraid to make a mistake?  If you want to do it right, make lots of mistakes and accept a great deal of discomfort along the way.  It might sound crazy, but it’s worth your while.  In life, mistakes make you smarter and discomfort makes you stronger.  Both are necessary growing pains.
        14. When was the unexpected better than what you expected? When something goes wrong in your life, just yell, plot twist and then do your best to adapt.  You won’t always get where you intended to go in life, but you will eventually arrive precisely where you need to be.
        15. What do you now know better for next time?  Don’t let your fear of past events affect the outcome of your future.  Live for what today has to offer, not what yesterday has taken away.  There will always be obstacles, but we are confined most often by the walls we build ourselves.  What we see depends on how we look at it.  Forget what you’ve lost and focus on what you’ve learned.
        16. What’s the next best step forward from here?  Every unwelcomed event, person or situation is really just a doorway into the next you.  A stronger, wiser you.  
        17. What’s priceless about this moment?  Step forward, but don’t rush.  Don’t completely waste the season of life you are in now, simply because you want the next one to begin.  There is always beauty waiting to be realized.  Notice the goodness happening around you right now, even if you have to look a little harder than usual.
        18. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?  Relax.  You are enough.  You have enough.  You do enough.  Breathe extra deep, let go and just live right now in the moment.
        19. Who do you need to spend less time with?  There are over seven billion people in the world right now; don’t let a handful of negative ones ruin your happiness.  No, you can’t choose every person you meet in life, but you can choose who you spend your time with.  So be thankful for the people who walk into your life and make it better, but also be thankful for the freedom to walk away from the ones who don’t.
        20. How have insignificant past rejections messed with your self-confidence?  Don’t let old rejections take up permanent residence in your head.  Kick them out on the street.  Realize that sometimes you have to try to do what you think you can’t do, so you realize that you actually can.  And sometimes it takes more than one attempt.  If plan A doesn’t work out, don’t fret; the alphabet has another 25 letters that would be happy to give you a chance to get it right.  The wrong choices usually bring us to the right places, eventually.  You just have to believe in your own potential to get there.  This weeks Soul Sunday comes from one of my favorite inspirational authors Marc Chernoff. 



        Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...