Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Woof Wednesday (Florida)


Welcome to Woof Wednesday, please meet Boots Barkley a Poodle/Westie mix who was taken off the streets and now is in need of a good, loving home.   This little guy would love to find a home with another dog and a family that is home a lot as he loves to play and loves his snuggle moments as well.

The rescue group he is with prefers residents that live full or part time in Florida as a home visit is required before adopting him.  Let's find Boots Barkley a good home, where he will receive the love he so deserves.

By the way, I came across Boots last week but for some reason didn't feature him, but his cute name stuck with me.  Then while putting on my dogs raincoat I noticed the name of the designer was Boots and Barkley which made me think of him.  So I knew he had to be featured this week.  Let's find him a home!

BOOTS BARKLEY: West Highland White Terrier Westie, Dog; Melbourne, FL

BOOTS BARKLEY: West Highland White Terrier Westie, Dog; Melbourne, FL

Boots Barkley, 3 years old male

Coastal POODLE Rescue, Melbourne, FL
 Contact:  www.coastalpoodlerescue.org
  • 321-459-2652


{Please keep in mind a dog is a lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care,training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

*If you want to be apart of "Woof Wednesdays" email Lauren at [lcairdo@gmail.com] or leave a comment! We would Love to bring you on board!

Monday, November 28, 2011

You Are Loved


If you are not familiar with Josh Groban I recommend his music.  His beautiful voice combined with the words of his songs are inspiring.  And I think everyone could use a little inspiration.  Here is the words to one of his great songs.  Sometimes when life seems less then perfect this song feels perfect.   

And let us all remember that love can often times make the world of difference in everyone's world.  I think the most amazing thing we can all do is show love to those we meet because you never know what they are going through.  And don't forget to tell those closest to you how much they mean as well, love is one of those things that can never be expressed enough.  We should never take for granted that people know how we feel because they might not. Show, tell, do whatever you have to but let people know they are loved!  


Don't give up

It's just the weight of the world

When your heart's heavy
I...I will lift it for you



Don't give up

Because you want to be heard
If silence keeps you
I...I will break it for you



Everybody wants to be understood

Well I can hear you
Everybody wants to be loved
Don't give up
Because you are loved



Don't give up

It's just the hurt that you hide
When you're lost inside
I...I will be there to find you



Don't give up

Because you want to burn bright
If darkness blinds you
I...I will shine to guide you



Everybody wants to be understood

Well I can hear you
Everybody wants to be loved
Don't give up
Because you are loved



You are loved

Don't give up
It's just the weight of the world
Don't give up
Every one needs to be heard
You are loved


Monday Musings

Monday....yet after a long holiday weekend I'm more welcoming then usual to the day.

Thanksgiving was good got to spend it with the parents, though missed my sister and niece a lot. The man got to watch the Villanova game on Thanksgiving, thankful for understanding parents who realize my man holiday or not, cannot go without watching sports on tv.  We all ate lots including the two dogs who seem to adore sweet potatoes.




And the weekend wasn't a complete dud either, actually got the man to go for a walk two days in a row!  Plus play scrabble Saturday night.   Though he still was tuned into the tv, at least it was a semi date night.  Now if only he could cap off the night with a little love.  Small steps. haha


Anyway, I did watch the move Love and Drugs last night, it was good though I think they could have wrote a little more depth into the movie. Though it had a touching premise. It definitely had no problem with sex, it felt like every other scene was them in bed, which only left me wishing the man would wake up and show some passion.  Just being honest as I find it hard to watch couples in movies having love all over the place and not be a little envious. : ) (in fact the love scene in Breaking Dawn when I actually get to see it might just send me over the top)


It's interesting as you always here about woman not wanting sex, but the more and more I hear there are plenty of men like that too. (if not even more men then women)  I know hard to believe but it's true.  Imagine a man choosing a game on tv, or even sleep, over love but it happens.

Sometimes I think that has to do with affection styles as well, as some people both men and women are overly affectionate and some are simply not.  Energy, hormones medicines, stress, work, kids, etc., all come into play as well. Whatever it is, life is short and people need to make more time for love even if it's just kissing, cuddling, hugging, holding hands, you know some form of affection.  Oh don't get me wrong it doesn't hurt to spice things up too. : )

Even on the Kardashian show last night, when Kourtney said they sleep in different beds I thought are you kidding me.  Yeah it's a known fact that due to hormones passion may  fade over time but that doesn't mean people have to let it.  She seemed to pick on him more then she ever showed him genuine love.  It's also a  known fact the more love you show the more love you feel.  They have proven that expressing love is one step to creating happiness.



In my opinion couples need to realize like anything in life sometimes it needs a little more attention, creativity, work, and whatever else to keep the romance alive.  And that's the beauty of it, but all too often people take each other for granted, they fall into routines that leave little room for love..

I felt like screaming at the tv....show the guy some affection, love, and give him a little or some days a lot of your undivided attention.  It's amazing to see how some people treat the ones they love, no wonder why Kim didn't last with Kris watch the show and it's apparent both are too selfish and wrapped up in themselves to begin to understand how to truly love another.  Anyway....

I think my Monday might just be turning into a pining for love day.  Who am I kidding it already has. haha


This Monday I am humming All You Need Is Love, and honestly I think that's going to be the thought for today.   Everyone is always a little bit happier when they give and receive a little love.  In my opinion life is short don't wait to show love, express it each day even if just in a tender long kiss, and life might just be a tad brighter for all.


















Sunday, November 27, 2011

Soul Sunday



"As I go through all kinds of feelings and experiences in my journey through life -- delight, surprise, chagrin, dismay -- I hold this question as a guiding light: "What do I really need right now to be happy?" What I come to over and over again is that only qualities as vast and deep as love, connection and kindness will really make me happy in any sort of enduring way."

I came across this lovely quote to which I thought was worth sharing.  But what I love is the question....

What do I really need right now to be happy?

That is a question we all deserve to ask ourselves.  

And if in a relationship, or with any relationships in our lives, how can we incorporate what makes us happy with what makes others happy?   As what brings happiness to one might not bring happiness to another. 

And then find the courage to bring into our lives, or do, that which makes us happy.










Friday, November 25, 2011

Lost

"Every event in life can be causing only one of two things.  Either it is good for you, or it's bringing up what you need to look at in order to create good for you." 

Lately I'm wondering more and more about this.  As I feel pretty much the events happening lately just seem to keep knocking me down further.  On Tuesday I found out surprising news about my heart and yesterday found out news that could substantially affect my fiances.  Talk about being kicked when one is already knocked down.  I'm just not able to find the good in any of it. 

 It's hard because I haven't exactly been in this situation before where time after time the negative stuff keeps getting thrown at me.  I cannot even process one thing before another gets handed to me.  It's so overwhelming, it feels like my world is spiraling out of control.  And the best word to describe how I feel at the moment is lost.

The more I try to think about how to resolve them the more lost I feel.  It's an odd feeling.  I can honestly say I just don't know what to do.  And not knowing what to do feels stressful, and creates a fear of sorts.

I have wondered whether it all is trying to get me to look at certain things.  But honestly I come up blank, as I just have no answer, no intuition, no gut feeling on any of this.  It's so frustrating. 

"Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves liked locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue.  Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would be able to live them.  And the point is, to live everything.  Live the questions now.  Perhaps you will find them gradually, without noticing it, and live along some distant day into the answer."

Then I happened upon this quote and I wondered if that held some truth as well.   But honestly I feel I have been as patient as can be in a such a situation.  And some of the negative stuff I've been dealing with especially the health stuff cannot wait, as it is affecting so many other areas of my life including my ability to work, that it cannot remain unsolved.  And I believe that is where I feel the most overwhelming pressure, the most lost especially when doctors cannot offer healing to what ails, it's scary.  

"It is good to feel lost...because it proves you have a navigational sense of where "home" is.  You know that a place that feels like being found exists.  And maybe your current location isn't that place but, Hallelujah, that unsettled, uneasy feeling of lostness just brought you closer to it."

And yet some further insight, as I know what that place of being found feels like.  At the moment that feeling would involve a sense of well being, being free of the health issues, the physical sensations that impede my life.  Knowing and feeling a clear cut vision of what I should be doing for a living, knowing I could be successful and do it inspite of any health issues.  A feeling of financial security.  And finding a home we could afford to own, create roots as opposed to renting and always moving around.  Maybe even settling by the beach where I feel the most at home. Creating more fun in our life.  And whatever else would bring joy.  But honestly the most important is health, and I've learned if you have that you have true wealth.

That's the thing sometimes lately it's hard to focus on my dreams, even though I do have ideas.  But how to put it all into place, how to implement and make those desires a reality is where I feel lost.

"Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it."

"If one advances confidently in the direction of one's dreams, and endeavors to live the life which one has imagined, one will meet with a success unexpected in common hours."

And maybe sometimes we just have to follow the path that is given, trust that life will guide us, even when we cannot feel or see where it leads.  
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Thursday, November 24, 2011

Thanksgiving Inspiration

Many years ago I stumbled upon this in the newspaper.   It has often been a source of inspiration and a reminder to appreciate the smallest of things, not only at Thanksgiving but all throughout the year.  

Happy Thanksgiving! 




Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Woof Wednesday (OH and NJ)

Welcome to Woof  Wednesdays!   Since the holidays are upon us, and there are still so many dogs in need of loving homes I've decided to feature a few dogs in various states to open up the
possibilities. 

Oliver is a very pretty male Westie whose prior owner could no longer care for him. He is well behaved and mild mannered, he is good with other dogs and doesn't mind cats at all. Hes housebroken, current on shots and very healthy, and at night he enjoys moonlighting as a hot water bottle for his chosen person. All he needs now is a family of his own, someone to love him as much as he loves them!

Oliver: West Highland White Terrier Westie, Dog; Cincinnati, OH

Oliver, 8years old

Westie Rescue Indiana, Inc. - Cincinnati, OH

Contact: Josh (jrogers0219@gmail.com) or Pam (phammersley@imcpl.org).




Please meet Winston, he came to the shelter after being surrendered because his family of 8 years no longer had time for him.  He's a really sweet boy but does have some special needs. WInston is blind but once he gets to know his surroundings, he can get around great and very rarely does her bump in to anything. He really needs a home where someone is home most of the time as he does get stressed when left alone for too long. Winston will need house training too but loves everyone he meets: people, other dogs, cats, kids, etc. He's a happy go lucky boy despite what's happened to him and is looking for a good, loving home!

Winston: West Highland White Terrier Westie, Dog; Thorofare, NJ

Winston, 8 years old

All They Need is Love Rescue, Thorofare, NJ

  • (609) 560-112
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    {Please keep in mind a dog is a lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care,training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

*If you want to be apart of "Woof Wednesdays" email Lauren at [lcairdo@gmail.com] or leave a comment! We would Love to bring you on board!

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

The Holidays


The holidays to me have always been about more than just gifts, it's about the feelings and spirit they evoke.  Don't get me wrong the gifts are fun but time spent with love ones is what I cherish the most.  The good food, the decorations, lights, are wonderful too.

As a child the holidays seemed easier. Yet as we get older it can be difficult getting everyone in the same place for the holidays.

Sometimes the holidays bring stress because it means trying to figure out where to spend them, who to visit on what day or whatever else.

Like this year it was suppose to be my sister's turn to spend it with our family but her husband's mom a few weeks ago announced she wanted everyone at their house because of his brother coming home. (which I understand, but it's our year which she knew, and I feel she could have held her family dinner over the weekend instead)  Stuff like that has happened throughout the years and it bums me out when we all don't get to share it together.

And my man, his family lives in New York, so holidays also have to be arranged with them as well.  We never just get to have a family Christmas of our own because he has to drive to see his family. (I don't even bother going anymore because his mother won't let us bring our little one and what's Christmas or Thanksgiving if she can't be with us to share it)  But again it sucks for him because he spends more time driving then enjoying the actual holiday.

It takes away from the holiday when families have to be apart.  Oh I know it's only one day but sometimes it's hard to get in the holiday spirit. And some how wish there was a way to simply spend those moments all together.  If only the holidays could consist of a few days instead of just one.

So when I came across this post on a friend's facebook page, I thought how perfect.  As sometimes the true meaning of the holidays gets lost amongst the expectations we place on them and the material things.  This simply reminds us what the true holiday spirit is about.  And puts things in perspective a little.

I don't want much for Christmas, I just want the person reading this to be happy.  Family and friends are the fruit cake of life --- some nutty, some sweet, but mix them together and they're mine.  At Christmas you always hear people talking about what they want & bought.  This is what I want: I want people who are sick with no cure to be able to be cured. I want children and pets with no families to be adopted.  I want people who need jobs to be hired.  I want people to never have to worry about food, shelter & heat.   I want everyone to be able to feel happiness and joy.  I want a world in which we respect one another.  I want a world in which people are honest, faithful, loyal, and compassionate.  I want a world free of fear and worry.  I want peace and love for everyone!


May we find a way to be with those we love this holiday season and to remember the real meaning of the holidays. And may we find a way to bring happiness and love to those who may not have family or loved ones to spend the holidays with.  Blessings.

Monday, November 21, 2011

Monday Musings

Monday yet again.....

And since the highlight of our weekend was going to Walmart for a hour, well there isn't much else to say about it.  haha

We did try to work on a budget for the man, but the financial discussion was like sour caddy.  Somehow my useful tips and ideas of how to save money he took too personal. How anyone can turn a maybe " you could make coffee at home"  " take a case of water to work" or "brown bag your lunch" to save money on all he consumes during a day could be misconstrued I didn't quite understand but alas they were. haha
Interesting as my man gets upset with his mother because she is rather stubborn, set in her ways, thinks she is right, gets defensive easily, doesn't like to discuss things and has a black or white way of thinking.   Let's just say I see a lot of her in him.   Anyway.....

 My man just needs an occasional push as overall he doesn't want to be bothered with having to go out, he doesn't want the responsibilities that come with owning a house, and anything that feels like work outside of work is annoying to him. :)   He wants to be able to sit on the couch, watch his tv/sports, and not be bothered with life.  So anything that disrupts that is asking for sourness. hahahaha

But hey aren't we all like that, everyone has their own likes and dislikes, it's what makes us each special in our own way.  Truth be told we actually kind of compliment each other, as I think most people do. (just wish he desired to own a house as much as I do, as I'm tired of renting and simply want a small house we can create roots in)  I love the little cottage house we rent and I'm trying very hard not to get attached to it.

Anyway, I really need to see Breaking Dawn as I need a few hours of just getting lost in romance with Edward and Bella.  Disappointed I didn't get to see it, but wasn't sure how my brain would handle the huge screen right now.  Did anyone see it and if so what did you think?

Well it's Monday, time to make some dinner and I happen to be craving guacamole so maybe I need to whip up some fajitas!



















Sunday, November 20, 2011

Soul Sunday


"At times we all can get impatient while we wait for God to work in our lives. We pray and pray but no answer seems to come - at least not when we want it to come. Remember that God works in His own time and an answer will come when the time is right in His eyes."

At some point or another I'm pretty sure everyone has experienced such a feeling.  Wanting or wishing an answer would come to whatever it is one is praying but not feeling an answer or maybe even the resolution one was hoping for. It's the very reason some people abandon their faith at times, because they themselves feel abandoned.  

Those times can seem like the hardest, those feelings of abandonment or being lost may crop up.  Simply not know what to do or how to resolve whatever it may be can be so very hard, and difficult to understand.  And sometimes people even seem to put their lives on hold waiting.

Maybe even the answer comes but it's not in the form or way one imagined, so it becomes in essence lost.  Whatever it may be, how does one remain patient in those moments.  And also keep themselves open to the answers.  How does one continue to live a full life when the prayers they need or desire are not being answered in the ways they need to feel good or happy. And what if what we pray for isn't really what's best for us. On Sundays I especially find myself pondering such ideas.

To a certain extent I think we just have to pray, and believe that what is suppose to happen will happen.  And even in those moments where many feel abandoned and/or lost one must find a way to have faith and hope.  Meanwhile, I think we must also remember to live each day to the fullest.

Find a way to surround ourselves with positive, good energy.  Follow our hearts, have fun, do the things that make us happy, fill our lives with unconditional love, listen to our intuition, help and support any one who needs it, etc., maybe by doing such things the very answers one might be looking for might come as well.

"Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you."











Saturday, November 19, 2011

Wave of Life

Ever had one of those days that just doesn't go right, what about if that day stretched into months and who knows how long.  The feeling as if a wave is engulfing one, as opposed to one riding it.  What is one suppose to do then?  

Lately I just cannot figure out what to do.  My momentum I had for finding a cure, or believing this dizziness can be healed is fading.  I feel in a mere matter of a year my world was turned upside down.  First being laid off, then the health problems that just seemed to spiral out of control this past year. My life feels like it has been hit by a tsunami.  And the process of picking up the shattered pieces has felt like such a slow process.

Finding happiness and peace within that process has been difficult at times.  I think not being able to work has been the hardest of harsh of realities to try to learn to accept for now.  (even though my man has a good job, with his past debt my income actually takes on even more importance)  And not knowing if I will ever be able to get back to working full time on a computer has been a scary thought. Or even being able to run to the store.  

This dizziness has left me feeling very helpless, lonely, and bored. (something I haven't even wanted to fully admit)  I hate admitting anything other than happy, positive feelings.   Not only that but it has brought a reflection of sorts, an enlightenment in some ways life not always going right can do that i suppose.  Or maybe just having the time helps as well, who knows. 


Whatever it may be it has also brought to light some things such as a superficialness, judgementalness, and even a little  selfishness in those I thought I knew. (are those even words) Which has sadden me in some ways as well. As when the waters get rough it often times reveals the true characters of those around us as well.  It's interesting to see how those closest to us respond in those less then perfect moments of life.

Anyway I find myself shouting to the universe more often than not, please just give me my life back....let it return to normal, let me just be able to run to the store to pick up the basic necessities.  Let me be able to work or find a way to bring in enough income so I can buy a small house, so we can finally have a real home not have to deal with moving and renting.  Please just let me read a book, or do anything for that matter, without my world feeling like it is moving, spinning, or my brain feeling as if it has a horrible charlie horse.

Even bigger question I find myself asking the universe is what is one suppose to do when life just doesn't go as we desire and it appears we seemingly have no control over it.  Especially when there are health issues involved, you know such as how can I get my life back to normal when I can barely keep my balance some days.  I worry everyday about all these things and more.  

And so far I've deduced that when life is less than perfect one has to try to find the simplest and smallest things that might bring happiness.  That I believe keeps one from falling into the black hole of life. But I'm still trying to figure the rest out.  And maybe all I can do is try to ride the wave of life, you know not let it engulf me but instead find a way to be one with it.  Just a thought....












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Friday, November 18, 2011

Random Thoughts

First I'd like to say I'm going to miss Regis in the morning.  Seriously, I always tuned in to just to hear his stories and the chitchat in the beginning of the show.  I cannot believe he is leaving.  His goodhearted nature, humor, and wisdom will sorely be missed in the mornings.


Two did anything catch Tebow last night.  In case your not a football fan he is the quarterback for the Denver Broncos, former Florida University player, who basically was told he would never play in the NFL.  And you know what he is doing more than just playing.  The guy may be a little unconventional and still have a lot of work to do but his belief, passionate, and spirit are unbelievable.  He makes football entertaining.  And it doesn't hurt that he is cute too!

Denver Broncos quarterback Tim Tebow kneels before their NFL football game against New York Jets in Denver


Third due to my chronic dizziness issues I did not get to go see Breaking Dawn.  At midnight I looked at the clock and pined to be there.  But given that watching tv is tough right now, I thought a super size screen and non stop watching (at home I take breaks to rest my eyes) would not be good.   Though I have to admit I'm still contemplating trying to go see it on the big screen.

I've heard on various news shows the wedding scene is absolutely beautiful.  Funny I've never been excited to see any movie the way I have the whole Twilight Saga.  And I've never watched movies over and over as I have them.   There is just something about the whole story, between the romance and the sci fi.  I remember when I finished reading Breaking Dawn I felt so sad because I just wanted the story to continue. And the movies have always seem to cast the perfect people for each character.  If anyone reading this did go to the midnight was it worth the wait?


Fourth is so tired of hearing about all the Hollywood marriages that don't work and thinks the media should focus more on the ones that do. Maybe before anyone gets married they should have to take a semester class on love and relationships.  I don't know just an idea.  Just think we as a society are getting farther and farther away from what love really means.  And what it means to be married.  Or even in a faithful, loyal relationship.  We need more positive, uplifting stories about love.  Seriously this topic could make for a years worth of posts. 

Fifth with 2 1/2 weeks to go before I can get my loyalty verizon customer upgraded phone at discounted price my phone has decided to crash.  And Verizon says there just isn't anything they can do until that official upgrade date.  I don't get it, after being a long time customer of Verizon's you think they could give me a break with less than 2 1/2 weeks.  But no.  So for now my phone has to remain plugged into charger 24/7. Fun.  Though it does give me time to research new phones....Droid or Iphone. Any suggestions? 
So those are my random thoughts which I know happen to be all over the place.  Ever have days like that where your mind is just filled with a million and one ideas.  :)



Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Woof Wednesday (Texas)

Welcome to Woof Wednesday.  Please meet Cristie a sweet West Highland Terrier.   Her previous owners surrended her to a shelter which was extremely traumatic for her.   Can you imagine being given up by your family at the age of 7.   She currently lives with a foster family in San Angelo, Texas but is in need of a loving, permanent home.

Christie likes affection from her humans, but she does not like to be picked up unless it is necessary. She likes to play with her toys and she truly enjoys being outside when the weather is nice. She has been diagnosed with Addisons Disease and she does require daily medication for that.  All the more reason she needs a special, loving home!

Please let's find this special dog who went through such a traumatic experience, a loving family who will appreciate her and give her the permanent home she so deserves. 

Christie: West Highland White Terrier Westie, Dog; San Antonio, TX

Cristie, West Highland Terrier, 7 year old

San Antonio Area Scottie Westie Rescue, San Antonio, TX
  • Contact: Libby Probandt at (325)234-2666.


{Please keep in mind a dog is a lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care,training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

*If you want to be apart of "Woof Wednesdays" email Lauren at [lcairdo@gmail.com] or leave a comment! We would Love to bring you on board!

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Anythings Possible

On those days, weeks, months, years or whenever one is overcome with a moment of feeling like nothing is going right.  Where life feels more confusing than ever.  Those times when one wonders what happened to their dreams or question what their dreams even are.  For such moments and many others that might make one feel less than good.  Here are some wonderfully inspiring words of wisdom.   May we always believe that anything's possible!

You've always had the power.   



Your life is a reflection of the way you think. What you believe is what you become.



Feel for what your soul believes. If you believe it, you can achieve it. Anything is possible.

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Monday, November 14, 2011

Monday Musings

Monday is here yet again. 

My weekends was a roller coaster of ups and downs. 

Friday night we had the most delightful dinner at Longhorns Steak House.  I was nervous such a busy place might irritate the dizziness.   But an Angel must have been  watching out because we got the best table in the house, a quiet corner booth.  Seriously what are the chances....it was so perfect I almost cried.   And the dinner was delicious!  Their salad was so good it prompted me to make a salad for us this weekend, and we never eat salad.

Saturday was rather uneventful, as it was filled with the man with his usual college football all day/night on tv.  I felt a little restless at times.  And sad over the whole Penn State thing.   Also got a tad stressed Saturday night feeling like I do everything around the house, while the man veges in front of tv. Oh well.  I'm trying hard not to get stressed and to not sweat the small stuff but it's hard as I'm a type A. 

Sunday was the worst.  Seriously from the moment I got out of bed I felt dizzy and it just got worst.  In fact, I had a scary dizzy spell that left my brain feeling horrible.  It was so intense I was left with no choice but to take a Valium.  I'm getting worried as so far none of the specialists can figure out why or what exactly it is or causing it.   It is affecting my life in so many ways, and not good ways.

The only brightspot in the whole day was by evening I was able to make a nice dinner and take a short walk around the block with the man and our little one.  And that meant the world to me!  

As I said to the man, this dizziness has given me such a new perspective on life.   It makes me sad to think how much I took for granted before.  I told him I think if one has good health they have already won the biggest lottery in the world.   And to those who don't finding it can be one of life's toughest challenges they will ever face.  Just something to think about.

Anyway, I have to try to limit the computer moments so that's it in a nutshell for this Monday

Look at the beautiful flowers the man brought home this weekend.  Which is a good reminder today and everyday don't forget to smell the flowers!







Saturday, November 12, 2011

Slow Down

"When we're truly present, we recognize the ordinary moments are life's greatest gifts.  Slow down be present in your life." 


Life waits for no one.  So put the phone down, log off the computer, shut the tv off and just be in the moment.  Appreciate and enjoy the people in your life, be grateful for the ordinary moments, appreciate the small things,  never allow yourself to become to busy, to preoccupied, to consumed with anything but just being in the present.  That is what matters the most.  


A mind that is fast is sick.
A mind that is slow is sound.
A mind that is still is divine.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Woof Wednesday (New Jersey)



Welcome to Woof Wednesday, please meet Charlie.  He was recently rescued from a shelter where he had been placed by his former owner who could not care for him properly.  Little Charlie has a skin infection which is healing most likely caused my allergies. (they are common in westies)  So he needs someone who can afford to go the extra mile for him such as provide a high quality diet. 

This sweet little guy is good with other dogs, and he just needs a loving home.  Please let's help Charlie find a good home and a loving family.  Thanks!

Charlie: West Highland White Terrier Westie, Dog; Willingboro, NJ

Charlie, West Highland Terrier

Burlington County Animal Alliance, Willingboro, NJ
Email: jajachris@aol.com  (subject line: Charlie PFId#21093290)



{Please keep in mind a dog is a lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care,training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

*If you want to be apart of "Woof Wednesdays" email Lauren at [lcairdo@gmail.com] or leave a comment! We would Love to bring you on board!

Penn State

As I attended Penn State for many years while an undergraduate college student I feel the need to talk about what has been splashed all over the media. 

I am disgusted and saddened by what has happened as a result of former defensive coach Sandusky, my heart goes out to the victims.  And feel a host of emotions, predominantly anger towards every individual that has seemingly looked the other way or chose not to get involved.  Also for the way the whole thing has been handled.  Why it is just all coming out now is a mystery in itself.

 What infuriates me even further is the media's role in basically focusing solely on Joe Paterno. And not always providing accurate facts or accounts. How did we as a our society become so quick to judge others.  What happened to living in a Democratic society  where people are innocent until proven guilty?

Kids are protesting because Joe Paterno has been more then just a football coach to anyone who attends Penn State, he is Penn State for many. And they are upset because they feel all the blame is being shouldered by him, when in reality the amount of people, coaches, school officials that knew the truth and didn't report it is staggering. They are feeling and expressing the unjustice they feel is taking place.  They want everyone held accountable not just a few.
Yes Joe Paterno should have done more, yes he should have went right to the police but he handled it as he believed he was suppose to.  He followed the procedures of the university for reporting such stuff.  Yes he should have followed up on it.  But there are many, many others who knew about this yet as well, only Paterno seems to be the focus of the lynch mob.  Letting so many other guitly parties remain in hiding.
Why are reporters not camped outside coach McQueary's house calling for his resignation?    He is the one that supposedly witnessed it first hand and never went to the police. Why did McQueary see a boy being attacked and just walk away?  Why did he not punch Sandusky in the face and do something to stop it the moment he saw it?   He should have been the first one fired!

Why did so many other people who are not even involved with Penn State overlook what they saw as well?   The Grand Jury report is filled with other people not even related to Penn State who saw inappropriate things yet no one reported anything either.  Which I provided a link to below. 
Even the police knew about Sandusky back in 1998, that's four years before the 2002 incident, and they didn't do anything either!  The police were properly notified back then but did nothing to stop this predator Sandusky.

 Everyone not just Paterno should lose their jobs over this. Bradley the interim coach has been there 33 years, how could he not know something.   Penn State needs to hold all football coaches, administration, and even board of trustees accountable by letting them all go and starting anew. That's the only way to get true justice for all the victims involved! 
What former coach Sandusky did was horrible the guy should be punished to the fullest extent of the law. 

It's also amazing how quickly some people are to blast Joe Paterno.  People who don't know the facts, haven't walked in his shoes, or  whatever else.  For over decades Joe Paterno and his wife have done so much for the community, the kids and many more.  He has been an outstanding coach who valued education and helping others.  It's amazing how all the good he has done will now be overshadowed by one mistake.  A mistake that many others, including the police even made.
The more details emerge, the more it's looking like the whole community knew about this guy's bad ways not just a few!

 Everyone of us can speculate as to what we might do in a situation, we all say we would report it right away, we all say we would confront the perpetrator, but again it's so easy to say or speculate what actions we would take, but until put into the exact situation it's impossible to know for sure.  Especially when we don't know everything surrounding the case, which no one may ever know. 
Let's take a look at the facts:

The first involves a charge that was brought against Sandusky in 1998, way before the 2002 incident.  Btw, this is the same year Sandusky stepped down as coach at Penn State.   The guy was a great coach but at only 55 he retired to never coached again.  Concidence or not?  Not to mention the charges were dropped and the DA has been missing ever since. Hmmmm.....

http://www.nbcphiladelphia.com/news/local/DA-Who-Never-Charged-Sandusky-Has-Been-Missing-Since-2005-133615093.html
Second here is the Grand Jury report:

Clearly more then Penn State coaches, saw things that were inappropriate yet never reported anything either.  Many of who have not been fired from their jobs.

http://media.nbcphiladelphia.com/documents/Sandusky-Grand-Jury-Presentment.pdf

So who knows what went through Joe Paterno's mind, and for all we know maybe some people in this case were scared or felt threatened if they did go to the police that happens all the time.  Just look at the missing DA, what really happened to him?   We live in a scary world, bad things happen, and many, many people are scared or intimidated to speak up.  It happens in mob trials and gang incidents, the witnesses refuse to tell police anything nor even go to the police.  Many a case gets thrown out because witnesses refuse to testify out of fear or whatever else. 

Yes we all need to speak up when bad things happen, but it's much easier said then done for some.   For example, there are many a case of sexual harrassment in the workplace where the victims and people who know about it are afraid to speak up for fear of losing their jobs.  We just cannot understand until put into that situation how difficult it can be, even though the decision seems easy from an outsiders perspective.

What happened was horrible, but what is even more horrible is when people, when our society turns their back on the bad and just lets it happen.   This stuff happens everyday and we need to stop it. 
Joe Paterno was definitely wrong but he is also the scape goat basically taking the fall for so many, many others at Penn State and in the community.  You cannot let him go without letting the other coaches go as well.  Yet somehow all the other coaches who knew something and did nothing remain as coaches.  Is that fair or just?  Anyone who knew something and didn't speak up should be gone! 

You may or may not agree with me, that's fine.  That's the best part of living in America everyone is free to their opinion.  And maybe before jumping to any conclusions, making judgements, or forming lynch mobs against people who don't speak up, maybe we should try to learn the reason behind it so it doesn't happen again.  And put better procedures into place in case it does.  And figure out how to better protect those who do speak up.

And here is a link to the Penn State University various athletic offices and coaches.  Let your voice be heard send emails or call letting Penn State know what you think and what should be done.  Speak up, let your voice heard!

http://www.gopsusports.com/administration/staff-directory.html














Monday, November 7, 2011

Monday Musings

This Monday I'm trying really hard to just understand life.  Let alone Mondays. ha

What appeared to start off a good day, turned into not such a great day.   An attack of vertigo has left me feeling rather down. Lately, I just feel like I've been on such a long journey with it.

I was working on a painting where I began to feel hints of dizziness coming on.  But it wasn't until I sat down to eat lunch, while watching tv, that it really seemed to come on.  Then the sensation like things are spinning comes on which is the worst feeling because it basically is incapicitating.  Seems no matter what I do that involves any kind of steady focus with my eyes makes the dizzy feeling worse.

Seriously, when will this just go away for good.   And what if it doesn't, what then?

It's moments like these that I just want to know why.  And how I can find some peace from it.

Friday and Saturday I got to spend some much needed fun time with my family.  Getting to play with my niece is so amazing.  It takes me back to those simpler times of childhood when we had not a care in the world, everything was just fun and full of happiness.  I love spending time with my niece because she reminds me to simply be in the present, enjoy the moment, laugh, play and whatever else.

Yesterday was just a good old relax on the couch, watch football day.  (though I must admit watching tv was rather hard at times it just made me feel off balance)  See what I mean?  Exactly why I am fed up with this dizziness and vertigo, whatever you want to call it.  In a house where my man watches tv 24/7 I need to at least be able to watch a little.

It's not an ideal way to start off my week.  So I'm trying mighty hard not to focus on the not so good feeling, instead to try and find those little things that can bring joy.  Like the fact that the daisy from the other day is still blooming outside.  Or the beautiful sunny weather.

Mondays aren't they grand!.








Sunday, November 6, 2011

Soul Sunday

"Life is not always what one wants it to be, but to make the best of it as it is, is the only way to be happy."

What a great thought to replenish our souls.  As why not learn to enjoy the little things, there are so many of them.  So many moments, or things we already have to be grateful for yet often go overlooked.  It's those small things we must look for especially during adverse or trying times. 


Life is always going to be filled with ups and downs.  It's finding happiness during those down moments that can make a world of difference.   It's by no means easy but it may just be worth it. 

Today just find something little that makes you happy, and simply cherish it! 


"The happiest people don't have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything."


Friday, November 4, 2011

Life Is A Mystery

Life is a mystery to be lived, not a problem to be solved.

Often times I find myself trying to keep that in perspective as I go along this journey of life.  During times of adversity it has been the hardest.  

As truth be told I'm a problem solver,  I like resolutions, solutions, and whatever else you want to refer to them as.  Guess to sum it up the "not knowing" in life drives me crazy.  As I'm sure it does many a person. 

So this whole dizziness thing I've been going through has practically created such apprehension and fear in my life because when I start really thinking about it....how no one knows the why or whats behind it.  How there are no perfect cures or antidotes to make it completely disappear.  Well all that simply sends me into a spiral of anxious and not so good feelings.   Sometimes the mysteries of life can be so downright frightful.

I must say "why me" at least a million times a week.   I just feel like I've been given a lot of adversity at times that I can't always wrap my brain around.   I already live with an arrhythmia that got diagnosed years ago but for which I have never truly come to learn to accept. (meaning it still scares me)  And so when this dizziness came along I thought noooooo.  And I kept thinking how is it one person can get afflicted with many health ailments when others might never experience even one.  Know what I mean?  

Oh I'm sure anyone going through any type of adversity shares many of the same feelings and thoughts.  And it's very hard to understand sometimes unless one has gone through it themselves or experienced it first hand.  But finding something positive in it all, learning to live life in spite of it, that is probably the hardest part.  As personally speaking I know I tend to dwell on the good times, and just keep screaming to the universe how I want them back.  How I just want to feel healthy, strong, normal, and independent again.  

And it's why I love quote so much because in essence not all problems can be solved that's a fact of life, one very hard to understand, but none the less true. That's what I try to remind myself to concentrate on living, worry less about fixing everything.  Isn't that what any of us can do during difficult times.... to simply try and live the best life possible.  Which many will roll their eyes at as it's much easier said then done.

Why do Fridays always seem to fill me with such deep thoughts.  Maybe because it's the weekend, and I feel the overwhelming desire to just let go of all the stuff I constantly dwell or stress about on a daily basis.  I just want to simply understand how to live the mysteries without worrying about solving them all.  Yeah something like that.  Whatever it is I love the quote. And I love this quote as well.....

It is worth remembering that the time of greatest fain in terms of wisdom and inner strength is often that of greatest difficulty. 




Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Woof Wednesday (Illinois)

Welcome to Woof Wednesday, please meet Belle a West Highland Terrier from Naperville, IL in need of a loving home.

Another sad story as a result of our country's poor economy.  Belle was surrendered by her owner with her 2 other dog siblings because they had lost their jobs and could no longer care for them. 

Imagine being given up by the only family you know, and having to leave your home because they can't afford you anymore?   Seriously we have to find a way to help not only these dogs but their families.  No one should have to give up their dog for such reasons.  Please if you know of a family who is struggling financially and you can afford to help, think about donating some dog food, toys, blankets or even helping with veterinarian costs.  Anything can help those struggling in these hard economic times.

Belle does have a little summer allergy that sometimes affects the fur on her legs, all the more reason why she needs a good home where she will get the loving care she needs.

Belle: West Highland White Terrier Westie, Dog; Naperville, IL

Belle
West Highland Terrier, 6.5 yrs old

A.D.O.P.T. Pet Shelter, Naperville, IL
    Phone: 630-355-2299



{Please keep in mind a dog is a lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, health care,training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

*If you want to be apart of "Woof Wednesdays" email Lauren at [lcairdo@gmail.com] or leave a comment! We would Love to bring you on board!

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Joy

"Even if there's only one small thing you can enjoy now, fill yourself with appreciation for that.  Find joy now, and joy will always find you. "

This daisy emerged from the  shriveled up leaves, wilted flowers and survived a chilly snowstorm.   If that isn't joyous to see on a chilly Fall day I don't know what is.   



Create joy.  Find happiness.  No matter how small or large.  Sometimes it has to be uncovered, others times it's simply there for us to feel if we let it. 


"Since you get more joy out of giving to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give. "

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