Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Choices


So at the early hour of six this morning my man and I got in a discussion about choices.  Now one must keep in mind the man's ideas usually tend to differ from the norm, he is that one individual that can skew a statistics chart. :)

Anyway, back to choices.  In his opinion I made poor choices out of college regarding career for which he feels continue to influence my present situation. (for which he informed me he does not feel sorry for)  For which I thought to myself I didn't ask you to feel sorry for me, just thought since we have been living together for many years now that he might find it in his heart to maybe help a little more.  You know instead of spending hundreds on a sports pool or other things, maybe donate a little more to our grocery bills or help me out with health insurance.  Isn't that what people who love each other do, they help each other when the going gets tough?  Anyway....

I'm surprised he brought up making poor choices considering his own poor choices he made in the past such as racking up numerous credit cards then never paying them, buying a luxury car too soon or various poor choices he made at former jobs that did cost him, and some I won't even mention.. Of course he would never admit he has ever made a poor choice and it's not something I even care to focus on until he has to point mine out. ha   I'm more a believer in what is done is done, how do we make the present the best it can be. And so....

My point unlike his is not to dwell and continually focus on past choices that cannot be undone, but to simply learn from those choices and try to make better ones in the future.  And we can always choose to start anew.

Let's face it, each moment of everyday we are all faced with choices...whether big or small.  Maybe sometimes we have what seems like a logical reason behind them, and maybe sometimes we are just follow our hearts.  Either way each choice has the power to not only affect the present but the future as well.

And in the present we never know if we are making the right choice or not.  Who even knows if there is such a thing as a right choice.  I mean how can we say a choice is right or wrong in the first place?

I know if I had not made some of the choices I did back after college, I probably would have never met my man.  And my incredible dog would probably not be in my life either.  Nor would I have learned all the things I have which have helped make me a better person.  And if one believes in a higher power then would not all our choices be leading us to where we are suppose to be and what we are suppose to be experiencing and doing?

The past is the past,  choices were made that led us to where we are and maybe there is a reason for it, maybe not.  But I don't think any of us are in the position to say we made poor choices because at the time I'm sure they didn't feel that way.  We all do what we think is the best, given what we believe and know at the time.  And we can only hope if we don't always make the right choices that we will at least meet people that will help us along the way to get to where we need to be.  That is the beauty of life.

One thing is for sure, no matter what choices any of us have made, right now we can all choose how we treat others.  And how we treat others should be an easy choice....with less judgement and more kindness, understanding, compassion, love, respect, giving, honesty, helping, and any other positive or virtuous word one can think of!




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