Monday, January 31, 2011

Monday Musings

Monday again....though this Monday has flown by.  The weather forecast here in the Philadelphia area is looking scary, guess this ice/snow storm is moving our way and it could bring a lot of ice.  Which could cause some very serious problems like power outages. So right now all we can do is hope for the best. 

And since this storm warning is in effect from tonight until early Wednesday evening, figured I better run all errands today. (mainly due to the fact our cars will probably get snowed in again)   My man has a really bad back, I have the heart issue, so shoveling is very difficult.   It is surprising too because we thought kids might come around offering to shovel for a little money, but there has not even been one.

Anyway, back to the errands I literally spent from 10 am to 4pm running around, and pretty much everyone else had the same idea because things were congested.  Our roads here are still not even quite back to normal yet there is snow everywhere.  Came home froze a bunch of chicken (touching raw meat is so gooey), mopped the floors, tried to organize the house, tried to move the snow on the driveway but it is still frozen solid even after putting salt on it, and took a shower (feels so good after a busy day).

We had a busy weekend, with maybe 5 hrs of sleep last night.  Not only did we go out to dinner like I mentioned in my post Saturday, but we went to a Sixers game last night. (free tix from my man's job)  It was full of fun though so missing a little sleep was worth it.  But I think we are both looking forward to just relaxing tonight.  ; )

Although, I think Angel wants to play...so batt em up it's time to play ball!
Mondays....Be happy. It is one way of being wise.


{waiting for the ball to be thrown}

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Let your Dreams

"Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions be louder than your words. All day, every day"

As you might know by reading my posts lately, I've been trying to live with more passion.   Not only that but trying harder to not just sit back but to make my dreams and desires more a reality.

So looks like the man has also been listening because last night we went out to dinner!  (for us that is actually a huge deal because it is something we rarely do, I mean we are talking many twice a year)   Usually we just make home cooked meals, in front of the tv.  Which is good but sometimes you need a night off to just relax, not have to cook/do dishes, and to focus on one another without the distractions of electronical things.
Lately I've been trying to suggest creating more such type days or nights.  You know good ole fashioned dates. 

Well let me tell you, dinner was awesome!  At first we could not decide where to go and some how came up with Fridays.  We both decided to get real meals, instead of just burgers.  The man got the sirloin/shrimp combo and I the petite sirloin.  Both got mashed potatoes, mine plain, his loaded with bacon/chees (which I highly recommend), and both meals came with fresh veggies. Can you say delicious??????

Honestly, the steak was cooked to perfection, the mashed potatoes mouth watering, even the veggies were perfect.  And we had the best waitress, who was extremely attentive and helpful. (being that I have an egg allergy eating out can be a little difficult)  I have never seen my man each as much as he did, even ordered dessert which he never does.  Peanut Buter pie, while I had some orange sherbet. (only thing other than Oreo pie without egg in it)  

Overall the evening was a success. Great food, fun conversation, and no distractions. (the man put aside his cell phone, promising only to check it if someone bought one of his game picks)   Honestly, it was exactly what we needed. 

And I think what I mentioned in that passion post of mine is true.  You have to try and create what you desire and/or feel you need.  You have to express how you feel.  If those things involve others as well you have to try to help them listen and understand as well.  And as the quote above says let your actions speak louder than your words at times too.

I'm grateful my man listened and understood what I was trying to express.  I'm grateful for our little dinner, it is amazing how little things can mean so much.  It was so great to have a night free of distractions! (well except each other, and the man when he is dressed up can be quite a distraction)  If only I had thought to take a few photos!  ; )


{very similar to what the meals looked like}








Thursday, January 27, 2011

Snow Passion


Live and work but do not forget to play, to have fun in life and really enjoy it.

So as I mentioned last week I want to bring more passion into my life.  You know more happiness and overall fun, with  little moments of laughter as well.

What better time to put it into action than this morning!

My man is funny in the mornings. He usually wakes up before me, has this whole little routine of making somewhat of a ruckus....starts with his alarm, then some loud yawning, tossing/turning, scrolling the blackberry,  and then stares at me to see if I'm awake yet so he can turn on the tv.  Like I've said before the man is glued to the tv!  But of course this morning is different because we are waking up to snow after blizzard conditions last evening.


So instead of getting annoyed at the tv, I decide to go create some passion.  (hey get your mind out of the gutter the man would never go for something like that first thing in the morning...nope he won't waiver from routine) haha  I'm talking about snow! 

I always had a passion for playing in the snow, and still do. Thought to myself what a perfect time to just go have a little fun.  So I got my camera, got Angel all bundled up in her little winter coat, and we went out in the snow to play!   What a surprise though because there was even more snow than I imagined.  Little Angel could not even walk until a path was shoveled for her. 



I looked at my car and it was barely visible.  What an amazing display of snow.  The street had not been ploughed, everything pretty much delayed or closed, and there was a beautiful, peaceful feeling to this snow covered morning.  So I jumped in the snow, and you know what.....had myself some moments of
simple fun!




Then the man decided to come out, but his playful side was not to be shown this morning...he meant business.  Usually in the past he would have just stayed home using the snow as a buffer but with this new job he seems to be turning over what appears a  new leaf.(which is great)  But maybe this once
 it wasn't the best time to be gun ho to go to work....trains,buses were all either cancelled or delayed, the street was not ploughed, poor road conditions, etc..  And so as he backs out of the driveway his car gets stuck in the street! 

By this time I was already in the house.  He calls me from his cell saying he is stuck and to come help shovel
him out as he can't even open the car door. (the snow was that high)  So there I am all 100 lbs of me trying to dig him and his car out. haha  It was hilarious, I could not stop laughing at what we must have looked like out there. (Though I don't think my man was as amused)  And I also tried to capture it on film, all I hear from him is stop taking photos get serious and dig. haha  Anyway, after 20-30 mins of digging and gunning the car we got it almost in the driveway. 


From there the man had to walk to the train station.  And then I finally notice what he is wearing and it wasn't winter attire. So off he went in loafers, and a spring type coat over his office attire.  Usually he wears a wool coat, and he even has stylish boots he could easily wear to work but nope my man sets off in a ft of snow looking like he just stepped out of a Ralph Lauren Spring Ad.  He had to be freezing and his feet icicles by the time he walked to the train through all that snow.  I guess his rationale was he didn't want to get his good wool coat or nice boots dirty.  And no he would not let me capture it on film. ; )

And I realized that my car is stuck too. (that is what we get for driving such low to the ground models)  My car sits so low I cannot pull into the steep sloped driveway without making a horrible scrapping sound, so I only do it when it snows.

What a morning. But I will say this....it was fun playing in the snow.  Definitely had some good laughs as well. And since I am snowed in think I may just go back outside to take more photos, maybe even build a snowman, because sometimes in life you just have to have fun, enjoy the moment, appreciate the beauty around you, immerse yourself in nature, engage your passion, and most importantly find happiness in those little moments!

In every real person a child is hidden that wants to play. 


Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Winter Wonderland

"Kindness is like snow, it beautifies everything it covers"

The Philadelphia area has become a winter wonderland, with another storm expected this evening.  This first storm was expected to go off the coast but instead it took a more inland path.  Surprising everyone as they peered out their windows this morning. To those who have to travel today it has made for very hazardous conditions, to those who got to stay home it made for some spectacular beauty to watch fall. 

If only everyone could have off when it snows such as this.

Sleet and snow mix is said to be moving in later this afternoon, followed by more snow.  So it should be interesting to see what happens.  N'easter storms can be unpredictable. But for now I am simply amazed at the beauty of this snow that has covered everything. If it is going to be cold there might as well be something pretty look at, right?

It really does feel like a winter wonderland! 





Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Dreamed Filled

"Dreams are illustrations....from the book your soul is writing about you"

So after just writing about my intense dreams over the weekend, they took hold again last night.

Oh my poor man....turns out he got no sleep last night because of it. (sorry baby)  I learned this morning that I was talking and screaming in my sleep. (no not once but at least 10 times)   Now I remember a few of my dreams but don't recall screaming in them.  (usually when I scream in a dream I tend to wake myself up and realize I'm screaming)  But nope last night was different.

I dozed off while watching tv, (and snuggling which was divine), and basically slept from 9:30 right through to this morning.  And honestly don't even recall waking up to take my glasses off.   Throughout my life I have not been that great of a sleeper, usually waking up before most and falling asleep after most.  So to sleep so soundly is a huge feat. He said he tried to get me to quiet down but I was in such a deep sleep didn't even hear that.  And of course my little girl was cuddled up smack against me this morning, so I guess my sleep babbling didn't faze her. (though she barks in her sleep quite frequently)

Anyway....like I said I do recall a few of my dreams....like being stuck on this really high roof of some huge house with my family.  So maybe I was screaming during that dream because I'm scared of such heights?   But that doesn't really explain the other moments that left me talking. 

What are dreams....

Yet again I'm left to ponder dreams, what they mean, can we control them, why are some so intense, while others can barely be recalled.   I believe that dream journal might be a fabulous idea to try!

"The best thing about dreams is that fleeting moment, when you are between asleep and awake, when you don't know the difference between reality and fantasy, when for just that one moment you feel with your entire soul that the dream is reality, and it really happened."


Monday, January 24, 2011

Monday Musings

Monday again.  Seriously, where do the weekends go?

Our weekend involved a lot of lounging. We were suppose to go to a family party but that got cancelled.  So a good portion was spent with the tv on, and the man with all his electronic gadgets. haha  I'm trying to convince my man that the tv running constantly can be a huge deterrent and distraction, not only to conversation but other stuff as well. Tv would not even be so bad if he could just relax (instead of trying to text, glance at this laptop for game scores, or flip) or even just vary our plans a little some weekends to include other activities.  I'd like to figure out a way to create a little more fun on the weekends.

Which made me think of something funny.  Two years ago while on a weekend vacation  to Florida, convincing him to go to the beach was incredily tough, he would have preferred to stay at the house working on his laptop picking and watching games.  In fact, the other people with us, and waiting on him actually said to me "is he like this all the time because I don't know how you do it". haha  And on a vacation to Barbados he actually wanted to come back to the room to watch tv at night, even getting him to go out to dinner wasn't easy. haha  So you see getting him to participate isn't an easy task.

I can be a homebody much like him, but I also think it is fun to do stuff from time to time too.  And so today I was just thinking of ways to create more fun, or things to do, but not spend a lot of money at the moment.
As I was thinking about it today while running errands at Walmart, spending more money than I wanted for common household products, it seems like not much fun or fun things can be done these days without spending money. 

 It is hard to do anything, let alone a date without spending what seems like a lot of money. (everything adds up so quickly)  Sporting events, movies, theater, museums, classes, vacations, eating out, etc..  Think about where your money goes.... it is something I took for granted before.  How spending $100 doesn't seem like anything when you have a good job. But when you don't $100 seems like a $1000.  Even hobbies like painting eat up a lot of money.  I was thinking of taking a few classes so I could at least learn new things while on my little hiatus, but upon pricing them I learned one would cost at least $450.  It's so crazy!

Maybe I should just buy a bunch of those dummie books and start teaching myself.   One thing I would really like to learn how to do is sew.  And I think that is probably done better in person, then just reading a book.  Books are good but actually doing something seems to make the learning process easier.

Anyway, I don't mean to complain this Monday.  Guess I'm just feeling a little down because now that I have all this time on my hands,....I don't have much money to do anything fun! 

So I need to find some ways to have fun, that don't cost money. (or at least don't cost much)  Any suggestions?

Saturday, January 22, 2011

What Is With My Dreams

Seriously, sometimes I have the most intense dreams.  The kind where it is hard to distinguish dream from actual reality.  That is how vivid, detailed, and very emotionally tense they can feel.  And I guess it's not something I would complain about really because for the most part they are rather enlightening and at times quite enjoyable.

I guess it is the sheer vividness and feeling that amaze me the most.  And even when I wake they can leave such an impression, and lingering feelings.

So last nights dream started off at a football game but that part wasn't as vivid, then we were at a blond woman's southern home, no idea who the woman was.  But it was a rather large party, in a beautiful house. That is where everything seemed to become so vivid and detailed.  A lot seemed to happened but I'll skip to the highlight.  None other then Tebow happened to be flirting with me.  I mean we are talking about the kind of flirting you do when enthralled with another. I could literally feel his desire in the dream.  And it seemed to go on for awhile.  Not a bad dream right? 

The interesting part is I woke up for a little, and when I fell back asleep I seemed to go right back into this dream scenario.  This time though it was the next day, woke up at the same house the party had been at, had an amazing breakfast with all these people I didn't know (it was amazing all the detailed conversation that went on) and then we were heading to golf, and you guessed it Tebow appears behind me all cheery, flirty, and wanting to golf with me. Of course, the loud music from my neighbors car idling next door awoke me.  Oh well, the dream was fun and happy....which is all that really matters right.  ; )

Not to mention those type dreams are better than the ones I've had where I'm running from huge Tidal Waves.  Of course, those can be interesting too because of the details in the waves, the emotions, and the various other people that show up in them. 

But that is why I say, what is with my dreams.  Seriously, the fact that they can have such an emotional feel.  And the detail sometimes are just amazing.  I just wonder what is behind dreams, you know?  Why do we dream?  Why do we dream of the things we do?  Do dreams have some kind of meaning?  Or are dreams just images, thoughts, information from our day or fantasies of ours playing out at night?

Maybe I should start a dream journal, leave a pretty notebook by my bed, and try to write whatever I can recall from the dreams the night before.  Might be interesting.


{Flavia Art}




  

Friday, January 21, 2011

The World's Happiest Countries

So as I'm reading the news today, this headline caught my attention.  And I was curious to learn not only the countries but the criteria that was used to rank them.  And thought it was worth sharing. 

The World's Happiest Countries

1. Norway
2. Denmark
3. Finland
4. Australia
5. New Zealand

The criteria, well it consisted of 89 variables sorted into 8 subsections: economy, entrepreneurship, governance, education, health, safety, personal freedom and social capital.

The United States came in at 10, with Canada at 7.

And it got me pondering....if I could live in any country, what country would I choose?   And I'm not quite sure.  I mean for the most part I find certain areas of our country gorgeous, but if I were taking in all the variables they used to compile this list....well.....would I choose another country?  I don't know.

And probably before I would even begin to create a list, I would want to explore each on my own first.  I've heard wonderful things about those that did make the top five and so I definitely would want to put them on a must see list, but to live, well that is different story. 

I enjoy warm weather, love the surf and sand, and we have always said we would head to a little island country like Barbados if we had to move anywhere.  Though I've always been curious about Australia and Italy, two places I have not had the opportunity to visit.   Definitely would want a country with beautiful countrysides and beaches, not overcrowded, low on pollution, good health care and economy, low crime, kind people.  Hmmmm....that's asking a lot right there! haha

Just something to ponder on this Friday.....

Think about it....if you could live anywhere, any country, where would you choose? 


{I loved this photo from the article so I'm including it as well}

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Passion

"Take your passion, and make it happen" - those are the words from the song and movie Flashdance. While the movie might not have been Academy Award stuff I believe it would at least be considered inspirational.  And so I looked up the word passion..... 

Passion: 1.any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling. 2. strong amorous feeling or desire  3.strong love or sexual desire  4. a strong or extravagant fondness, enthusiasm, or desire for anything  5. the object of such a fondness or desire: 6. an outburst of strong emotion or feeling 7. the state of being acted upon or affected by something external

Passion....yes I've decided my life is lacking it, or maybe I just need more of it!  

Because it isn't so much that it is lacking passion, more as if my passion seems subdued. As if I don't have the opportunity to express it as often as I may like. And at times have lost sight of the things that bring me passion due to the daily grind of life. And there are those days I have too much energy, or as I like to call it adrenaline, so maybe I also need to learn how to channel passion.

So I've decided that I'm embarking on a journey to bring more passion into my life. In all areas of my life: work, play, relationships, interests, you name it. ; )

"If there is no passion in your life, then have you really lived?  Find your passion, whatever it may be. Become it, and let it become you and you will find great things happen for you, to you and because of you."

So the key is understanding what I am most passionate about in life. And in what moments do I feel most passionate?  Or bring me the most happiness?  Because essentially passion, happiness, energy, love, they are all related.

"If you have ever felt such tremendous enthusiasm and desire for something that you would gladly spend all your waking hours working on it, that you would happily do without pay, then you have found your passion."

So with that in mind I'm going to simply write whatever comes to mind that makes me happy, because whatever makes one happy usually ignites passion as well.  At least I think.

* Painting/Creating/Designing
* Gardening/Flowers/House Plants
* Beach/Ocean/Seashells
* Affection/Love/Kisses/Hugs/Snuggling
* Dogs
* Books/Reading/Learning/Knowledge
* Travel
* Outdoors/Warm Weather/Sunny Days
* Cooking/Trying New Recipes
* Photography
* Helping Others/Trying To Make A Difference/Wanting To Make The World A Better Place
* Golf/Mini Golf/Chip And Putt
* Good Conversation
* Shopping
* Inspirational Items/Books/Prayers/People
* Kind, Compassionate, Honest, Loyal, Non Judgemental, Understanding, Drug Free, Loving People.
* Board Games, Video Games, Tossing A Football, Shooting Hoops
* Laughing, Silly Moments


But having wrote that the next step is trying to incorporate those passions, that enthusiasm, those loves into daily life. That is the hard part. And sometimes passion isn't always readily accepted by those around us, by individuals, by workplaces, by society. As I have come across many a people and/or environment that have a tight, repressed, quiet, lacking any kind of passion mentality.

"Passion is to kiss or to hug and to prove that action speaks louder than words."

"'Passion' a word which involves so many feelings; I feel it when we touch, I feel it when we kiss, I feel it when I look at you. For you are my passion, my one true love."

When I read such quotes I know I somehow need to incorporate not only more passion into my life but my relationship as well.  I want and need to have more affectionate moments....more kisses,hugs, and love.  To be able to express my passion when I feel it. Embracing in kisses that go beyond a peck, big  warm bear hugs, and sizzling snuggle moments.  And in general to create more loving energy! 

Just writing this post is making me feel energized but where to begin is always the key.  How to stay on track with the idea.  How to really bring more passion to every day.  How to incorporate more passion into our life together.  How to find a job I'm passionate about.  How to maintain passion on a consistent basis.

So let's see if like the song says I can make the passion happen!  ; )


Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Woof Wednesday

Welcome to Woof Wednesday it is my pleasure to introduce you to Angus.

Little Angus has spent his whole young life breeding and has had very limited contact with humans.  In fact, he is still somewhat scared of it. So this little guy needs a very patience and understanding family to adopt him.  As he will need to be house trained and still needs to be neutered.  He appears to have a friendly, good disposition, would do well with a similar dog, and prefers a house with kids over five. 

Please let's find a family for Angus, so he can understand what it means to feel truly loved and have a real home!

(Note: many breeding dogs that have been rescued have not  been treated humanely, they live in small quarters where they can barely stretch their little legs, they have to poop in their own crates, and their whole lives are spent locked up being breed over and over again.)  So to find a home for one of these dogs is like opening up a whole different world to them, one they never knew existed. 


Angus
Between 2 and 4 years old, 20 lbs.
Contact: ewilsonj@hotmail.fr.  Small Dog Rescue, Princeton, NJ



Please keep in mind a dog is a lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, healthcare,training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}

*If you want to be apart of "Woof Wednesdays" email Lauren at [lcairdo@gmail.com] or leave a comment! We would Love to bring you on board!

Monday, January 17, 2011

Monday Musings

Monday and a holiday!   Though some days I wonder if many people even give the holiday a thought, or does having the day off overshadow the whole meaning of the day?  Just a thought....

And I was going to do my normal Monday Musings about the weekend and whatever else but it just doesn't feel right on such a holiday. 

Instead I'd like to say this because I think we all need to sometimes reflect.  "I Have A Dream" is an amazing speech, one that continues to inspire today.   Martin Luther gave hope to our world, he provided us with inspiration, and was a strong believer in non violence.   He was a follower and strong believe in the teachings of Gandhi as well.  He wanted a world where people will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.  Where the saying "all men are created equal" would really mean such. 

Sadly, I don't think our society has come far enough in those regards.  There is still way too much prejudice, judgement, and overall division in our world.   And I wonder what it will take for people to all come together.  To live in a world free of hate, free of prejudice, free of judgement, free of violence,etc.

How do we create a world in which all people are regarded as equal?  A world where differences are cherished not looked down upon?  How do we create a world based on peace not violence?  How do we create a world filled with more people like Martin Luther and Mohandos Gandhi?

This Monday let's remember that this world can be whatever we make it! 

Here are two of my favorite Martin Luther King quotes. 

An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.

Saturday, January 15, 2011

Atlanta Falcons

Big day for Matt Ryan, or as I like to refer to him as my Matty "Ice" Ryan. haha   Yes when my boy came out of Boston College and got drafted to Atlanta, well let's just say I became a Falcons fan.  (given my loyalty to Penn State I could never root for Ryan back in the college days.)  Though my fondness for both him and even Tebow ran deep. (that's a whole other post though) haha 

And even though I'm from Philadelphia, I lost interest in the Eagles years ago when they signed McNabb and brought on Reid.  Not to mention the new addition of Vick.  (sorry those type players just aren't going to have me rooting for them)  Guess you could say I have more loyalty to certain players then so called teams.  Even though with all the trading that goes on now, how can any team be a real team.  Know what I mean?   But just once I'd like to see Philly get a quarterback like Ryan, Peyton, Brady, or even Tebow. 

So I was lost for awhile, felt I had no real team to get behind, to vest my passion in, until Matt Ryan came into the NFL.  (besides Philly happens to be Ryans hometown)

Say what you will but my boy is coming into his own as a NFL quarterback....he has even been compared to John Elway.  And the Falcons have turned into quite the team they have a very involved owner, and great coach in Mike Smith.

So today is a big game for Matty Ryan as they go against the Green Bay Packers for what could be a very interesting, and very hard fought battle.   And all I can really say is.....

GO MATTY RYAN!  GO FALCONS!

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Magic Of Snow

Snow brings such a magical feel.  The airy white flakes that often look like feathers falling, blanket the ground in such an amazing pure white color, which glistens like diamonds under the sun.  If one is lucky enough to be able to stay home, to enjoy the beauty, and to watch with awe as it falls....snow can be so pretty and soul soothing.

But to those who can't stay home snow isn't always such a beauty.  It is often overshadowed by the danger of the roads.  The danger of those who don't brush off their vehicles is always another big concern.  The cold temperatures and heavy shoveling that seem to take a toll on the body as well.

Snow in many ways is a huge reminder to take our time, slow down, and for workplaces to have a little heart and be more understanding on days like this.  So it is then that snow brings with it a variety of feelings and situations.  

If only everything could just close for a day, if only everyone could just sit back and enjoy the beauty, the fun that nature blossoms with in winter.  (and if only it wasn't as expensive to heat a home) 

Here is a glimpse of our snowing morning in the Northeast. 






Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Tech Detox

So while eating breakfast this morning I happened to flip on Regis and Kelly, Kelly happened to be hosting the show with her husband.  Who mentioned an article in the Wall Street Journal this morning entitled Your Blackberry or Your Wife.

Check it out here:  http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748703779704576073801833991620.html?mod=WSJ_Tech_RIGHTTopCarousel_1

I enjoyed the article because I have felt for a long time that technology can have a very detrimental affect on relationships of all kinds.  Within the article is this little excerpt, which people can compare themselves to, to see how their technology behavior may hurt their relationships.  And Kelly was saying how her hubby demonstrates many of those signs.

10 Signs Your Devices Are Hurting Your Relationships:
1. You can't get through a meal without emailing, texting or talking on the phone.
2. You look at more than one screen at a time, checking email while watching television, for example.
3. You regularly email or text, other than for something urgent, while your partner or another family member is with you.
4. You sleep with your phone near you, and you check your email or texts while in bed.
5. You log onto your computer while in bed.
6. You have had an argument with a loved one about your use of technology.
7. You text or email while driving.
8. You no longer go outside for fun.
9. You never turn off your phone.
10. When you spend time with your family—a meal, a drive, hanging out—each person is looking at a different screen.

So I sent this article to my man, who got rather defensive. haha  Of course because at least 9 out of 10 of those listed describe him!  

I often wonder why him and his friends don't focus more on their own lives. (seriously his friends will text while playing with their kids, out with their wives, watching games, they can't take poops without texting)   And no matter what we do....whether it be driving, shopping, sporting events, eating dinner, in bed, he is typing away.  And he cannot understand how I find it annoying/rude, not to mention dangerous at times.

Omg, maybe I am just too old school or something.  Maybe I should have grown up in the 60's. lol lol 

It is hard to have a conversation with someone that is engaged in a text conversation.  As a person texting is definitely distracted and their thoughts focused elsewhere.  There just has to be more moments that involve less technology!

"For all our constant connectivity, our electronic devices often keep us apart. Texting causes misunderstandings. Facebook makes us jealous. Television makes us too lazy or tired or distracted for sex. (Don't believe me? A few years ago, an Italian study showed that couples who have a TV in the bedroom have sex half as often as those who do not.)"

I could not have said it any better myself, in fact I smiled when I read it.  If it weren't for me asking that the tv be shut off to sleep, my man would keep the tv on 24/7.  (we can't even have a romantic moment without it on)  Seriously, trust me I know how distracting tv can be! haha

A friend of mine just took a vacation with her husband, they decided to leave all technology behind no phones, computers, nothing.  And while she said it felt unusual at first...she also said it was the best vacation they ever took.  That sounds perfect to me!!!!  

In fact, the whole idea of a tech detox, which they mention in the article, sounds like a great idea.

I myself am making a conscious effort to not spend too much time on the computer, to put my phone in
another room and leave it there, and to most importantly focus on the present moment, the people I'm with, and to try to enjoy those moments of life that technology just cannot give us. 

Such as the sunrises and sunsets, the taste of a delicious meal enjoyed with another, the energy of an arena filled with passionate fans, the enlightenment that having a real conversation brings, the joy of really laughing with others instead of typing lol, the feel of my dog snuggled against me who would much rather have my full attention, and so many more real moments that phones just cannot possibly touch.

So it also left me wondering.....how do we get people to become more engaged in their surroundings and less engaged on their phones. How do we get our partners, our friends, our family, to tune out their phones and tune into the moment? (just asking doesn't always seem to have a lasting affect)



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Monday, January 10, 2011

Monday Musings

This Monday I'm feeling rather tired.  For the past few weeks off and on let's just say my body has been off, had to take medicine which always seems to cause something else, blah,blah, honestly it left me feeling slightly annoyed, and overall yucky. (is that even a word)   Might not be a word but it fits here. haha  But you know how when something lingers it gets to the point it makes you feel that way? 

So after working on a variety of things this morning, running a bunch of errands, came home took a hot shower (it is freezing here) and gave myself a pedicure and manicure.  Funny but those little things can make a difference sometimes. 

My man cancelled my day yet again yesterday.  Which added to that feeling above today. (long story but we have this thing where we each get two days a week to call our own....where the other has to do what the other wants)   It really is a great concept in theory, but some weeks it is difficult to get my man motivated enough to adhere to it.  He loves his days but of course my days always seem to get slighted.  The only thing in life that is a guarantee with him is sports and texting on his blackberry.  (that's when I have to remind him to not be so tight or set in his ways) 

Anyway, last night I just gave up on hoping I might get my night and engrossed myself in a book!

By the way, I keep hearing people mention this book The Happiness Project.  Seriously I have seen more than a few people mention they are or have read it.  So I'm guessing I should check this book out.  

And tonight is the big college football championship game....Oregon vs Auburn.  Not sure who I really want to win but I guess I'm leaning toward Oregon.  I think it is more fun to watch a game when you have a team to cheer for.  Wish it was Penn State.  Have I mentioned I'm a Penn State fan!  ; )  

Actually I tend to be all over in my sports.....Penn State- College Football, Atlanta Falcons-NFL, Villanova - College Basketball,  Sixer - NBA,  Flyers - NHL, Phillies - MLB.  Think that about covers it.  But honestly anymore in this era of coaches/players moving around so much sometimes it makes it hard to follow just one team.

I used to be an Eagles fan, probably eventually will be again but after the whole Reid/McNabb era and then the whole Mike Vick situation I lost interest.  Started following the Falcons because Matt Ryan happened to be one of my favorite college quarterbacks and I liked the Falcons organization.  But of course then another favorite college quarterback of mine started playing in the NFL, Tebow soooo.  Anyway....now that I've gone off on a completely different tangent.

I must go and figure out what to make for dinner.  

Many blessings on this Monday.  And maybe,just maybe, it will be my day today!  ; )

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Bedroom Makeover

I've been meaning to share these photographs but got a little distracted with the holidays.  As you can see from the before and after photos there have been some changes to the bedroom.  Since we live in a  cottage type house, the goal was to give it a cottage and/or beach feel.

As you will notice, my man came through and bought us an amazing new bed.  I painted the walls a deeper, warm tone of beige.  (the first color I started with was too peachy as I imagined a more sandy tone)  Painting twice was a lot of work but worth it.  Framed some vacation photos, added a palm tree, a floral/stripe reversible comforter for which we got at a bargain price from Macy's, and went with some light blue curtains. 

We still are in search of a panoramic beach photograph for over the bed.  And need some larger, fluffier pillows to compliment the king bed,  a few more touches need to be done here and there to other parts s not visible in the photos, but overall it has come a long way.  There is a much better feeling to the room now.

Before



After


Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Woof Wednesday

Welcome to Woof Wednesday! 

Today I would like to introduce you to a special little dog named Frostie.   She was found in a park in Pennsylvania.   This little sweetheart is in need of a home willing to give her extra special love, as she suffers from a lung condition.   Maryland Westie rescue is willing to provide medical assistance for the remainder of her life. 

Please lets find Ms. Frostie a good home!


 Frostie
West Highland Terrier
Female, 10 yrs old


{Please keep in mind a dog is a lifetime commitment. They need attention, love and time just like we do. In addition, adding a pet to the family does cost money in the way of food, healthcare,training,etc. So before adopting make sure you are willing to make that kind of commitment and have the resources to do so.}


 
*If you want to be apart of "Woof Wednesdays" email Lauren at [lcairdo@gmail.com] or leave a comment! We would Love to bring you on board!

Monday, January 3, 2011

Monday Musings

"Dare to dream, then watch what happens "

Monday that dreaded word to so many.  When getting out of a warm bed, finding energy, and leaving the house seem like impossibilities.  But it is something we all have to do eventually. 

And this Monday my thoughts are directed toward the quote above.  Instead of  dwelling on the fact that the weekend is over, I'm going to do a little daydreaming.....

Such as sunny days, warm weather, miles of sand and crystal clear water.  One of my dreams has always been to live by the beach, which I did for a little during my days in San Diego and often times miss.  And now as I get older the dream has turned into wanting to own a small cottage by the beach.  Not only that but a house filled with love, where the heart feels at home.  And with family there to enjoy it.

This Monday let us all daydream a little.  For one never knows when a dream could become a reality!


Sunday, January 2, 2011

New Year's and Resolutions

Happy New Year!  First let me just say that I was wide awake, wanting to ring in the New Year with some fun.  We had no major party plans but to play some Wii and board games, which is fun in my book.   But of course the man turned into a party pooper.

After a few rounds of boogle my man was done, claimed he didn't want to play wii because he always wins. (even though he doesn't)   In fact I finally convinced him to play on New Years Day and I won all bowling matches, and came within 3 strokes of beating him at golf)  Take that baby!  ; ) 

Anyway....the party pooper was asleep by 11:30, so I watched the ball drop, and people in Time Square embrace in kisses, then glanced over as my man snored the night away.   Holidays just aren't his thing. haha  Although, he did try to make up for his lack of participation on New Years Eve by going out and geting some very pretty flowers on New Years Day! 

Which got me thinking.  It is time for some New Years resolutions, changes, whatever you want to call it.  And fun and laughter has to be at the center of them!   No more New Years laying in bed half asleep....come on we can do that any night of the week.  If he wants to stay home that is fine but fun has to be involved.  ; )

New Year's resolutions never really appealled to me.  For whatever the reason I always tend to become distracted from the lists or ideas I come up with.  Yet as I looked back on the resolutions I made last year I realized I actually fulfilled at least half.  Not bad, especially since I had not ever gone back to review them until now.

So I figure might as well make another list.  Actually maybe I should make two lists....one for me and one for the man.  This could be interesting right! 

Mine:
1. Incorporate more passion into all areas of my life.
2. Pray everyday. Show gratitude more often.
3. Say I love you more often.
4. Read at least two books a month.
5. Find or create a job I love, one that pays well too.
6. Be more creative.
7. Laugh often, have more fun.
8. Spend less, save more.
9.  Relax, have more patience.
10. Help others. Find a way to help more dogs find loving homes.
11. Be happy. Try to not let others moods rub off on me. 
12. More affection.


The man:
1. Show love and gratitude often.
2. Help around the house more. (dishes would be great or cleaning bathroom) haha
3. Show kindness, understanding, compassion.  Have patience.
4. Spend quality time together .
5. Laugh more, don't be tight.
6. Communicate. Talk.  Be more open and honest.  Choose positive words.
7. Step away from tv, lap top, blackberry, engage in activites or try new things together.
8. Take care of yourself.  Be good to your body. 
9. Cut down on texting while we are driving, shopping, at games, eating, etc., concentrate on the moment at hand. (those friends will always be available to text later) 
10. Don't judge others as quickly.11. More affection. (Show affection more often, have more loving moments between us. Do away with the pecks and replace them with juicy kisses.)

 
 
Most important to have fun! 
 
"Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be needed."



"The secret to happiness is not in doing what one likes to do, but in liking what one has to do."



I've put it out into the universe now let's see what happens! 


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