Wednesday, April 28, 2010


Some weeks I'm really good about writing and some I fail miserably. haha   There has been a lot going on in my world recently, enough so that I just haven't had a moment to really put my thoughts concisely on paper. 

You know what I mean?  There are those moments where I have almost too much to say, too much I want to write about, and so my thoughts end up randomly disheveled.

Today I just want to comment on a few things.  A couple blogs I followed have recently decided to become private, which can be good or bad..  And ironic that they would all seem to decide at the same time to go private. 

 I can definitely understand where they are coming from because in writing a blog we often times share very personal information that we might not want everyone out there reading, because in essence you never quite know who is reading a blog.  To share personal details with the world, and even to share pictures can be scary at times. 

On the other hand sharing it publicly has the ability to reach a broader audience allowing their blogs to be read by more.  And some of these blogs are down right great and it's great for them to be out there for people to read.  But the privacy issue is a big factor and it's hard sometimes when you do write a blog because often times it can be read by people you don't want too.  Or bloggers recieve comments they wish they had not.because let's face it not everyone shares the same point of view and not everyone is nice about it. 

So that being said I have to admit that their going private has me wondering somedays if I should do that too.   Then I could really dish right? lol   We'll see for now I like sharing my thoughts with everyone but who knows that can change daily.

Second, I'd like to comment on the news.  Lately I just have felt very discouraged by all the negative news we seem to encounter whether it be on tv, online, or in the papers.  It really has left me wondering....Are there any nice people left?  Is anyone loyal or faithful?  Does anyone tell the truth?  Do men and women have any morals or values left? Will this country ever unite to do whats best for our citizens?  Or better yet will this country ever listen to what the people really have to say or think?   Will our economy ever improve if we give money to banks only to have them spend it on big bonuses and vacations?   Why are all the top news stories so depressing?  Why does no one seem to know how to drive or the rules of the road?   These are just some of the questions that fill my mind when I hear or read the news each day.  Someone please....start a positive newspaper or news network on tv!

Third, somedays I think about turning my blog into some kind purely inspirational blog which I think would be fun to write.  Though I need an outlet to express my opinions too.  Which is why I call this blog about my world because it really is a hodge podge of stuff.  Then again it reflects my personality because I tend to be interested in such a variety of things that to create just a blog about one topic would be difficult for me.  Ask my man sometimes I am just all over the place in conversation.  ; )

Fourth, I hope in somehow writing this blog I do help others or make others think. 

Try to have a great day!  (and to do that you should probably avoid listening to the news and driving)

Friday, April 16, 2010


Recently, a friend had some great insight.  Explaining how I'm very soulful, intuitive and basically feel deep down with my emotions.  And about how I am passionate about everything I do and want others to recognize it and feel the basically give all I give.  You know was really accurate!  

And I think that when I don't feel those things are returned in the same fashion or form I tend to feel hurt, stressed or upset.  

That is when I need to remind myself that, that is the beauty of life, we are not all the same and those differences are what help us each learn and grow.  To become better souls, or at least try.

There is no doubt I tend to be a very soulful person, to think with my heart and often deep in thought.  I just want people and the world to be the best they can be.

I'm always daydreaming of a world that would have no bad but only good.  You know....good souls,  good hearts, good intentions, unconditional love, compassion, kindness, where people live in truth, honesty respect, and love for each other and life.

So for today I thought the perfect blog would be to leave you with these words from another soulful thinker......


It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today

Imagine there's no countries

It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people

Living life in peace

You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one

Imagine no possessions

I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people

Sharing all the world

You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity,
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Big Brother

So today my man is going to audition for the reality show Big Brother.  They are holding local audtions in Philadelphia.  He went to try outs last year too.  It's definitely not something that thrills me.

At 34, I can think of more important things to be focused on then getting on a reality show.  A reality show I might add that will have him sequestered for 100 days in a house in Los Angeles.  With absolutely no contact with the outside world, including me! 

And on top of it what made me feel left out is he didn't want me to read his application.  Really? The questions they ask on these reality show applications are very personal.  And I feel he should share that with me because it could be read on tv.  Isn't that the point of being in a relationship?  Anyway...he did finally let me read it.

Anyway....It just makes me feel very disconnected from him when he does stuff like that.

Overall, it makes me wonder....why would he want to subject himself to that?  Or be okay with being away from us for months with no contact? 

The implications would be huge....we would have to give up our apartment, store all our furniture, I'd have to find a place to live for 3 months, no income would be coming in for him, basically our whole life we have built would be overhauled because of some reality show?  That just would not sit well with me at all.   Is CBS going to pay our rent for those 100 days, no I didn't think so.  Something of this nature should be a joint decision because of it's affect on both lives. 

Oh I know.  Your thinking but what are his chances of making it, he's very lucky trust me.  If anyone could get on this show it's him. 

Guess I just wish my man would focus on something that would include both of us, something that has more meaning.  Like working towards a house, finding a town we both would be happy living in, starting a business of our own, fixing his credit, giving up smoking... rather then using all his energy on trying to make it on some reality show.  Can anyone relate?

I don't mind people going on shows like Jeopardy, Wheel of Fortune, Who Wants To Be A Millionaire because they are more catered to winning money based on intelligence not backstabbing, walking around half naked, and game playing like Big Brother and Survivor involve.  I would hate to see my man on tv being made fun of, or worse get being backstabbed by other contestants it would stress me out to see someone I love being treated like that. 

Not only that, but how would you feel if your partner was in a house full of people who run around shirtless(men) and/or bikinis (women) all day...who have no form of entertainment allowed but themselves?  Call me insecure but I just don't need to see my man sequestered in a house 24/ hrs a day for 100 days straight with big breasted women running around in bikinis.  Guess I'm just too old to want to deal with that kind of crap.

How would you feel if your partner decided to try out for a reality show where they would be sequestered for months, with no contact whatsoever?  To me that is the real issue the not being able to communicate with the one you love, and the effect it would have on our daily lives.  Alot can happen in 3 months and I wouldn't want to think we missed certain moments of  because of some reality show.  

Would really love to hear others opinions on this.....

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Dependability is really something I seem to desire more and more lately.   I just want to be able to depend that when others give their word, or even make plans I can count on it to be true.  Know what I mean?

It's one of the best feelings in life.  Knowing someone has your back, knowing you can depend on another no matter what the situation, knowing that anothers word can be counted on to be trusted and true. 

Ever have people in your life who constantly say one thing, yet do another?  Those are the type people you come to trust less and less, and rely on less and less.  You know that somehow no matter what they say....well it can't be taken literally or even trusted.

And why is it some people are so dependable and trustworthy, yet others aren't at all.  Are we born that way or do we learn it somewhere along the way?

Maybe trust or honesty could be thrown in the mix here too, but I think it comes down to dependability or maybe accountability?

Whatever is it....I think it's nice to know there are people in our lives that we can depend on.   It's just a good feeling knowing you have people who mean what they say, uphold their promises and/or word, and can be trusted to always be counted on. 

That's my thoughts for this Sunday.  What do you think?

Friday, April 9, 2010

One Of Those Weeks

So it's been one of those weeks over here.  I've been very appreciative of the warm weather, though today a cold front moved in and we went from 88 to 60.  With the wind it feels down right chilly!

There's still a lot on my plate at the moment.  Trying to figure out how to land the job of my dreams, or even just how to get a job I love in this bleak market has been exhausting.  To be honest it's hard to even look for a job when I'm not sure where we will be living.  As I mentioned before, I would like to live closer to my sister and family.  He still seems to be stuck on this area we live in now. Ugh. 

Another man is still smoking.  He promised he was going to quit January 1,2010.  According to him he wanted to quit and felt it was a good time.  Well that lasted maybe two weeks.  Now he once again is smoking throughout the day and night.  I'll admit I am very disappointmented because he has all these back pain issues and everything you read about it says smoking can make it worse, if not actually cause it. 

And to top it off a personal family crisis of some sort has arised.  It has been unsettling and upsetting to my family. It's amazing how life can take on a whole new perspective within a matter of a few hours. 

The Masters is on this weekend, something I enjoy immensely.  Though I'm not happy you know who returned for it.  Never cared for him as a golfer.  This weekend will be spent watching that in the late afternoons, and maybe take the dog to the park for a day.  We'll our household nothing is really planned until the last minute. 

Does anyone else like the Masters?  Who is or are your favorite golfers? 

Hope you all have a great weekend.  Go Poulter, Els, and Scott!

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Optimism a powerful tool.

When we create a vibrant image of good things surrounding us, it is much more likely that our reality will follow suit.

Think good thoughts.

Monday, April 5, 2010

Monday Musings

Monday already?  Where, oh where do the weekends go....

Holidays weekends seem to go even faster. 

So.... our Easter was filled with lots to do.  The weather was absolutely gorgeous and warm for this time of year.  There have been Easters when it snowed in Pennsylvania, so the fact that is was in the mid 70's and sunny was something to celebrate in itself.  And I might add the weather made it quite hard to stay in and get what needed to be done for Easter, as we both wanted to be outside.

Saturday was basically spent preparing for Easter.  Cleaning, laundry, and some baking of desserts.  Although, the baking didn't really start until night because during the afternoon we took a little trip to play Chip N Putt.  For anyone that might not be familiar with Chip N's basically a smaller version of a golf course.  Usually the holes are 100 yards and under.   After two rounds, a day spent in the sun, we were feeling a little tired, although we did muster the energy to come home and make homemade pizza!

So after dinner the baking of desserts for Easter began, and let me tell you by the time 11 o'clock rolled around I was just plain wiped out.   Definitely over did it Saturday.

Sunday woke up early to prepare the turkey.   It was a mix of both our families.  My dad could not make it because he was stuck working and it was my sister and brother in laws year to spend with his family.   So it was a smaller group this year.  And I definitely missed seeing my niece, family parties are always so fun when she is around.  But I was so happy my mom came even though my dad had to work.  And my man was happy his mother and sister came so thats all that really matters right.

We live about a hour from them, and the drive isn't all that easy. 

Anyway....dinner turned out better than I expected.  Turkey, roasted potatoes, grilled asparagus, buttered corn, and warm bread.  Chocolate cake, white chocolate chip cookies, and rice krispies for dessert.  The hardest part of cooking is getting all the food to be done at the same time.  Angel loves the cookies and rice krispy treats....she gets so excited when you even touch the plate they are on.  Oh and I found this great homemade ranch dip, no msg or preservatives, you simply mix it with sour cream.  It had a great taste.

The day went so quick though.  Why is it days with family and loved ones seem to go by so fast? 

Seems like we spend all our time working and not enough time with the people who mean the most to us, or for that matter doing the things that mean the most to us.

These tulips were my Easter present from my man and for that I was very thankful because I love flowers!  Hope everyone had a spectacular Easter!

Saturday, April 3, 2010


"If you keep a green bough in your heart, the singing bird will come."

The quote above comes from my daily desk calendar, feeling like it had a great message to convey I decided to google it.  And in doing such came across a wonderful article about cultivating a spirit of abundance.   It seemed perfect for this holiday weekend so I thought I would share it.

Laurence G. Boldt has spent almost two decades helping people achieve their dreams. In The Tao of Abundance, he charts a path to prosperity by applying ancient wisdom to modern life and he addresses a deeper experience of abundance than can be known simply by amassing material goods. ''Feelings of abundance are a natural state for humans,'' says Boldt. ''We just have to be aware of how we are resisting this natural state and learn to cultivate a spirit of abundance in our lives by celebrating the gift of life with joy and thanksgiving.''

The insight that Boldt shares comes out of a holistic approach that addresses the entire issue of the quality of life, and is not limited to financial success. ''You have to appreciate that the world is for you, if you're open and willing to receive it. It's for you, it is you, and with you.'' 

The true meaning of abundance. The word abundance is commonly used to refer to financial wealth, but when Boldt uses this word he is talking about overflow. ''If we have a rich inner life and we experience everything in life as inner fullness rather than inner lack, then we have abundance.''

Boldt sees that money can free us or it can enslave us. It cannot give us the spirit of innocence and wonder to help us appreciate the simple things in life. ''So often people who lack money think that their only problems are financial,'' says Boldt. ''At the time I wrote The Tao of Abundance, we were hearing about unprecedented wealth and yet so many people were not having the experience of abundance.'' And although it can give us the power to make a difference in other people's lives, money cannot give us the desire to do so. ''Money can just as easily make us more jaded, escapist, selfish, and lonely.''

If we are spending all our efforts in obtaining money, then we are paying too high a price. Boldt writes that we should remember that:

Money should not cost you your soul.

Money should not cost you your relationships.

Money should not cost you your dignity.

Money should not cost you your health.

Money should not cost you your intelligence.

Money should not cost you your joy.

The psychology of lack.
''People who believe in lack are more likely to become lackeys for those who would manipulate them for their own purposes,'' says Boldt.

Those who feel a sense of lack are often not struggling with the lack of material things. It is ''a lack of ease; a lack of energy; a feeling of powerlessness and blocked expression; a lack of harmony and connection in relationship; a lack of time to be, grow, and relate; and a lack of opportunity to fully appreciate and celebrate the beauty in life — that gives a sense of deficiency to our existence.''

This feeling of lack, Boldt feels, develops with the formation of the individual ego, which creates a sense of separation, and incompleteness. As a result, we develop a need for mental, physical, and emotional attachments. All this leads us away from a natural state of abundance, which flows naturally from the Tao, the way of life.

The Eight Principles of Abundance

In The Tao of Abundance, Boldt describes the eight principles of abundant living, using English translations of Chinese terms that express the essential meaning of the Chinese word but are not a direct translation. The Taoist principles that he examines provide powerful tools for understanding the psychology of abundance. He compares the way of the Tao to its opposite, the Way of the Ego, which keeps us in a state of lack.

Principle 1: Wu-ming — The Unity of the Nameless Tao

You start on the path of true abundance when you recognize the unity in all things. Separation of the ego from the Tao creates a lack of connection and alienation and keeps us from abundance.

To trust the nature or Tao of life does not mean that we should go around seeing through rose-colored glasses. It does not mean that we are to trust that people will always be kind, considerate, sensitive, and caring in their dealings with us. It means that we can trust people to be people, capable of the worst kind of cruelty, ignorance, and indifference as well as the most sublime beauty, compassion, creativity, and joy. ''To blindly trust in the goodness of people or to cynically trust in their badness — each is equally simpleminded.''

When we believe in the unity of all things and learn to trust the Tao, we believe that the universe wants to hold us up, not pull us down. This is because we are the universe and we can trust in the organic processes that are manifest in the natural world.

Principle 2: Tzu-jan — Nature/Receptivity of the Tao

When we learn to receive we open the door to our greatest good. Attachments, on the other hand, are the way of the ego and keep us from spontaneity and inspiration.

In order to receive the abundance of nature, we have to develop innate receptive capabilities. ''A skilled martial artist responds to what his opponent is actually doing, not to what he thinks his opponent will do. By fully receiving his opponent, becoming one with him in spirit, the martial artist effortlessly and spontaneously responds to his opponent's every move. In the same way, we respond spontaneously and naturally to life when we are fully open and receptive to it.''

Boldt notes that our ability to receive is just as important as our ability to give. But if our giving has ulterior motives, then it is a form of manipulation and is self-serving. When genuine giving flows naturally from us, then we have no sense of doing good or trying to be virtuous.

Principle 3: Wu-wei — Ease of the Tao

If you follow the path of least resistance you will have success with ease. If you follow the path of ego you will experience lack of ease, tension, and stress.
The Taoists advise us to be like water, which takes on the shape of all things, while keeping its own innate power. When we are free of attachments, we are fluid and flexible, and are able to respond with spontaneity. We can avoid using unnecessary energy when we visualize things in our mind, before we take action. When we let go of the past, and stop reliving old traumas or successes, we can open the gates for even greater success.

As the Chinese proverb goes, If I keep a green bough in my heart, the singing bird will come. Ease comes to us when we recognize the unity in all things, respect the way of nature, and honor the intuitive voice. It comes to us when we celebrate life and count our blessings.

Principle 4: Ch'i — Flow or Joy of the Tao

When energy moves in our lives, it creates wealth, improves relationships, and maximizes health. When the ego feels resentment, then there is a lack of energy, and little zest for life.

Boldt explores the attitudes and techniques that help keep energy flowing freely in our lives. ''Circulation is as important to financial health as it is to physical, mental, and emotional health,'' says Boldt. ''When you increase circulation you increase wealth.'' Material abundance comes by focusing on giving of our innate gifts. It is important to believe in our gifts and to have faith that they will be valued in the world. 

According to Boldt, there are ten steps to cultivating Ch'i.You must:
be cheerful,


move your body,

rest your body,

master your emotions,



spend time in nature,

eat well, and

cultivate an awareness of your surroundings.

Principle 5: Te — Power and Dignity of the Tao

The way to authentic power is through actualizing our natural abilities. When the ego craves approval, there is lack of power and inner direction.

In his exploration of the natural power that results from living in the Tao, Boldt discusses the importance of following your destiny, which includes doing your life's work and maintaining a way of life that is naturally yours. Preserving our innate power is not easy in a commercial society, which encourages conformity and robs people of their innate dignity. ''For what will you sacrifice your Te?'' Boldt asks. ''Will you lose it because you fear offending others and find it easier to conform? Will you trade it for money or fame, for lust or ambition, for cheap thrills or empty promises?''

A passage from the Bhagavad-Gita says, ''A man's own natural duty, even if it seems imperfectly done, is better than work not naturally his own even if this is well performed. ... Therefore, no one should give up his natural work, even though he does it imperfectly.''

In Zen and the Art of Making a Living and How to Find the Work You Love, Boldt deals at great length with the subject of how to find our life's work and make a living out of doing the things we enjoy. He also provides useful charts at the end of The Tao of Abundance to help us understand the path we should take to realize our inborn destiny.

Principle 6: Yin/Yang — Harmony of the Tao

The way of the ego is competitive hostility and envy. Peace of mind is found through the balancing of opposites.

When we live in the ego, duality is a battle. ''The ego lives in a black and white world, marked by sharp divisions between right and wrong, good and bad, and so on.'' When we live in the Tao, we experience the world as a dance of the complementary energies that are called yin and yang. ''As we learn to reconcile the seeming pairs of opposites in our lives, we develop a new relationship with the duality of the universe.''

Synchronicity is the spontaneous realization of the underlying interconnectedness of all things. Boldt quotes Heraclitus, who wrote, ''The unseen design of things is more harmonious than the seen.''

Principle 7: Jen — Leisure of the Tao

Although we live in the most affluent country in the world, we are time poor. Abundant living has to include time for our mates and for our communities. It also has to include time to play, so that we can recapture the kind of exuberance for life that we may have known as children. We need time to experience a sunset or walk in the woods. We need the leisure to grow, since ''Leisure allows us to access parts of ourselves we might otherwise miss altogether.'' It also provides us with the time to sort through our personal and social conditioning so that we can begin to find our true path.

By exploring the social and psychological dynamics that contribute to a sense of ''time poverty,'' Boldt offers suggestions in how to increase our leisure time. In his work as a career consultant, Boldt found that by creating leisure time for creative self-expression, some of his clients were able to discover their true calling in life. Many people left old careers and segued into more fulfilling jobs as a result of utilizing their leisure time to find out more about their true desires.

Principle 8: Li — Beauty of the Tao

An abundant life is rich in beauty, which nourishes our souls and is necessary for our spiritual growth. There are daily opportunities to participate in the beauty of life, when we may recognize life as a gift. ''This feeling of gratitude can only come from identifying with the energy of life. If you try to force it from the mind — telling yourself that you should be grateful — you'll get stuck in the pair of opposites.''

We can become more sensitive to beauty by bringing touches of nature into our living space and work space, by putting increased care and attention into the details to the things we do and make, by radiating cheerfulness and love, and by sharing wisdom when it's appropriate. ''The way of art,'' writes Boldt, ''both in its perception and its expression, is the revelation of the transcendent Mystery.''

Visualizing our connection to the natural abundance of the universe.

Through the use of affirmations and visualizations, Boldt helps people set aside their limiting beliefs and embrace those that affirm our connectedness to all of life. Some powerful affirmations include:

The universe is for me and so is everything else.

The energy is now flowing freely in all areas of my life.

I am at one with the dual forces in nature.

I live in beauty and beauty lives in me.

Friday, April 2, 2010


So today I wanted a distraction from all the drama I have been feeling the past few days.  Life has a way of doing that, just when I think things are the way they should be life throws me a curve ball.  It's quite unbelievable sometimes as it seems to occur more often when I give my trust to another.

For today I needed to distract my mind so we took the dog to the park.  Much needed.  To be honest I could have stayed there all day just laying in the sun.  The sun is the only thing that seems to be able to relax me, I think it's the warmth of the light or something. 

Angel was in her glory in the park.  Strutting around, greeting people, and getting lots of attention.  I love when she gets attention like that because it makes me happy to know she makes others as happy as she makes mes.  Dogs are like that though they are able to warm our hearts in ways even many people can't. 

I'm preparing to cook Easter dinner here so shopping is still on the list of things to do.  I'm thinking turkey and really hoping we can find some kind of deal on one.  As meat is definitely a bit pricey these days. 

The weather here is just spectacular for April.  Temperatures in the 70s usually don't start happening until May so this is nice treat.  And one to definitely take advantage of. 

Not to mention summer clothes are so much better then winter.  Being able to wear t shirts, shorts, skirts, and even dresses is  refreshing.  I much prefer my warm weather wardrobe over my winter. Speaking of which I have to share a picture of the ones I'm wearing today they are a favorite of mine.  Did I mention I'm a huge fan of plaid!  

Okay time to do some food shopping for the holidays.

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